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What is the age gap between you and your partner?

183 replies

VanillaSox · 24/03/2023 07:35

Missing on a statement made by someone on a recent thread that 'there should be no more than s give year age gap'.
My bf is seven years younger than me and exh was 6 years older.
I have friends and colleagues of all ages and don't know how old they are never think to ask and yesterday a collect I get on very well with in and out of work mentioned their age and they were eight years younger than me.
Why are some posters so fixated on age?

OP posts:
Notjustabrunette · 26/03/2023 20:17

6 months.

BlackKittyMama · 26/03/2023 20:22

He is 4 years older

Dawny221 · 26/03/2023 22:23

DustyLee123 · 24/03/2023 08:23

10 years older. And since he hit his 50’s the gap seems bigger.

Same 😞

DramaAlpaca · 26/03/2023 22:29

DH is two and a half years older than me.

Surely2023IsTheYearForMyRainbowBaby · 26/03/2023 23:40

18 years older (him)

Smilersam · 27/03/2023 01:54

Together for 16 years, married 5 years this year, 2 beautiful girls together, he is 18 years older than me. I love him with all my heart and he is the best dad and husband you could ever want. Don't listen to the Debbie downers about age gaps!!

theemmadilemma · 27/03/2023 09:40

Lucyluwhereareyou · 24/03/2023 08:29

DP is eight years older. I wouldn’t recommend it! We didn’t feel very different when we met at 28 and 36, but we do now at 42 and 50.

And I wanted another baby 3 years ago, but DP felt too old, and it turns out he was unable (his sperm, according to the doctor, had aged out of it!).

I hope our children don’t subconsciously copy us, like I know can happen (his parents have a similar age gap, as do mine).

While we’re fine, I think we both would have been better off picking someone our own age. DP wants to sit and look at his phone / watch tv / generally wind down. But we have primary age children, I have tonnes of energy, and I want adventure!

Yet I'm 47 and DH is 39 and we don't feel it.

It's very individual.

blebbleb · 27/03/2023 09:43

@Smilersam each to their own but with such an age gap I would worry about being alone for decades or taking on a carer role very young. I know some people do die young but you're stacking the odds against you from the start. My mum recently lost her husband (he was 81 and she's 59). At the end she was changing him and doing everything for him. She expected him to die before but it was still a shock. They were together 20 years so he didn't seem particularly old when they first met, but the later years really show the age gap.

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