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Husband has decided that i can do all the housework

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needagoodnightsleep1 · 03/01/2023 23:29

Led here in disbelief and pretty pissed off and need to have a little rant.
Ive been having doubts for some while about wether to end my marriage or not. Its been hard work, too hard!! Long story but i find him very self centred and lazy and it appears to be getting worse. He's not a very good husband or father and to be honest I'm not even sure why I'm still with him!! Im half way out the door.

Tonight he tells me that he's thought about the housework/shopping/washing etc and he states that seeing as he works more than me (i work 4 days and he works 5), that on the 5th day of him working i should do all the housework so on the two days off nothing will need doing. We have a 3 year old dd who i like to take to soft play lunch etc on my day off so its not like its a day off to myself.

I already do 90% of the housework the house is clean and organised, its me who makes sure all the bills are paid, holidays birthdays and Christmas are sorted.
And now I'm over reacting to his suggestions because not only will he not need to do anything on his two days off apparently neither will i!!
Led here feeling like an absolute fool and ready to end this marriage for good

OP posts:
Msgotitsowrong · 17/02/2023 23:19

We were together a year and half before we got married. Yes he is older and more than capable of looking after himself.I moved in with him.Im very lucky I had somewhere to go.He picked the wrong nurse.Thanks ladies.I will figure it out. 😀

billy1966 · 18/02/2023 09:08

Msgotitsowrong · 17/02/2023 23:19

We were together a year and half before we got married. Yes he is older and more than capable of looking after himself.I moved in with him.Im very lucky I had somewhere to go.He picked the wrong nurse.Thanks ladies.I will figure it out. 😀

Good woman.

Don't look back......

"nurse with a purse" really is a thing.

Divorce and move on.

Msgotitsowrong · 18/02/2023 10:56

Nae purse left.lol.

Father123455 · 26/01/2024 09:14

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ObliviousCoalmine · 26/01/2024 10:12

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What?

Risun · 26/01/2024 10:31

@Father123455 You're a year behind the times mate.

Easipeelerie · 26/01/2024 10:36

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You’re cherry picking to suit your agenda. This isn’t a trigger finger reaction to a messier house.
It’s about someone point blank refusing to be involved in any housework. And in taking this stance, they are damaging their relationship with their child as they’re showing their child sexism and unkindness in action.

Namechange666 · 26/01/2024 11:05

Oh look, another lazy twat who does nothing.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 26/01/2024 11:13

zombie thread.

Mumsanetta · 26/01/2024 16:33

Ah I remember this thread. @needagoodnightsleep1 how are you doing a year on?

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