DP's friend sent photographs of me to DP to infer I am cheating

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Please bear with me, this is a weird situation. It's so childish that I feel daft writing this but I needed an outlet for my frustrations.
I'm really angry so I'm sorry if this is all garbled, I've tried to put it in some kind of order.

DP's friend - Jon - has always hated me and has always been convinced that I would cheat on DP.

Jon has recently moved into our neighbourhood.

Last weekend, I had a PT session in my local park (now Jon's local park too). My PT is martial arts so has quite a bit more contact than other PT activities. I mean, its not just a bloke shouting instructions from 2m away while you lift weights or do star jumps. It involves body contact, touching each other, being close etc.

I didn't know at the time but Jon saw me having my PT session. And he took photographs of it which he has now sent to DP with messages asking DP if he was happy with me behaving like that with a young male model (my PT is also a part-time model).

DP's at work but has sent me screenshots of what Jon has sent with a jokey message. Then he sent a follow up message saying it was a shit thing for Jon to do but that I look great 🤗

So DP's clearly not bothered. And he needn't be. There's nothing going on with my PT. I do absolutely love my PT for all kinds of reasons, and me and DP have a running joke about my PT being basically a perfect man. Me and PT have a great relationship for all kinds of reasons but there's absolutely nothing sexual going on.

But I'm absolutely livid. I can't complain too much about him taking photographs because we were in public. But he's clearly sent DP ones that could be misread (where me and PT are very close, touching, one where he's got his arm round my shoulders) and is trying to infer I'm doing something wrong. I'm not. And if I was, would I really do it in my local park? I know everyone in the park because I walk the dog there, I go for coffee at the cafe regularly with friends and I do PT in there. Not exactly the most discreet place for a quick bunk-up.

I plan to stay the fuck out of it, to let DP talk to Jon, to stay dignified, stay quiet. If I contact Jon, he'll read my anger as guilt. I will do. This is the right thing to do isn't it?

Thanks for reading, I just really to let off steam.

Jon's an arsehole and sounds like has started a campaign to split you two up - he's actively gone to where you work out, taken pictures, selected the ones that make you look as if something is going on and sent them to your OH. This sounds like just the start and I wouldn't put it past him to have deliberately moved closer the better to wage war.

He also sounds batshit and obsessed with you. How did he find out where you work out and why does he hate you?

In your shoes I would be expecting my partner to tell Jon that the friendship was over immediately.

I also think Jon maybe in love/obsessed with you.

Jon sounds like a creepy arsehole, what is your dp planning to say to him?

Jon sounds like a nutcase and I would expect your DP to be having a serious word with him, and then cutting him off. This is totally out of order, and beyond creepy!

What a creepy little man. I’m assuming DP is done with the friendship?

I'd say infatuated rather than in love but definitely obsessed.

Jon is really really creepy....

Or your DP.
This is weird behaviour.
I wouldn't say anything to Jon myself but I think I would expect my DP to.

Jon sounds a bit too overinvolved Is there a reason why your partner is still friends with him especially if it’s clear how much Jon seems to dislike you?

Yes my money is on Jon having a thing for your DP

Regardless, he's a twat

Jon is following you around a park, taking pictures and then implying to your partner that you are up to something and....he is OK with this?

Jon definitely isn't obsessed with me

He's always hated me because he's always thought I will cheat on DP. He thinks this because I was dating someone else when me and DP got together and because I slept around and partied a lot when I was younger. In my defense, this was all when I was late teens/early 20s.
Jon is a very quiet/sheltered person so has never been able to put these things down to youth misadventures.

He found out where I work out because we chatted about gyms/exercise/working out etc. when he visited a few weeks ago. And I just mentioned it in passing.

I don't think he's moved to the area to wage a war. Our area is very 'up and coming' so lots of people of his/our demographic are snapping up houses in the area.

I absolutely trust DP to tell Jon that their friendship is over.

No, sorry, I meant DP is clearly okay with the content of the pictures - he clearly doesn't think anything untoward is happening.

I suspect Jon may have feelings for your DP. Or he's just threatened by having to 'share' his friend.

Batshit.

Also, you were in public but that doesn't mean that it's okay for random people to take secret photographs of you so I'd be expecting your DH to make it clear to Jon that he should not be stalking you, not be taking photos of you without your permission and not making ridiculous insinuations.

What a plonker.

You know, you might be on to something there. When I first met Jon I thought he was gay and had a little crush on DP.

Oh yes good point!

Jon sounds a bit creepy, I’d keep my distance

So he didn't just happen across this scene and decide to take photos (weird by itself) but he's actively stalking you from info you've given in passing in order to break up your marriage?

I would be deeply freaked out by this. And I don't scare easily.

Jon is definitely in love with your DP.

Your DP needs to tell Creepy Jon to fuck off. He's trying to damage your relationship. You can't be friends with someone who is trying to do that.

Agree with this. Send him that meme of the stalker guy from Love Actually with a message saying “this you?”

This is really messed up OP. Do you think your DP is prepared to dump him (as a friend) for this. I guess it depends on how long they have been pals and how close they are or will he just have words and hope that Jon cops the fuck on.

Jon needs the be told, by your dp, that his actions are weird, stalkerish behaviour that neither you nor he will tolerate. Cease and desist or dp, who has received the messages and pictures, will report him to the police.