Is there something going on with me and a friends husband?

[CyprusLiving]

So, I am married. A very close friend of mine is married. We all have lots of social meet ups with just us 4, and with other friends too.

When we are sober, me and friends husband don't speak much at all, when we do it is immensly awkward and always about the kids as we don't know what else to say.

When we drink alcohol it is completley different. Always making fun of eachother and having great banter. I have noticed we are keeping eye contact longer than usual now. He would always put an arm around our other friends, even when around their husbands (this is usual of all of our husbands, we are all really close and laid back about this). He never once put his arm around me, never had any touching.

BUT.

The day before christmas eve, me, my friend and the husband in question went to the pub (we live on a military base so knew most of the people there). I got upset at something unrelated and walked off and he followed and we had a deep chat. The rest of the night was weird, he worked behind the bar for a bit and didn't let me buy a drink, eye contact was insane. I'd be dancing and he would be looking over even though his wife was in a different direction. He put his arm around me, then I noticed we would be stood arm in arm regularly, he seemed to be pulling me closely towards him. He waked past me and brushed my hip with his hand, would hold my hand to take me to the dance floor through the crowd. He kissed my forehead when hugging me goodbye.
But also throughout the night he would be kissing his wife in front of me.
I made a joke about my husband being lucky to have me on his quiz team as he won, and the man in question replied "he's lucky in many ways".

Then yesterday (christmas day), I went to their house for evening drinks. Again the eye contact and banter was huge. I walked in with another of our friends. He hugged me, again kissed my head, then hugged my friend but no kiss (I noticed he kissed my head and wanted to see if it was just what he does to everyone or just me?)

Basically I have no idea if he is flirting with me or just being friendly, and confused why we don't speak when sober.
I do find him attractive, and if i'm being fully honest, I most likely do flirt with him when drunk.

I'm spending new years eve with them also, and our friends and my husband and I just want to know whats going on.

He's a fucking sleazeball and you are on the way to becoming one.

Have you mistaken this for Cheatersnet.com, OP?

Sounds like True Love. 🙄

But you do know what’s going on? It’s what you and he have engineered?

This honestly reads like you’re a teenager. Waking away ‘upset’ expecting a man to follow you? Flirting, touching, being openly interested in one another then feigning ignorance and asking what’s happening?

this was just so embarrassing and cringe-worthy to read. You’ve both embarrassed yourselves and humiliated your spouses in front of everyone you know.

What an attention seeking drunken crappy friend you are.

Cyprus, in your previous thread you detailed your exclusion from social activities after making efforts at friendships. Now that you have this “very close friend” who includes you, how can you justify shitting all over her? Of course, this is in addition to the mockery you’re making of your Husband and 2 children.

You’re on this destructive path of infidelity because you’re flattered by this sleazy manipulator’s booze-inspired moves. He’s playing you like a fiddle and you’ve weakened your boundaries to accommodate and reciprocate.

You’re playing a dangerous game that will ruin lives. Shut this down immediately and stay away on NYE.

Honestly you sound as though you are 12.

I manage HR and the amount of workplace affairs I have seen over the years is unreal. Usually the same story, person craving attention in their marriage, romanticises sleaze’s creepy advances as genuine connection. Often ends up in them drunkenly shagging down an alleyway, getting caught, lives imploding and innocent people getting hurt.

Don’t do that to your family, your friend or yourself. Avoid this man like the plague, especially where alcohol is involved. Perhaps take some time to reflect on why you deemed this acceptable in the first place and address it.

Not going to lie. Reading this thread has made my day.

OP, You're an idiot, he's after a quick shag. Word will get round and everything you know will change.

This tawdry flirting only happens when the pair of you are drunk. Stay sober. Watch him practice his sleazy moves on the other army wives. You’re not special. You’ve revealed you’re keen on an extra marital shag and he’s up for it. Stop fooling yourself this is anything but a degrading and sordid joke.

😂

I want to know more.

Please update us after New Year's Eve.

This HAS to be a reverse, right?

Otherwise I don't see how you have the audacity to call this woman your friend when you have eyes on her husband.

No good can come of this, whatever happens.

Fake being sick this new year. Stay home, stay sober, and stay away from this man.

What did I just read?

Was this a Mills & Boon novel you were attempting to write after too much gin, OP?

Yuck.

God this was embarrassing to read never mind to actually be you OP.

Is there something going on with me and a friends husband! Who let the dogs out woof! woof! Woof! 🙄🙄

I would love an update on this

Me too. I expect the OP is now pregnant and unsure as to how it happened, such is her naiveté ..... 🙄

Either that or she's hawking her piss-poor romantic fiction round publishers much to their amusement.

@CyprusLiving
So, what happened?

Is the op a young girl with a vivid imagination 🤣🤣

It's a matter of time before someone else notices. Put a stop to it now before the shit hits the fan!

Whoopee. He fancies you. And? So what?

He probably fancies several other women that you don't know about.

His poor wife.

ZOMBIE ZOMBIE 🧟