What is the age gap between you and your partner?

[VanillaSox]

Missing on a statement made by someone on a recent thread that 'there should be no more than s give year age gap'.
My bf is seven years younger than me and exh was 6 years older.
I have friends and colleagues of all ages and don't know how old they are never think to ask and yesterday a collect I get on very well with in and out of work mentioned their age and they were eight years younger than me.
Why are some posters so fixated on age?

My partner is 9 years older than me, I was 18 and he was 27 when we met...15 years later and were still going strong, he's my absolute best mate and we get on well with each others groups of friends . It's never been an issue for us

11 months

He's 10 years younger. We've been together for 26 years.

Three months.

He is 16 days younger than me.

14 years between us. I was 17 and he was 31 (eek!) when we first met. We are now 33 and 47 and have an almost 6 year old and 19 month old. Oh they have aged us (in the best way). Although I’m finding as OH is getting older he’s become more grumpy and intolerant of things that never used to bother him.

He is 19 years younger than me.

May I ask you ages? I’m always curious about the dynamics with large age gaps.

10 hours

My fiancé is 2 months older than me. My mum’s parents had a huge age gap. I think they had a 15-18 year gap and there was definitely a power imbalance and a lot of abuse and control. My grandma was 21. My mum’s dad died when she was 11.

I'm close to someone who has a 34 year age gap. They've been very happy together for more than 15 years. They met when both were mature adults so if they're happy that's all that matters. She is ageing considerably now and he is in the role of carer but he always knew that might be a possibility.

As long as both are mature, consenting adults, I've never seen why a big age gap is a problem.

I'm 1 year 7 months older than DH

14 years

DP is 5 years older

My husband is 5 1/2 years older than me. I don't recall ever having been with anyone younger. My ex before him was 3 years older and the biggest age gap I've had was 18 years (when I was 18 which won't go down well here)

First husband there was 6 months between us, we met at school aged 14 and were together 22 years. My now fiance is 7 years older than me. I don't notice the age difference at all, but I guess it would have been more noticeable when we were young

My husband is 7 yrs older than I am , we’ve been married over 30 yrs .

I'm 18 months older but we joke that I look younger than him 😂.

4 months.

20 year age gap, well 19 years and 7 month..

This is interesting because I thought with my husband only 4 years younger, it would never make any difference. However with me going through menopause and him going through a mid life crisis we feel so far apart in age. It's one of the reasons we are divorcing. He has panicked and is desperate to hang onto his youth going clubbing, taking drugs etc, I am getting boring! Drinking less, more healthy lifestyle etc.

3 years younger than dh. Had a relative who was
22 years younger than her dh and another who was 12 years younger. Both widowed in their fifties. A good friend is 17 years than her dh and a much longer marriage than her 1st.

I'm glad there's only 3 months between me and my husband. You can't guarantee a long life but there's less chance of either us of being alone for decades, or having to care for the other at a young age. My mum recently lost her husband. He was 81 and she's only 59, she nursed him until the end. They were together over 20 years. That's not a situation I would want to put myself in prematurely.

My mum was widowed when she was 49 , she was 15 months younger than my dad .

My partner is 21 years older than me.