To never speak to him again after this?

[shestakingtheurine]

I've been dating a man for a few months now , we don't live together yet. My car broke down the other night on a busy dual carriageway in the rain at rush hour on my way home from work and it was a 2 hour wait for the AA man to come and rescue me. I messaged him and told him what had happened and he messaged be back saying 'that's sad' I later expressed that I felt I that he should have at least offered to come to me or offer me a lift home as the car went to the garage and I had to make my own way home. I said I was a bit upset that he hadn't even asked if I had got home ok. He responded that 'you want to click your fingers and I'm just going to drop everything and come' and 'I do actually have a life' and he said ' you think my world revolves around you and it doesn't' and 'why would I ask if you got home ok when you weren't even that far from home' and I have more important things to think about than a broken down car. I was shocked and upset as he had never behaved this way before but I haven't spoken to him since and I don't think I want to speak to him again. Was I in the wrong expecting him to show concern or help? He lives maybe a 20 minute drive from where I was.

Wow. My car broke down and it was freezing, my friend came and I sat in her warm car until RAC arrived (I didn't even ask, she told me she was coming when I told her what happened), then she drove me home. I'd do the same for her.

It's shocking from a man you're in an intimate relationship with.

Depends really on exactly you said and how you brought it up. You messaged him when it happened and presumably told him the AA or whoever were on their way. It would be normal for someone to stay with the car till they arrived which presumably would need to be you. Did you call him then? If not how is he supposed to know you were stranded? You got home OK though didn't you.
Now you're angry at him for not dropping everything. You didn't even ring him. He's not your husband or your fiancee, he's a bloke you've been seeing for a bit. Why would he be your go to person. I'd guess he snapped and put you in your place because you were either whining or angry at him.
Granted, the way he spoke to was harsh but if you came across as entitled I can see why.
How have you left things?

It's incredible (literally) how many such dramas these selfish, commitment-phobic men seem to have, especially when they provide a useful excuse for letting you down.

I dated someone once whose response to being told I was ill in bed was to message saying, "sending hugs". He lived a whole five-minute drive away but couldn't be bothered to come and see how I was or do a quick bit of food shopping.

Awful.
When I was first dating now DH a friend of mine came out with us for the day. Something happened with transport she was relying on and he offered to take her home, and lend her his coat (it was a cold evening). He'd known her all of 3 hours. Decent people do decent things. If someone you've been dating can't be bothered to help you out when you're in a tricky situation, then ditch.

'Why men great 'til they gotta be great?'

Back in the sea with him.

I had already rang my mum who said she would come as soon as she could but she lives further away.. we were in constant communication by text anyway so as soon as it happened I responded to his message telling him what had happened before I even called the AA as I was trying to find my membership card with my number on. If we wouldn't have already been already been in contact messaging each other on WhatsApp he probably wouldn't have been one of the first people to know! Was just shocked at his response.

Love a Lizzo lyric 😁

@shestakingtheurine Well, look at the positive OP, you know what a horrible selfish person he is and now you don’t have to waste another second of your life on him, it’s really a blessing in disguise at the moment and some people have to tolerate years of a waste of life whereas you have not
hope your car is now ok

Even strangers stopped to offer help so I thought it would be the least I could ask of somebody I'm actually having an intimate relationship with .

What a disgusting man. Don't ever see him again. How selfish.

If it’s genuinely completely out of character, is there something wrong that you’re not aware of? Eg is he dealing with something he hasn’t shared with you? Or is he just a selfish dick and you haven’t seen it before because you’ve never needed him in this way before, or you didn’t see it because you didn’t want to?

There's a reason the AA prioritises a single woman broken down at the roadside-because we're a bit more vulnerable and it's scary.

Well you are not a mind reader but he’s also obviously lying.

Block and don’t think about him again.

Get rid.

Well arent you nice.

Shown his true colours hasnt he.

Aren't*

Honestly op. He has shown you who he really is. The virulence of his response was truly shocking.. as you said you'd be nicer to a complete stranger .

Sorry OP. This man doesn’t care much about you. Probably doesn’t care about anyone but himself. His ‘dad’ text was sent because he was worried he may have burned his bridges with you and he’ll have to make the effort to find someone else.

You can find someone better. X

What a charmer! Goodbye mate.

My first ever LTB !

You never really see the true nature of the beast for two years. Luckily he's saved you wasting any more time.

You've done the right thing by going no contact for the last 2 days since it happened.

You may decide you want to break up more formally ie by telling him but presumably from your silence he's got the message that youre broken up & he also hasn't been back in touch.

Definitely dodged a bullet there.

I'd never expect my DP to come and sit with me in that situation, however his response was disgusting and I'd dump him for that.