Husband leaving me for another woman. Pls help. shock.

[Chchchchangess]

I can’t write much detail right now but I desperately need some positivity.

my husband has been acting off for months and last night I questioned him about it and he finally told me he’d met someone else from work. She gives him the attention that he hasn’t been getting from me.

please be gentle.

i know my marriage is over but I still care about him.

im 36 and clearly have very low esteem

He Left me three years ago but I let him come back - our baby was only a few months. another woman never transpired. He cheated on me before, though… about 10 years ago.

infeel sick.

we have two boys age 7&4.

I am crumbling please help

Report him to the police so that at least you're building a picture. That falls under domestic abuse and could help your case in case it gets nasty and if goes to court for access etc. Collect all the evidence. Don't let him do this to you.

Reduce the contact and get the lawyer involved ASAP.

Check your house for bugs etc and also the kids' belongings when they come back. That is seriously crossing a line.

When he says it's your fault remind him who started this and how many chances he's had.

Good luck!

I agree with reporting to the police and keeping a record/any proof you have that he is doing this. No more contact with the kids in your house. Ask him to contact via email regarding the DC and block him everywhere else. Discuss with your solicitor, if it continues I would consider a non molestation order.

I'd suggest getting a ring doorbell too so you can see if he has been on your property/near your car.

Sorry to hear your update OP. I agree with reporting to the police, and great suggestion about the Ring doorbell.

"he's still saying I am breaking the family and I feel so guilty that I can’t force myself to feel like I want to be with him"

Nope, he broke up the family by having an affair. Please don't let him guilt-trip you. He's probably shocked and angry that you're not doing the 'pick me dance' and he's no longer in control of the situation. He's cheated on you before and if you took him back he'd do it again (worst mistake I made was not ditching ExH after the first affair but I was pregnant)...

Have you sought any legal advice about the house? I wanted our house sold as I wanted to move back to my home town, but I'm not sure he can force you to sell.

He has no right to ask where you are going, it's no longer his business.

He is a prick and you are an adulterer. Just divorce and sell the house, divide the equity. Put an end to this.

Well aren't his chickens coming home to roost, doesn't like you seeing someone, but he's happy to have an affair

As for telling him where you're going when he has the dc, tell him it's none of his business and leave him to it.

I would speak to a solicitor about the tracking - might be worth reporting to the police for reference in case this escalates.

Not sure what he expected to happen, did he expect you to just to take him back each time he wobbled and shagged other women. He is being utterly pathetic and needs to take responsibility for his actions.

As the house is the children's home there may be issues with his plan. Don't listen to him, just your solicitor.

Would it help you if you put the facts in an email once and for all, then just refer him to that email if he tries to accuse you of being to blame?

'I'll remind you that you cheated at least twice, left me on 2018 because you said you no longer loved me, lied and cheated repeatedly including an xx month affair for a woman you left me for. I was always faithful and did my best to keep our marriage going, despite being the only one of us trying. Anything I've done since you walked out on me is none of your business. You chose to leave me. Because of that I am now single and not answerable to you. I will continue to put our children first in all I do. I'm sorry our marriage is over, but I played no part in that. It was your decision to end it.'

Please keep a diary of all this. Contact women's aid and then you can get legal aid for court. Go to.solicitors and get cgild arrangements in place before he snatches the children. Seems to be he is capable of this. The solicitor can push for cafcass to do a section 7 report.

Please don't delay before this escalates and you are screwed over.
I had a friend who's partner had an affair, then snatched the kids and moved them 80 miles away, starting them in new schools, she had no idea where he took them. It was all done to hurt her. She went to court and it all got sorted, but best idea would be to get child arrangements order in place now.

OP gave up after her husband cheated and/or left her three times, breaking her heart every time. She then met someone else. But she’s the adulterer? Nice. I hope you got a real thrill out of insulting her.

Just crack on with the divorce, split the assets, house may or not have to sold
he dues need suitable accommodation for him and kids

Any news OP?

How are you a year on @Chchchchangess x

Yes I would also love an update on this thread a year later. Hope things all worked out for you OP.