DP locked me out for fun

[bookbu]

He does have a form of these pranks that aren't even funny.

Every single time I have been told I'm unreasonable, don't have any sense of humour as anyone else would find it hilarious, and I need to start working on my behaviour and reactions to these.

He locked me out of home when I was hanging a washing in the garden yesterday. He just stood there in the kitchen looking at me when I was knocking the patio door asking him to let me back in. Eventually I started crying there and went straight upstairs once he finally let me in. Then I have been told how wrong my reaction was.

My ex husband used to lock the door so I couldn't leave the house when we argued. This prank just triggered me so much. What's the best reaction when someone does this type of jokes? DP won't listen if I asked that he stopps doing these. I have asked yesterday and only been told to stop being so boring and to start working on my behavior because my reactions are all wrong. I'm so sad, upset but deep down I'm not even sure if that's the right thing

Back his bags, send him packing, change the locks. See how he likes that. Cruel b..tard.

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also, I'm sorry, but jf he does know, then he sees you as an easy target for abuse. Please leave.

I’m afraid you have swapped one form of abuse for another.

I get that people can have different senses of humour but if he is doing stuff that upsets you to the point of crying that’s very wrong.

I had a phone call yesterday, I had accidentally locked DH in the garden yesterday as he has decided to clean off the patio at the end of the garden. I just felt bad as he was stood there covered in dirty water spray. I was wearing a headset talking to a group of friends and he had been knocking for ages.

He’s a bully and a twat.
How dare he tells you you have to work on your behaviour. He needs to stop bullying you and using a tactic that is sure to reduce you to tears knowing what you have previously gone through.
I would be leaving him for this. He’s nasty.

Break up with him. He's an arsehole.

Dress up as a clown and kick him in the balls. When he doesn't laugh, tell him he's got no sense of humour.

He isn't remotely funny. He sounds like a child. Grow up and man up.

He is abusive. That's not funny ever anyway but even if it was leaving you to be so upset you cry and then telling you off for it is abuse.

I'm afraid you've swapped one abusive bastard for another.

He's a bully.

And it is chilling that he chose to do the thing he knew would cause you distress.

His 'fun' comes from seeing you cry.

He's simply a different type of abuser from your ex.

So he does things that upset you, you know he won't stop if you ask and then you get berated if you are upset.

Mate, you're still in an abusive relationship.

What a joker. Not!

What's the best reaction when someone does this type of jokes?

Leave.

He's a bully disguising it as fun & you being humourless.

What’s the best reaction? Do it to him but don’t let him back in.

It’s control and dominance over you and you’re not even allowed to have a normal reaction to being bullied like this 😡

Leave this abusive prick OP. It’s not ok. Relationships are not supposed to be like this.

So many red flags here. As others have said, he's bullying you and then gaslighting you into believing it's your problem.
It's particularly worrying that he's chosen to do something that he knows it's especially triggering for you.

As much as he deserves it, I would be very, very wary of playing any 'jokes' on him though. There's a risk he may retaliate with physical abuse and then, true to form, turn it around into being your fault for having provoked him.

I think you should sit down and make a plan to leave as soon as possible. I hope you have some support in RL OP.

Unlike what everyone says, I don't think pranks (even idiotic ones like this) are inherently abusive, especially if you started crying suddenly and he wasn't expecting you to cry. Everyone has a different tolerance for playfulness in daily life.

But the aftermath is most definitely emotionally abusive. If someone is upset and crying, you acknowledge you've gone too far and apologise, and don't do it again. Even if you might secretly think they're overreacting / boring / have a stick up their arse, you have to respect that they don't want you to behave that way around them, end of story.

You asked for the best reaction? Mine would be ‘you’re a fucking prick’ to be honest and then he’d have to do some serious making up and never do anything like that again. It doesn’t seem he’s got the capacity for this so I’d be making plans if I were you. Sorry that you’ve ended up with such a cruel, manipulative and unpleasant man.

Your husband is a cunt

He upsets you, however it occurs, and you have to change your behaviour?

Get your own place OP he can hang his own washing out then.

Hi Op

I really think you have unfortunately swapped a Blantendly cruel partner for a manipulative so called Joke of a Partner ,

They both have something in common

They get off get a sick kick enjoy taking out their man child insecurities and power out on you,

The joker Partner you have does it under the disguise 🥸 of sick twisted joke he is manipulative bully,
Whether he knows your personal history past

Or
Not, @bookbu

It's just you are obviously too far much emotional invested in your situation to see the proverbial wood through the trees 🌳

He will never ever change

Find a way and plenty of support to get rid of him As Soon as possible

You only have one life,

What if it escalates his concerning behaviour even more in even more Twisted sick ways he can conjour up from his sick mind like a twisted 🎩 🪄 magian mind @bookbu

It's very common unfortunately for a Domestic abuse victim to make another mistake swapping a relationship to enter into a different relationship of similar natured abusive relationship

Get out of this

Seek Therapy to see why you are Attracted to Another twisted weird Arsehole type of male

Unlike what everyone says, I don't think pranks (even idiotic ones like this) are inherently abusive, especially if you started crying suddenly and he wasn't expecting you to cry. Everyone has a different tolerance for playfulness in daily life. But the aftermath is most definitely emotionally abusive. If someone is upset and crying, you acknowledge you've gone too far and apologise, and don't do it again

Yes this. It's a bit of a jump to say the prank was abusive without knowing whether she was locked out for 25 seconds or 25 minutes. But yes, the aftermath, totally wrong regardless.

I would use his sick twisted humour , and take a leaf 🍃 🙄 out of his book

And garner enough emotional support and help around you,
And start appropriate therapy to address the very issue of acctracting Arseholes types of Shit men in your life

Then once You have achieved that

Play a Game 🎮 of its called Permanently locking 🔒 out This sick joke of a twisted Partner out of your home/life

By finding a good specialist who can ensure you change all door 🚪 locks 🔒 Permanently so he never has Access to your life ever Again

Now that's a funny 😁 good practical joke on him

Arsehole

That's nasty bullying behaviour. He doesn't care that it upsets you.

Dump him.

whyhelloo · Today 09:51
Unlike what everyone says, I don't think pranks (even idiotic ones like this) are inherently abusive, especially if you started crying suddenly and he wasn't expecting you to cry. Everyone has a different tolerance for playfulness in daily life.”

Playfulness? Jesus, some people have a low bar. He knows locked doors trigger her. That’s not being playful.