34 weeks pregnant and he's been texting escorts

[Yrmyfavourite]

Hello,

I am 34 weeks pregnant. My sisters husband has just been found to have been 'sexting' other women and today, I saw a video saying if you click edit on iphone messages, you can see recently deleted. I've never wanted to look through DH's phone before but, tonight he asked me to plug his phone in to charge and for some reason (I don't know if it was the shock of my sisters seemingly perfect husband getting caught out or just curiosity from the video i had seen) i decided to have a look and see if there were any messages in there.

He works with cars and always saves customers names as car and name as it's easier for him to find them in future. There were 4 messages to 'Alfa Amy' from 17 days ago, at 1:30am... I recovered them and immediately regretted this as, I saw four messages, which read as follows;

Looking good
Love the curves
Where you at
Where you at

All from him, no response to any.

Also, another number which wasn't saved from the same time. And he has sent "looking good Lucy" - again, no response.

I asked him straight away who she was and he started with the "who, what are you talking about" I read them out and he laughed and said "Oh it was me and my mate messing around, it's just some escort thing, it's nothing"

After pressing him about it and going on my own messages, I found that his friend had gone home hours before these messages and he had messaged me around the same time saying "I'll sleep on the sofa and let you get some rest" (I had been struggling to sleep, being pregnant and a light sleeper and he is a snorer)

He maintains that there was nothing in it and he had no intention of sneaking out to meet anyone or anything like that. He says he found the website because, his boss told him about it and says he messages girls on it. He says he saved her as that name in his phone so she would be at the top, so he could show the messages to his boss and is adamant that it was a joke and thinks I am overreacting.

My whole body is shaking and I don't know how to feel about it. On one hand, I don't believe he would ever cheat on me and go and meet anyone but, it's just the secrecy and the fact I’m laid upstairs like a beached whale at 34 weeks pregnant whilst he messages these girls. I genuinely don't think he's done it more than once.

I don't really know what sort of advice I am looking for. I'd wouldn't leave him over something like this, especially given we have a little one already and another on the way in a matter of weeks. I just think I need to talk this out with someone and I don't want to tell any of my friends or family about it.

Thanks in advance! X

Blimey, who pissed on your chips?

Am I missing something here? The title of your thread is "he's been texting escorts" but nowhere do you explain why you think 'Alfa Amy' was an escort. All you said is you searched the number as well as others and nothing came up for this number although another was a Cam girl.

So again can you clarify why you think 'Alfa Amy' is an escort? From what you've explained (stating he works in a car shop in previous pages and that he has a habit of saving customers numbers) isn't it more likely this was a customer he was texting when drunk? The lack of replies maybe explains it?

Why was your initial suspicion 'escorts' when most women's suspicion would be that he's having an affair? Especially after what you said with him saving customers numbers. Why didn't you add 1 and 1 and think the obvious?

If he's messaging customers in that manner he could get in a lot of trouble. It seems like the poor lady called 'Alfa Amy' just ignored his advances. I don't think its an escort unless he's deleted the replies to her.

The thing is I'm an escort and have the same habit of saving customers numbers under nicknames like 'UKP Danny' and so on. When these customers message me for business or need my help in smearing reputations of unpleasant clients I already know whose messaging me. In my business you get lots of weirdos so when you mentioned 'Alfa Amy' my immediate thought was it was one of his customers.

The second point is I want to ask is how comes your OH iPhone wasn't locked that you grabbed it and started looking through his screen? Especially as you say he's treated you badly in the past. Would've assumed such a person would go berserk if you even touched his phone. The fact he has it unlocked seems odd unless he has a second phone for seeing escorts which lots of my clients do.

Sorry for your dilemma OP.

This thread is being discussed on the infamous UKPunting in general discussions under "Get a punting phone, man caught contacting escorts by pregnant wife"

They are being their usual helpful and considerate selves by giving tips on hiding punting phones and sims from their wives.

I would suggest wives who suspect or even not, search for punting phones and even sim cards hidden in their cars and any other hiding places like the garage and clothes draws or gym bags.

Jesus what is wrong with them? There sick just don’t be married and have kids if that’s what you want to do.

@Cryingwolf omg just looked on that website. Really makes me absolutely hate men looking at that and now suspecting my partner of it 😂 just can’t believe people are actually like that!! Are we really naive or is this just a bunch of sick twats?

I looked at it too 🤢 I didn't even know a site like that existed. It's so gross that they've all found each other and discuss their 'hobby' like they're trainspotting or something 😂 one 'man' was talking about taking pleasure in embarrassing his wife, why bother having one?!

I don’t think I’ll bother looking I will stay in my naive world 😂

Some of my clients have been from there and I can confirm these men are terrible characters. Smelly, farty, shabby yet in reviews they post they image they’re some kind of sex god lol. One thing I’ve personal experience of is how unloyal they are even to fellow punters. I was approached by one of them out of the blue wanting my help to get another banned. One client even told me a police van showed up at his door after an escort was murdered. His wife opened the door! Later he found out the site had leaked his details. Yet they get so paranoid about escorts doing that

Back to the main post I still don’t think ‘Alfa Amy’ is an escort though. I think if possible the OP should keep her wits about her and look for a second phone. If it helps, most of my married clients keep a second phone in their car or car boot if they have one.

Ugh how disgusting, just don't be in a relationship if you want to shag around with prostitutes, what's wrong with these people

Really hope you’re ok @Yrmyfavourite