Should I message?

[AbiVenete]

Years ago, while backpacking, I met a man who I instantly clicked with and we had a whirlwind 7 days of the most amazing sex I have ever had. We both had separate flights and we agreed to meet back in UK. He wrote his name and number in a book (this predates mobiles and Facebook) which I then lost.

A few weeks ago, while reading the news online, I instantly recognised his face, name the same… he has just taken a high profile job in my region. I immediately felt that tinge of excitement, looked him up, he’s on LinkedIn but nothing obvious anywhere else so no idea if he’s single or anything.

Am I being ridiculous to think about messaging? He probably a) wont remember me b) is married or unavailable. I am single again and keep drafting messages but unsure exactly what to say. Should I message or just leave it in the past?

nope, pretty sure that is it!

No social media at all? That you can’t check whether married

Love the way you're dealing with the saddos on here, Op, questioning your motives.

You sound fab. Go for it. Life too short etc etc

Leave it as a fabulous memory. You'd never be able to recreate the hedonistic memory.
You were younger care free and no responsibility. Nothing can compare to that.

Good luck!

Well done op, if you hadn’t messaged you’d have only been dwelling on whether to message him.

I'd definitely message. No harm in it !

Thanks @strawberriesplease. It’s the questions about my background that are the most weird. As if no one from a minority background has ever rebelled against their parents’ wishes.

I would message, I see you already have, but I would also have added something about how you saw him on the news and was prompted to look him up, so that it didn't look like you were randomly looking him up after 25 years.
Loosing his contact details all those years ago could have been your "sliding doors" moment!

If your single I'd just message and say

Omg! Never expected to see your face on the News lol. Btw I lost your details all those years ago. Hope life is treating you well anyway.

But that's if I was single and that was my situation. If he's married, no harm and he'll prob ignore it. But if he isn't married he might message back. You never know...

Please let us know if he responds, I'm too invested now, I need to know what happens! Fingers crossed he sends back a friendly message x

Following with excitement to see how this goes 🙌🏻 good luck @AbiVenete

I'm excited too! I reckon he could be single. Maybe it's fate- could be the right time for both of you?
I'm an old school romantic 😆

Send the message!

Oop just see that you are, good luck!

This!!

Do it OP, do it!!!!!! 😊

The worst that can happen is that he thinks you're a bit odd (although I doubt it, given that no one thinks badly of someone they had a week of fabulous sex with). Or that he is now married, in which case at least you can draw a line under it.

ah, you've done it - sorry, did not RTFT.

YOU MUST REPORT BACK 😁

Ooo this is exciting OP - it’s fate!

I'd just say a quick hello, do you remember me, sorry for not getting in touch because I lost your number, saw your news article, congratulations, etc. But I wouldn't expect anything to come from it personally. 7 years is a long time.

I am so sorry - I am genuinely only commenting because it's in your username. Don't hate me!

LOSE - sounds like LOO-Z - means 'LOSE WEIGHT'
LOOSE - sounds like LOO-SS - means 'THESE JEANS FEEL LOOSE'.

So the phrase would be 'nothing to LOSE'.

Again, literally only picking this up because it's in your username and I'd feel bad if you didn't know this. If you did, and it's just a joke: apologies.

Id absolutely do it. Be prepared though, if he is responsive, revisiting the places/people of our youth can be very uncomfortable for the light it sheds on our present & future.
I’d send him the message I’d want to receive in this (and every other) situation. That said I send regrettable and ill considered messages all the time and I’m still alive, so.
Lastly I’d really be prepared for the strong feelings this might provoke. I’m guessing we are about the same age, and it’s a bad one if you are given to maudlin ruminations on the paths we didn’t take in life. But you sound like you have your shit together so why not.

Go for it! Life is short.
A simple message but just don't have any expectations!

No, I’m seeing it “Loose” as in “let loose the juice”.

Which is not actually true, I’m just bothered by language police. There is no official standard of English in the U.K. There is only the motivation/incentive of being understood, and any fule can understand “loose” as “lose”.
so there.

I'm glad you messaged him. Otherwise, you'd spend your time thinking, what if. This way, you will know, even if he ignores you, or tells you he is happily married with kids - you will know you tried. And at best, you could end up with a good friendship or a new partner. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best and all that.

(Obviously just here for the update. 😉)

Very fair and less of a flaming than I expected.

But I think you're confusing 'standard English' as 'standard spoken English'. There is a standard written English. Now, accent police can get tae fook (!), but spelling...not so much.

Not typing it to shame, I just felt as it was in his/her username they might want a point to land. I may also be wrong about the purpose of the username. But I'm sooooo not wrong about the difference between LOSE and LOOSE, but am willing to accept it's not important here.

**Exits stage right, head hung in faux, but apologetic, shame.