Dating Thread 239 - spring fling

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I couldn’t think of a decent as it’s been so fractious ! Will post rules shortly

I have the same issue, all the women in my area seem to be as dull as dishwasher

This is very wise. I have amazing chemistry with Mr WozFunnest but his Caving and Yo-to ing is too wearying and I have got to the point where that is out-bidding the good stuff and I am ready to bale. He was fantastic and got me out of my previous torpor and dull life but the emotional drain is too much.
Next!

I rarely like any of the men that like me on POF. They're either too far away or their photo is a view up their nostrils.

Searching, reading profiles and messaging is the only way to get anywhere.

I'm told that men can only send one message a day to a new person. Women can send 10.

Meanwhile Mr Anorak has been banned from POF after his abusive message to me. What a knob!

I don’t know whether it’s the right platform for me tbh. I feel like I’m on show in a catalogue.

@VanillaSox
I definitely want chemistry across the board. My marriage failed because of lack of chemistry and I lived with it for a very long time. It’s good that others have found it on OLD. Hope I do too.

I got a few messages over the weekend. Some short and some long. None of them interested me. Maybe I am just too fussy!

Believe me @TeaandLemonDrizzle …when the chemistry is right…the sex and the intimacy is out of this world. I always want to kiss and rip the clothes off Mr Ex and viceversa. It’s something I have never experienced before to that degree. I never thought this would happen to me but it did and it happens to a lot of women after the had the kids and the divorce. You go and date and see how you feel.

Exactly. I also had sexless marriage for too long

Vanilla…how is divorce agro going? Are you sure about ditching Mr Serb …will you start dating straight away?

That’s lovely to hear. Sounds like you’ve found the perfect match.

I think a lot of people stay in sexless marriages to keep the peace etc. I knew the sexual chemistry just wasn’t there. I felt terrible for feeling the way I did so lived with it and didn’t say anything (I just couldn’t go near him in that way). What I didn’t realise was that I was depriving myself of true affection/passion with someone else.

Yup
I'm very much missing the sex with MrNoEffort after a sexless marriage
I had no idea it could be so good 😭

@TeaandLemonDrizzle …there’s no perfect match in my opinion. I’m having a lot of difficulties with him but I do love him

We are older…know our body, have gone through the fertility shenanigans…we are in a different phase now. We are more selective and enjoy sex a lot more

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you and me both 😭😭😭

and yesterday I had a penis from a solvent nice owner right in front of me
and I did want it 😭😭😭

I agree with all of this.

I don't have the chemistry yet - well we didn't kiss so I don't know.

@TeaandLemonDrizzle OLD can be brutal. The tears I've shed has been ridiculous

We are here 🤗

Didnt want it ! The penis
such a shame as so many green flags
but didn’t fancy him

This is the thing…many of us are in relationships but they are far from perfect…I think that is much more difficult…We can’t control totally who we fall in love with but your list of “stay away” seems totally right to me.
Guys over 45 come with baggage…just as we women come with baggage…and I don’t really know if the perfect person to share life with really exists. Compromise has to be done at some point or perhaps not and it is possible to find the ideal partner… I don’t really know 🙄😳

Deffy…true, you have shed many tears…but you are keeping your ideas and what you want clear in your mind. I think you are doing great. Fingers crossed for Mr 13

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Love this.

I haven't encountered that side properly yet. I'm a bit 😳 but I'm sure it'll be fine 🙏🤞

Thank you. Well I think going out out will see if there is that chemistry.

I'm just so annoyed at how I accepted so much less from the others.

Definitelycross

have you been intimate since you started dating?

I've had two very horrible situations that I got myself into. I'm still processing them tbh.

And one that I was happy about.

But no I haven't DTD yet with anyone.

ah I’m sorry to hear that (horrible x 2)
I’ve only DTD with 3 actually
not that I’m counting 😬

@Definitelycross yay for the good date!

My date from Friday messaged this morning asking if I fancied a chat tonight so he called once kids in bed and we've had a lovely hour long chat 😀 I never count my chickens but if nothing else I like how this one is starting out. We're both busy single parents with jobs and lives and are trying to pencil in our next date - however he's said that I should not see this as a lack of interest on his part at all and he's very much interested. I've said that that's fine - I appreciate we both have lives and don't expect him to be able to drop everything for me as I can't for him but I will match his energy - so if he is keen then I will remain so but if i feel his energy isnt there i will not chase him. It was very grown up and I think we're on same page - both interested but not wanting to go 100mph from get go. I like it. I scare easily when theyre too full on 🤣

I think ill name him Mr music - at the risk of jinxing it 🤣