Dating Thread 239 - spring fling

[Thisisworsethananticpated]

I couldn’t think of a decent as it’s been so fractious ! Will post rules shortly

Slothmomma
😊😊😊

Yay!!

Mr Music makes me think of Mr Tumble - I don't know why 😂

We're both busy single parents with jobs and lives and are trying to pencil in our next date - however he's said that I should not see this as a lack of interest on his part at all and he's very much interested. I've said that that's fine - I appreciate we both have lives and don't expect him to be able to drop everything for me as I can't for him but I will match his energy - so if he is keen then I will remain so but if i feel his energy isnt there i will not chase him.
Very healthy! Really like the fact that he is open about it and made his feelings clear.

@Mila14
Have reached a watershed with Mr Wozfunnest (his new name) because the negative side of the ledger notes now outweighs the positives. It is incredibly difficult, especially as our lives are so entwined with mutual friends and interests but for reasons that would be too outing in the forum I have decided that unless we can have couples counseling I want to end it before I get resentful. He will want us to be friends but I know that won't work because of the chemistry /we've tried it before and reverted in few days.
I am going to throw myself into social events with new people and clubs not to try to get another man but too be open to one of I met one - and would not be fair to do that while still in the guise of a relationship with him. I am incredibly lucky that I live in an urban area with lots of possibilities -my heart really goes out to people living in small villages etc where there is no escape or new diversions.

I like the sound of MrMusic. I really really appreciate guys with similar lifestyle combos. Work and kids at home works well for many of us. I love it that he wants to know you and share with you without being hassle. Enjoy 😉

You look on the right frame of mind. I hear you…I could not remain friends with Mr Ex because we ended up in bed after doing the friendly thing…it’s impossible to remain friends with someone you have feelings for and top chemistry. I like it you are open to enjoy life and mingle a bit. I would still give couples therapy a try if he really wants you 😘

I had a lovely weekend with MrM where I introduced him to some key old girlfriends in a far flung city. He loved them and vice versa. We celebrated our 6 week anniversary 😂🙄

One mate had flown in from a foreign land and all of us blown away to discover her best mate there is MrM's brother's best mate from school days here. I'm due to meet his parents this weekend 👍🥰

Oncey…so very happy for you. It’s all straightforward RIGHT and LOVELY…enjoy a lot and I love you both are meeting everyone important already. Come to this thread from time to time as we all appreciate your comments very much. You both fell in love straight away, no games and no idiocy. ❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰

VanillaSox

i hope your ok
its heavy this ending , ledger analysis shit at the tail end
keep busy , look after yourself

and I fucking hope he does contemplate relationship therapy

Thank you!!!xxxx

Morning all.
Someone mentioned this earlier, Six Singles
https://www.6singles.co.uk/

It looks intetesting so I've just registered.
Lifetime membership is free if you register before 1st April. Otherwise there's a monthly fee.

No idea if it will be any good but I thought it was worth trying. Even just to get out and meet new people.

Is Tinder rigged?

I joined POF (free version) last Friday - but have since deleted the account - and got hundreds of likes. I paid a 12 month subscription to Tinder and, apart from the few that got through before I paid, I have had zero likes!! Zero!! I had it set to incognito (which I had wanted) but even when I switch back to visible I’m not getting any. I’ve logged out and back in and increased the distance to the maximum. Still nothing. What am I paying for this for???

@TeaandLemonDrizzle I’m very out of touch with the apps but a couple of years ago there was a hack whereby if you set your distance to the minimum possible on Tinder it brought up everyone who had liked you (?) I’m not sure what benefit you get from paying, hopefully someone else understands that better/has more insight. Maybe restarting the app now that you are no longer incognito might help? As long as you don’t have to go through any lengthy redoing of your profile.

@LuckyLinda3 sorry, having asked after you and your man I should have replied before now to say that I'm really glad to hear that the abrupt ending via text was not actually the end. Hopefully going forward you can iron out whatever differences there are in terms of needs within the relationship and find a level of communication that works for both of you.

That was me and I’ve joined too…😁

TeaandLemonDrizzle
How long has your profile been visible for? Hours or days?

It's mid week so I always find the apps are slow and pick up on the weekend.

I would expect to get 1 or 2 likes a day on Tinder. But that's me, mid 50s. Younger probably get more. But I wouldn't expect to see 100s after say, a day.

You could try uninstalling the app and re-installing. Or clear your cache.

@VanillaSox
Have you had the phone call?
Mine is later today. I'm just hoping they don't expect me to travel miles and miles away. That wouldn't work for me.

Aw thank you @Stepcount. He has been a great support this past few weeks, I've had to get an engineer in to do a structural assessment of the house costing 6000k and he offered to help me pay, which I declined but appreciate massively. Also had my car badly damaged while parked at work and he is dealing with the police for me. Its really helping as I am struggling financially as my exh stopped paying maintenance in November and I have to pay everything, support my 2 children and deal with the solicitor on the separation too.
Really hope all is good your end.

Since last Friday. I joined POF the same day and got 871 likes over the weekend. Nothing on Tinder even though I’ve paid a 12 month subscription.

I’ll try re-starting the app. Interesting about the distance thing. It shows the app doesn’t work properly which probably explains why I’m not getting any likes on there. I got 872 on POF before I shut it down.

Yes and first invite. You set your own distance and age criteria and are only invited to those the conform.

LuckyLy, he’s a gem. Just when you need all the support he’s there for you. Please remember this when he goes to his cave or is a bit brusque.
I’m so sorry about the maintenance issue and the separation kerfuffle…it will pass…stay strong

Please tell us how it went…it’s a brilliant idea !

VanillaSox
I've just had my phone call.
Quite excited by how it sounds!

3 men, 3 women go for dinner together. You don't know anything about the other 5 before you meet, except that they are within your chosen age range. Bit like First Dates but there's 6 of you.

Aw thank you @PinkIdentity, you're right I do need to remember this. Hope you are doing good, any progress with Mr Ex...