How old were you when you met the father/mother of your children?

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Question is in the title really. It feels like until you're 26ish, people say you are too young for children. Then the narrative changes overnight, people ask if you are thinking about it. After 30, your 'clock is ticking'.

It's no one else's business but I can't be the only woman who panics about having left it too late, while not really knowing 100% if I evenn want kids - but worrying that by the time I do, if I do, it will be too late.

20. Married 26. First dc 33.

25

Met at 13, 14

Started dating 19, 20

Married 22, 23

First child 33, 34

Been Married 26 years

I remember having the exact same thought. A teen/young mum would be looked down on but there's literally 2 years from 28-30 when it goes from 'too soon' to 'don't leave it too late!' 🙄

I honestly don't know how you're meant to fit in establishing a career, a stable relationship and housing (let alone enjoying life & youth a bit!) before the judgy pants start being pulled up about your fertility.

Met at 20, DC's at 26, 30 and 34. Final DC born 3 weeks after divorce at 42 (classy!) Married to father of final DC at 46.

Me 29 OH 30, we moved in together 3 years later. DD came along when we were 34 and 35.

23 and within 18 months had 2 kids just under 11 months apart 😂😬

Met at 38, married at 39, baby at 40.

23 but didn't have children until our 30s

I met him when I was 25 had our child at 26.

I didn't. The clock was ticking so I used a donor and IVF to have my children. Best thing I ever did

18. First child born when I was 30.

24 when we met
27 when we married
28 first child
32 second child

Got together at 23, enjoyed our 20s together travelling and just being us two, now pregnant with our first age 35 (two years behind schedule as we ended up needing IVF).

32

17, just a month before my 18th birthday. Got married 6 years later and had first DC after another 5 years (so I was 28) second DC was 3 years later. Still together 43 years on 💞

I was 19, we married when I was 29 and I am now 49. We met on a blind date 😁

About 25 or 26. We didn't get together until I was 28

31 xx

First met him at 23, married at 26, first child at 29.

I was 24 he was 26, married at 25, first baby 26, second 27, third 29, fourth 31 - still very much happily married ❤️

I was 26 when I met my dd dad had her 28

17 when we got together, 22 we bought our first house together, 29 when we married and 31 when I had first child and 34 with second. Been together 20 years now really doesn't feel like that long! Then again I can't believe I'm 37!

Well we first met when I was about 22, I was 30 when we started dating, 35 when we got married and 40 when we had our first child.
I'm not sure that has any bearing on your life choices(or lack of) anyway!
No one is too old or too young ( obvs whilst still of child bearing age)
I had my both my children in my 40's but would say that anywhere in your 30's is "normal" as is not wanting children at all.

There is a lot of demand/presumption that people will have/want children but it's perfectly fine to not want to or not be bothered either way. I wouldn't let other people's opinions affect your life decisions, kids are hard work, they can completely change your life. You should choose the path you want to follow, no one other than your partner should have any say in that at all

DP and I first met when we were 5, we got together as a couple at 18 and had our children when we were 24 and 28.