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Should I message?

384 replies

AbiVenete · 03/01/2023 10:21

Years ago, while backpacking, I met a man who I instantly clicked with and we had a whirlwind 7 days of the most amazing sex I have ever had. We both had separate flights and we agreed to meet back in UK. He wrote his name and number in a book (this predates mobiles and Facebook) which I then lost.

A few weeks ago, while reading the news online, I instantly recognised his face, name the same… he has just taken a high profile job in my region. I immediately felt that tinge of excitement, looked him up, he’s on LinkedIn but nothing obvious anywhere else so no idea if he’s single or anything.

Am I being ridiculous to think about messaging? He probably a) wont remember me b) is married or unavailable. I am single again and keep drafting messages but unsure exactly what to say. Should I message or just leave it in the past?

OP posts:
mrsh1807 · 06/01/2023 23:39

Told my friend about this thread tonight, she can’t wait for the update now too!! Hope it’s been a great catch up and you’re still out together 😍

OrchardBlack · 06/01/2023 23:55

Good luck OP!!!

Dustyblue · 07/01/2023 03:33

I'm in Oz and see that it's about 3.30am in UK.... my depraved mind is going places😝

Just kidding OP (sort of)

havingabubble · 07/01/2023 06:28

No update yet, looking promising! 😉

Shoemadlady · 07/01/2023 07:48

Waiting with bated breath to see how it went!! ❤️

byebye2022 · 07/01/2023 08:45

Also been refreshing and waiting 😆

LeotardsandDaisies · 07/01/2023 08:56

Checking in from New Zealand to see how your date went OP - there are people following you worldwide :)...

nc1013 · 07/01/2023 09:20

Surely no update is a good update? 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Alcemeg · 07/01/2023 09:24

I'm been up all night drumming my fingers with impatience!
But is how I visualise it... 🥰🥳

Aussiegirl123456 · 07/01/2023 10:33

checking in from Aus and going to bed soon! Update pleassssseeee!

Wfhandbored · 07/01/2023 10:42

I must have checked this 4 times already this morning for an update

SerenadeOfTheSchoolRun · 07/01/2023 10:48

Feeling like a worried parent whose teenager hasn’t come home - Do let us know you are ok OP…….

baileys6904 · 07/01/2023 11:55

Fuck me, I never realised that meeting past encounters for a catch up meant I was instantly wanting to shag them. Wondered why they all started sobbing when leaving clothed.
I think it's a shame for those people that don't think men and women can spend time together not fornicating wildly. Or that either party, if married, wouldn't talk to their partners and ensure they were comfortable.
I couldn't give a fuck who my partner met with if they were open about it. And my partner would be exactly the same.

It's such a shame so many people have been hurt to the point of such cynicism and encouraged others to be the same.

Anyways well done OP, super pleased for the outcome, hope lats night went well

CocoPopoPops · 07/01/2023 12:00

Any news?

Alcemeg · 07/01/2023 12:08

I think it's a shame for those people that don't think men and women can spend time together not fornicating wildly.

I think it's just that the only encounter OP has had with this person was a week of fabulous wild sex. It would certainly cross my mind, however pure my current intentions!

WeAreBorg · 07/01/2023 13:00

We need the update OP!
I have literally no life, please entertain me as an act of kindness!

Original poster
AbiVenete · 07/01/2023 13:34

Sorry everyone, busy morning.

we had a good evening. Coffee first and then we got some food and drinks after. Very easy conversation, lots of memories and stories to share. Lots of laughter and little awkwardness which I think is a good night. We’ve swapped numbers and agreed it would be good to meet up again.

However, he is still in something with his ExW and that clearly isn’t resolved for him. Can’t quite explain what but it was enough to make me hesitate. I think it will be friendship rather than romance I’m afraid.

OP posts:
TOclock · 07/01/2023 13:37

Thanks for the update. I'm glad you've had a nice evening and also great to see that you are being wise regarding situation with his ExW.

Ineedtosleep79 · 07/01/2023 13:41

@AbiVenete I predict an update with him sending a flirty text in a few days/weeks though. And so it begins....

TOclock · 07/01/2023 13:43

Ineedtosleep79 · 07/01/2023 13:41

@AbiVenete I predict an update with him sending a flirty text in a few days/weeks though. And so it begins....

I think you are right.

Dustyblue · 07/01/2023 13:51

Ahh, I'm so satisfied reading this. Wish I still smoked.

Your key words are "However" and "ExW".

Yah, that's tricky. No harm in a friendship though.

mrsh1807 · 07/01/2023 13:56

Thanks for the update 😁 how did you feel about him after all these years…? Do keep us informed! 😍

Thisisworsethananticpated · 07/01/2023 13:58

Who knows

often it’s a new (old) fling that ends a long standing entanglement that’s not working

however wise to be wary 😒

Alcemeg · 07/01/2023 14:08

Can’t quite explain what but it was enough to make me hesitate
Indeed. Quick-release Velcro unveilings must be saved for the right circumstances!

Glad you had a nice time, all sounds very civilised.

MissTikMeg · 07/01/2023 14:34

If it wasn't for the Ex wife, did you still find him attractive?