What is the age gap between you and your partner?

[VanillaSox]

Missing on a statement made by someone on a recent thread that 'there should be no more than s give year age gap'.
My bf is seven years younger than me and exh was 6 years older.
I have friends and colleagues of all ages and don't know how old they are never think to ask and yesterday a collect I get on very well with in and out of work mentioned their age and they were eight years younger than me.
Why are some posters so fixated on age?

My DH is 5 years younger. Been together 20 years, happily married with 2 children.

Dh is older by 3.5 years.
I think age gaps are fine until you get old and then a big gap means the younger partner spends years being a carer for the older one. Then when the older one dies the younger one is left alone with nobody to card for them in their final years.
Morbid but I see it all the time.
^^

Dh is 7 years older. Not thought much about age difference until starting to think about pensions- he'll retire 7 years before me which will feel like a long time when we get there.

ExH is 5 years older than me.
On-Off DP is 15 years older than me.

He's 2 years older than me.

I am 51. Dh is 42. Been together 10 years..

My Fiancé is 7 years older than me. Never seen our age gap as an issue. I was 23 when we got together

3 months. Brought up in different parts of the country, but have the same cultural references.

8 years older

10 years older. And since he hit his 50’s the gap seems bigger.

Four years.

11 months.

When I was 20 my ex was 25. He ran off with a 15 year old who'd ran around after him like a puppy since she was 11 😬

I think 15 and 25 is a lot less acceptable than say 30/40.

6 yrs between us - DH is the younger. We have been married for 41 years

16 years..

Very happy. Young kids.

His parents are well into their 80s and cruising around the world/driving/volunteering so I'm hopeful I've got a long time of my lovely husband.

DP is eight years older. I wouldn’t recommend it! We didn’t feel very different when we met at 28 and 36, but we do now at 42 and 50.

And I wanted another baby 3 years ago, but DP felt too old, and it turns out he was unable (his sperm, according to the doctor, had aged out of it!).

I hope our children don’t subconsciously copy us, like I know can happen (his parents have a similar age gap, as do mine).

While we’re fine, I think we both would have been better off picking someone our own age. DP wants to sit and look at his phone / watch tv / generally wind down. But we have primary age children, I have tonnes of energy, and I want adventure!

Just celebrated our Ruby wedding anniversary DW 6 years older than me

DH is 2 months younger. We didn't meet until our 30s and I love that we have the same cultural references, music reminds us of being the same age etc.

DH is 22 years older than me and has twice the energy I have. He is the best husband I could ever have wished for.

5 weeks

DH is 8 years older

“The key thing for me is how old are you? A gap of 7 years will be very different for people who are say 49 and 42 compared to people who are 17 and 24.”

This. DH is 8 years older but we got together when I was nearly 30. But you get lots of posts on here with a much bigger age gap and a much younger woman who is struggling because of the power imbalance.

When I was growing up a family friend had, at 32, started dating a 16 yo. I remember the bloke telling me a couple of years later that he knew she was the one. And I remember thinking: yes, but how can she possibly know if you’re the one? They got married when she was in her early 20s. The marriage only lasted a few years because she needed the freedom to explore and live footloose and fancy free (the way you should in your 20s) for a bit which she hadn’t been able to have. And interestingly, as part of that, she discovered she wanted to date women.

I'm 6 months older.

ExH: I am 3 weeks older.

Late-DH: he was 14 years older.

Current bloke: he is 6 years older.

It’s half your age plus 7, not 7 years. Holds up pretty well as a rule as it allows for the differences in gaps at different ages.

So a 24 year old shouldn’t date a 17 year old but a 19 year old is ok.
And someone aged 60 shouldn’t date below 37.
I am 44, my boyfriend is 33 so within range, but if I dated anyone under 29 that would be in breach.

(I say ‘shouldn’t’, obviously there’s no law against it, just slightly creepy.)

7 years