So a couple of weeks ago, my husband suddenly starts a health kick. Wants to start eating more protein, press ups in the living room. I ask him what's brought this on and he says he wants to look better for me. I notice also his sex drive suddenly increases. We joke and I say something like "if I posted this online on mn or some advice page everyone would be convinced you are having an affair" we laugh. I have no worries.
Anyway, fast forward to now when he's mentioned it stings when he pees and he's got these ulcers on his penis. We have an appointment for tomorrow at a clinic.
Can this be a coincidence? Surely not? Sahm with baby so my life would very much implode
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Cheating or coincidence?!?
TheyAreMyBhunasPete · 23/04/2023 23:22
ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 23/04/2023 23:24
I read the first paragraph and thought "well why does that mean he's cheating?" But then I read about the scabby dick. Has he tried explaining that?
AP5Diva · 23/04/2023 23:27
A doctor should be able to tell if it’s something like dormant herpes (from years ago) or a new infection.
Shoelacesundone · 23/04/2023 23:30
Surely a spoof post.
RavenclawLuna · 23/04/2023 23:31
I'd get yourself checked as well. It sounds like he's a cheat. Hope I am very much wrong though.
Sittwritt · 23/04/2023 23:34
Well your life does not have to implode.
High chances he’s been having a fling. Very high. But it’s all about what happens next. MN will tell you to self combust and pack his belongings in bin liners and lock him out once it’s all out in the open. But it’s very much about whether he owns up, is truthful from that point in, highly remorseful and wants his family so badly. MN will tell you that once a cheater always a cheater. LTB etc etc. and if he was thinking of his family he would not have been sticking his d in another woman.
Perhaps the ulcers are his endearing way of being ready to come out to you. Perhaps he does not want a double life anymore. Perhaps he’s ready to face the music.
You can test him out with this but you have to hold yr nerve. Just say, I think it’s about time that you stopped pretending and told me the full truth, because as it is, there is more to this than you are letting on. Then silence from you. Long silence. You will hear him talk. If he denies it, keep quiet and just watch and observe. If he totally does not start to stumble perhaps walk away a little and say you are not prepared to spend your life with a liar. Games up.
Anyhow, should you LTB then prepare yourself for the real world of OLD with a shocking choice of just about the same talent as yr current hubby.
My advice is to work out who the help he is and then work out whether you can work with that.
Shoelacesundone · 23/04/2023 23:44
I'm sorry this is a real post but what are you possibly thinking that makes you want to stay with him? If it's financial I understand. But sadly I think he's experienced that men like him have options (why...God knows!!) With a certain set and he's not going to change. He's going to get more blatant. Put all your effort into your education, home, employability, parenting and looks. It's a very harsh world out there. Best to either work to get a much, much higher quality of man or manage single.
Shoelacesundone · 23/04/2023 23:51
Good luck xxx hopefully not cheating xxx
indieray · 23/04/2023 23:58
Body language and eyes tell it all. You look him dead straight in the eyes ' have you cheated on me , can you swear on your child's life you haven't cheated ?'
Low blow I know but any uncomfortable person whose lying will look anywhere else but u. Touch their face/hair /chest /phone/keys whilst telling you they're answer. Will try and cross their fingers without you noticing whilst swearing on ...life. If they keep on trying to justify their answer or keep going over their responses getting huffy & frustrated they are LYING.
I'm a psychologist and see it every day. Just be fully aware take your time over a few days if needed to get answers. Trust your gut.
AP5Diva · 23/04/2023 23:27
A doctor should be able to tell if it’s something like dormant herpes (from years ago) or a new infection.
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