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Should I message?

384 replies

AbiVenete · 03/01/2023 10:21

Years ago, while backpacking, I met a man who I instantly clicked with and we had a whirlwind 7 days of the most amazing sex I have ever had. We both had separate flights and we agreed to meet back in UK. He wrote his name and number in a book (this predates mobiles and Facebook) which I then lost.

A few weeks ago, while reading the news online, I instantly recognised his face, name the same… he has just taken a high profile job in my region. I immediately felt that tinge of excitement, looked him up, he’s on LinkedIn but nothing obvious anywhere else so no idea if he’s single or anything.

Am I being ridiculous to think about messaging? He probably a) wont remember me b) is married or unavailable. I am single again and keep drafting messages but unsure exactly what to say. Should I message or just leave it in the past?

OP posts:
meganiris192 · 03/01/2023 22:32

I really hope he replies op ❤️

SparklyStone · 03/01/2023 22:34

🤩🤞🏻

IWasFunBeforeMum · 03/01/2023 22:36

Do it!

Shitfather · 03/01/2023 22:52

I’m from a similar background as you and am cheering you on!! I absolutely love this thread and that you came across him again. I hope he writes back. Wishing you well OP!

Dunnoburt · 03/01/2023 22:53

Nothing ventured, nothing gained....... one life...... Live it!!!!

determinedtomakethiswork · 03/01/2023 22:58

I really hope he replies too!

Always28 · 03/01/2023 22:59

Hope you get a reply (and that he’s single, and still amazing!)

quietnightmare · 03/01/2023 23:01

🤞

TimeToFlyNow · 03/01/2023 23:08

I'd have messaged too

Blowthemandown · 03/01/2023 23:20

@AbiVenete no harm in at least explaining how the book got lost. He might be in a relationship, or he might not. And you might not feel the same. But I'd want to tie off the loose ends at least.

WineAndDontDine · 03/01/2023 23:22

Woop! Good luck 💕

MintyBinty · 03/01/2023 23:30

Just do it, and don’t listen to the negative posters. Worst case scenario he just won’t reply.

Good luck!

Jossse · 03/01/2023 23:34

Go for it! You only live once!! Life's supposed to be fun.

Rickandmortified100 · 03/01/2023 23:36

Oh my goodness! I’m excited for you! Considering that this has nothing to do with me, I am weirdly excited about it. Come back and update!

Newusernameaug · 03/01/2023 23:36

I’m invested now.

A friends mum had a whirlwind romance at 16, then went on to marry, children, divorce etc.

At 60 ish she met back up with the first love and they’ve been together now for over 10 years.

I’m really hopeful for you!! Xx

Shauna27 · 03/01/2023 23:42

Do it!! Good luck!

Livelovebehappy · 03/01/2023 23:42

If he’s attractive, he may have had literally dozens of flings during his early years. To think that now, years later, he would remember one person out of many, would be really unlikely tbh.

nc10123 · 03/01/2023 23:43

Glad you went for it!

Ineedtosleep79 · 03/01/2023 23:45

Shocked at some of these posts. To me it's a no-brainer! Message him! You've literally got nothing to lose!

Ineedtosleep79 · 03/01/2023 23:47

pocketvenuss · 03/01/2023 15:40

I find it bizarre that some people are saying 'ooooo no. You might be disappointed'. Jeez, what safe boring little lives some pork old choose to live.

Absolutely this 🤣

Louisa259 · 03/01/2023 23:47

Good luck 🤞🏼

Whitwhit · 03/01/2023 23:53

I’d also have sent a message.
I hope you get a reply.

Drainedandconfused8 · 03/01/2023 23:55

Hope you get a reply!

fastandthecurious1 · 03/01/2023 23:58

Rooting for you! Would be nice for a lovely outcome here

Turkeytwizzlerz · 04/01/2023 00:00

Eee! Exciting!