Cheating or coincidence?!?

[TheyAreMyBhunasPete]

So a couple of weeks ago, my husband suddenly starts a health kick. Wants to start eating more protein, press ups in the living room. I ask him what's brought this on and he says he wants to look better for me. I notice also his sex drive suddenly increases. We joke and I say something like "if I posted this online on mn or some advice page everyone would be convinced you are having an affair" we laugh. I have no worries.

Anyway, fast forward to now when he's mentioned it stings when he pees and he's got these ulcers on his penis. We have an appointment for tomorrow at a clinic.

Can this be a coincidence? Surely not? Sahm with baby so my life would very much implode

Definitely get yourself tested now OP

Some people delete call logs. But not just 1 call. Unless they are guilty of something imo.

The call could have been true. He could well have deleted the call log because the last person he called was the OW with the true results. He probably got a text asking him to phone, that's what they do here.

I'm guessing he has a hidden app like Kik for talking to her if not a second phone.

It's incredibly odd to delete the call log at this moment. If it looks like a duck...

I would definitely go get checked too to be on the safe side. It's super weird he's deleted the call log.
Has there been anything else that's made you worried?

You previously said you would definitely see the results for yourself now you are relying on a phone call that you never heard and where not even there when it took place?

They text results not ring you.

Just in case anyone wants an update…

so it was herpes! It was presumed that he got it before we got together and I had no other cheating suspicions. No further outbreaks. We moved on.

Until recently when I started getting pain in my lower abdo and weird discharge.

GP has given me chlamydia and gonorrhoea tests so wish me luck, results pending

Hoping for the best possible outcome for you.

Why did he say it was negative when he got the results? I hope you're okay.

He said he got a phone call with results and they said it was clear but he got a text a few days later. Unsure what the mixup was. Or maybe he was lying.

Fingers crossed

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I would say he was lying op. I hope yours comes back clear but I think I would be done with him just for the lie tbh esp with the things he was doing beforehand

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It’s not easy, we have children, im not sure I can tear apart our family for this

Your children would want their mum to be treated well and be happy. Set a good example, don't stay in a relationship based on lies.

YOU’RE tearing your family apart? What exactly has the STI harvester done then?

Good luck

So has anything else happened in the last year?

Do you have any idea what chlamydia and gonorrhoea can do to a person and their reproductive system (as well as the brain if left untreated). Your husband is continually putting you at risk and you're wondering if YOU can tear the family apart. My love he's already done that.

I have to say I wouldn't have believed him the last time. Maybe herpes can lie dormant for an awful long time but everyone I know who's had it has been able to link it to a specific sexual event.

And now this. I wish you had got tested a year ago. I really hope you are okay 💐

If you want you can keep your family together, all the while knowing he has no issues at all with lying to your face, shags other people without protection and doesn't care about passing it onto you.
If non of that is enough to inspire you to kick him out, maybe nothing will, but the least you can do is protect your health and keep well away from him physically.

He’s a serial cheater . A lier and can easily lie to your face and look innocent .

End this before he makes you infertile and also takes the best years of your life and leaves you for a younger female anyway.
He's so cocky he knew all along that you couldn’t prove when the herpes was caught

Get your ducks in a row . How can you be ok with him cheating over and over and stay?

I understand that if people are cheating they leave themselves exposed to an STI.

How is though, that unless they're shagging multiple people unprotected that these husbands manage to get instantly infected by sleeping with one woman, who presumably isn't the town bike worth risking a marriage for.

I do not understand how you can stay with a man who doesn't care if he puts your life and health at risk. He neither loves you nor respects you. He's a disgusting, selfish, self-centered, lying cheat.

Don't raise your children in a marriage with a cheat. Your male children will have a very high chance of cheating themselves, and your daughters will think it's normal to be cheated on. And thus the cycle continues into the next generation...

Your children deserve better, even if for some reason you don't think that you do.