Is there something going on with me and a friends husband?

[CyprusLiving]

So, I am married. A very close friend of mine is married. We all have lots of social meet ups with just us 4, and with other friends too.

When we are sober, me and friends husband don't speak much at all, when we do it is immensly awkward and always about the kids as we don't know what else to say.

When we drink alcohol it is completley different. Always making fun of eachother and having great banter. I have noticed we are keeping eye contact longer than usual now. He would always put an arm around our other friends, even when around their husbands (this is usual of all of our husbands, we are all really close and laid back about this). He never once put his arm around me, never had any touching.

BUT.

The day before christmas eve, me, my friend and the husband in question went to the pub (we live on a military base so knew most of the people there). I got upset at something unrelated and walked off and he followed and we had a deep chat. The rest of the night was weird, he worked behind the bar for a bit and didn't let me buy a drink, eye contact was insane. I'd be dancing and he would be looking over even though his wife was in a different direction. He put his arm around me, then I noticed we would be stood arm in arm regularly, he seemed to be pulling me closely towards him. He waked past me and brushed my hip with his hand, would hold my hand to take me to the dance floor through the crowd. He kissed my forehead when hugging me goodbye.
But also throughout the night he would be kissing his wife in front of me.
I made a joke about my husband being lucky to have me on his quiz team as he won, and the man in question replied "he's lucky in many ways".

Then yesterday (christmas day), I went to their house for evening drinks. Again the eye contact and banter was huge. I walked in with another of our friends. He hugged me, again kissed my head, then hugged my friend but no kiss (I noticed he kissed my head and wanted to see if it was just what he does to everyone or just me?)

Basically I have no idea if he is flirting with me or just being friendly, and confused why we don't speak when sober.
I do find him attractive, and if i'm being fully honest, I most likely do flirt with him when drunk.

I'm spending new years eve with them also, and our friends and my husband and I just want to know whats going on.

You're not much of a friend if you flirt with her husband.

What a shitty friend you are

Are you really this man’s wife?

You sound pathetically attention seeking. Sort yourself out and get a grip before good friends all become ex friends as it is always the woman who is blamed in these situations. Why don't you ask the opinion of your DH? See how he feels about you putting it out there by flirting with your friend's husband? Give your head a big wobble.

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I think you know very well what's going on and are revelling in it.

Recipe for disaster

You both know what you are doing. Stop playing dumb.

And stop flirting with other men. Disrespectful to your husband and your friend.

Grim

Stay sober and away from him.

These wattpad erotic fictions are getting worse 🤢

ffs

So you're seeking validation and ego kibbles from a close friend's husband... how grim.

This WILL end in tears, his behaviour is irrelevant, you need to send a strong message that you're not out for betraying your husband, close friend and the families!

Grow up!

Agree totally with @Tiggal

You’re at a military base in Cyprus lusting after some married guy and typing out paragraph after paragraph obsessing over him? 😄 gross.

What does your DH think? 🥴clearly not very attentive…

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Are you not hugely insulted that he thinks you’re up for it when he’s drunk?

You know what’s going on. You said it yourself, you are flirting with him.

I'm sorry but this reads too much "beginning of the affair".... Not really buying it.

Oh my you are so lucky. A man who is married to your friend who can’t think of anything to say to you when sober, wants to shah you. But only when he is drunk! And even better, he has no respect for your husband or his wife. Nor do you!

What a lucky woman you are! This is the stuff of fairytales!

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He's a sleaze & a rubbish husband. You're a sleaze & no sort of friend.

Put Mr Slimy down quickly, whilst he's still just groping your hips in passing.

Or you'll find yourself drunkenly shagging him somewhere embarrassing, the whole base will know about it by sunrise, & you'll have totally fucked your marriage.

I'd say you've already made your friendship with Slimy's poor wife impossible. Hope she's got better mates around her.

Always, but always, there's someone blaming the husband.