Dating Thread 240 - Early Summer Lovin

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

My Exh and every bf had had performance issues first time -no issue all - if she is a nice person she will just enjoy the closeness with you. If she isn't at least you know she is not a keeper.
Report back 😁

My local butcher makes his own pies, and they smell great !

@NoDatingForOldMen hopefully she is someone you feel comfortable with and can admit to being nervous. I can almost guarantee she'll be v nervous too. Maybe try and get out of your head and focus on her pleasure and then hopefully the rest will follow. The lovely man I am seeing couldn't cum the first time and it was no issue for me at all. The other day he struggled to maintain an erection (tbf it was the third time th at night 😄) and again no issue and he offered other things.

@Underwaterlife 3 times a night, I’m not surprised really 😂

Am sure that was a one off as it's all new and exciting and we had both had a long drought! It's not a boast 😂

Underwaterlife

3 Times a night !
whilst I try to make the most of an evening with a gentleman (I use that term loosely ) friend even I'm knackered after 2 !!!

NoDatingForOldMen

hope it’s a nice evening !

I'm sorry that he's gone silent on you - it seems as if it's the norm now to just ghost, block, disappear without feeling the need to give any explanation. It's just lack of decency and proper communications skills, empathy for what the other person might feel or think, zero consideration for others. It's so tiresome.

@Thisisworsethananticpated I swear that was a one off. 😂. I was just trying to make a point about ED but did not pick the best example 😂. I'll be quiet now.

5thWisdom

to be fair the silence is mutual

so im not feeling upset or angry , as something has clearly shifted at both ends in how we view the arrangement we had

and honestly I can’t be arsed to communicate my feelings
I just don’t want to !!!! For myriad reasons

one year with cave man has changed me it’s wierd
I just go quiet on them too

Underwaterlife

Not the best example example ever 😂

poor man was probably lying there gasping like a fish

Yes - this just probably feels like it's hard work far to early on. It's supposed to be fun, exciting, lovely. If it's not fun, even if it's not upset you, it's not worth it.

Yes
it became a bit stressful

to be honest seeing any man is stressful for me

the time , childcare , if not / planning for their well-being , ensuring I can safely leave them, cleaning if babysitter comes , hair , body , shower , nails , outfit , transport there and back , parking , driving

and arranging dates - I can’t do impromptu
24 notice minimum

no wonder it can get stressful

Well was just talking to someone who was living with someone for 8 years -she said they needed to talk and instead of talking he moved out - no word at all and none since!

ouch….they were living together 8 years!!! 😱😱😱

Worsy…no stress as you have enough at home. I don’t know how he put his foot wrong on that unwanted advise…perhaps you stay clear of talking personal stuff to FWB??? It can only bring misunderstandings. However…wait a bit perhaps to see if he resurfaces and messages. Perhaps he doesn’t even know what he has done wrong???

PinkIdentity
i didn’t share anything personal really
i can’t say much as outing but I really didn’t , hence why I’m irritated tbh

VanillaSox
Wow
thats caving and non communication on an extreme level
and the worst thing is I can even imagine it
he probably felt the same , couldn’t face the invevitable distress and emotions
boom
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Not to worry Worsy…did he realise he put his foot wrong with that comment? People sometimes need to be told…”no mate, that’s out of order”. If this liaison is worth saving you might need to tell him what was wrong ?

@NoDatingForOldMen
Hope it all goes ok for you but don’t stress about it. If she is nice she won’t pressure you or anything. I had been chatting to a lovely man last year and we’d met up before. Everything was fine until we got to the DTD point and he struggled to maintain an erection. He finished off next to me which I thought was a bit odd but it didn’t bother me one bit that he had struggled. I hadn’t even thought about nerves or anything.
Sadly, he quickly changed towards me and decided I wasn’t for him!!! Stopped messaging me etc. I really was hurt by it tbh.

Well , that’s all seemed to go okay, just did a charcuterie style platter with meats , cheeses, beads etc, seemed to go great,

dtd was 1-2 in football parlance, so some limited success at least 😊

A score draw would have been my preference, but certainly better than nil-nil 😞

PinkIdentity

no maybe he doesn’t
I think he’s very academically intelligent but less emotionally so
but we are both silent so someone has to break it
but maybe we are both scared to
So 👻 + 👻

NoDatingForOldMen

I don’t 100% understand your football analogy , maybe I don’t need to 😂

but I’m pleased you had a nice time

Disappointed at the football analogy so they have to boast about numbers? No wonder they have performance anxiety if they are obsessed with the score and getting it into the back of the net.

Is there a new thread? Thanks

Can you explain the football reference I'm not understanding it at all.
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