Teenage daughter going away with her boyfriend. Would you be OK with it?

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My daughter has been seeing her boyfriend for a year. They are both 16.

He has asked her to go away overnight with him in the summer holidays. They will both be 17, will have been together for 18 months by then and will be going alone.

I don't have a problem with it. She's reluctant to tell her dad because of the way he has overreacted to, well, pretty much everything! I've said she can't go without telling him in advance, which she has agreed to do, but I know he will be bouncing off the walls about it.

Would you be OK with this?

I would be completely ok with this, assuming birth control is covered. I think premier inns allow from 17 but do check. It’s a wonderful and exciting thing for them to do. I absolutely wouldn’t say she has to tell her dad if he will react badly. He doesn’t deserve or have a right to know if he’s going to make her feel bad. Let her enjoy her lovely time away without it being tarnished.

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At 17 your dd is old enough to decide if she even wants a relationship with her dad at all. She absolutely does not have to tell him anything about her business or whereabouts ever.

If she wants to tell him, that is her choice, I don't think telling him where she's going or what she's doing should be pushed on her...especially given what you've said about him.

Quite frankly, I'm not sure why she'd want a relationship with a father who is clearly emotionally abusive but again, it's for her to decide. If he finds out about it after the fact and kicks off again then maybe she'll finally realize he's best cut out of her life. Or she just deals with it. At the end of the day it's 100% up to her and I'd be letting her know ow she does have the autonomy to decide these things about her life. She is not a child.

Does he really need to know?

They're not backpacking around the world!

He's non-resident parent - does he know her daily calendar?

FFS! MARCH

She's been and come back!

I'd be fine with this. DS was the same age when he started seeing his fiancée. I know several couples that got together that young and stayed together. I felt that DS was safer travelling as part of a couple and so did her mum, better that than a gang of 17 year olds.
They're getting married next year after over twelve years together. I do think DC are more responsible these days. Even as part of a couple, I think it's important to experience all life has to offer. They've travelled the world, bought a home and are hoping to start a family soon. Trust has to start somewhere.

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