DP locked me out for fun

[bookbu]

He does have a form of these pranks that aren't even funny.

Every single time I have been told I'm unreasonable, don't have any sense of humour as anyone else would find it hilarious, and I need to start working on my behaviour and reactions to these.

He locked me out of home when I was hanging a washing in the garden yesterday. He just stood there in the kitchen looking at me when I was knocking the patio door asking him to let me back in. Eventually I started crying there and went straight upstairs once he finally let me in. Then I have been told how wrong my reaction was.

My ex husband used to lock the door so I couldn't leave the house when we argued. This prank just triggered me so much. What's the best reaction when someone does this type of jokes? DP won't listen if I asked that he stopps doing these. I have asked yesterday and only been told to stop being so boring and to start working on my behavior because my reactions are all wrong. I'm so sad, upset but deep down I'm not even sure if that's the right thing

Honestly he sounds scary. I’d tell your friends, discretely love your essentials out and book a moving truck for while he’s at work and just leave, tell him later. I think that’s the best way to leave him safely.

Please get out of this relationship. I’m a landlord op. If the letting agent or one of my tenants told me this was happening to them, I’d definitely let you leave early. I know that means him agreeing to take on the whole tenancy. You need to look at your rental contract. How long is the contract for? Does it have a break clause?

I agree with hiring a van without telling him. Ask family for help.

Can you stay with family for a while? Hire some storage for your furniture.

Try not to worry about untangling the mess of a separation. Get some legal advice if you can afford it and advice from Women’s Aid. Make an exit plan in your own time. Plan for each possible eventuality so that you’re not blindsided.

In terms of your tenancy OP, are you still in the fixed term? If you've lived there less than 6 months it's likely you are. If it is a joint and several tenancy i.e. if you are both named on the agreement then either one of you can end it for both of you. You don't need both tenants to give notice on a joint tenancy just one.

Contact your landlord/letting agent when they are open and ask when your fixed term ends and give notice to end it on that date. If it is still a way away then put in a written request for early release from the tenancy - cite relationship breakdown and coercive control as the reason. A sympathetic landlord/agent will help you to end the tenancy early usually. The market for rental properties is hot at the moment so they should be able to find someone quite quickly. You may need to pay a fee to be released early if you are still in your fixed term but the tenant fee ban capped this at £50 so it's a small price to pay really.

You could suggest the agency approach your DP to ask if he wants to take the tenancy on on his own but please make sure you are safe and have somewhere else to go before that happens.

Shelter or women's aid should be able to give you advice on your tenancy contract. I've never said LTB before but my blood ran cold when I read your update. Two months in and he's already abusive. Please do whatever it takes to leave.

Even if its the sort of thing he sees as funny, his attitude should have changed when he saw you reduced to tears.
The fact that he did see you in tears because of his 'joke' and didn't apologise/try to make amends but instead made it an issue with your personality/behaviour is definitely a red flag.

Oh god. He's an abuser. Please get away from him as fast as you can I don't know enough to know what type but I know doing things that frighten and upset you, driving dangerously to frighten you, not listening to you or accepting you have a say, and taking things out on you later, are all signs.

CM you contact a local domestic abuse charity and tell them what you have told us?

They will recognise it and help you get un entangled from him financially etc.

Keep us informed.

How old is he? Five? Perhaps you should have locked him out and seen how hilarious he thinks it is. He is a childish bully. God, what some women will put up with....

Firstly, I’d wait till he puts his jeans in the wash basket …..then I’d hide his car keys at the bottom of the washing basket.
Then I’d laugh quietly as he searched for them .
Secondly I’d work out how to leave him.
Cruel man .

It sounds like control. One of you can take over the tenancy of the other person. Please get some therapy so you avoid these kind of people. Read up on covert narcissists. You haven’t done anything wrong.

op this is about abuse and control not pranks. This man is a cruel manipulatior

Just noticed this is an old post

@bookbu

i know what you can do permanently decide you no longer want to be with emotionally and psychologically abusive Prick and Arsehole,
you are currently with,

and as parting memento for 👋 him to rember allways,
obviously inspired by his juvenile hi jinks ways, this 🤡 Jackass of hopefully soon to be ex,

you ensure to naturally get a 🔐 locksmith to change the locks permanently on your front door,
see how he finds this as amusing and entertaining as thinks it is to play such nasty psychologically mind fuck games,

your psychologically warped Partner i wouldn't be suprised if he is on Schiopathic / Narastistic spectrum of personality disorders,

he is really getting a kick out of this,

he is enjoying the effect it has on you,