Dating Thread 237 - Wintertide Warmth Support & Festive Frolics and

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

Merry Christmas one and all. Thanks for all the support and dating wisdoms...

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Thanks ! Marking place

🖐 Merry Christmas everyone

Hello! Nothing to report to the mothership.

On the illness side - middle sons girlfriend has pneumonia, mum has severe chest infection and the guy I met a while back that I've stayed in touch with has come out of the hospital after this flu virus.

Youngest is struggling with flu too.

I'm 🤞 I miss it.

Woah @Definitelycross that's a lot of severe horrible illnesses chez vous. Hope the all feel much better very soon. And that you stay well.

Thank you for the new thread. And Merry Christmas all 🎄🤶💕

Thanks for the new thread and merry Christmas all!

I've had a busy but fun morning/afternoon with kids and now relaxing until they come back home again tomorrow afternoon.

Friday nights date didn't happen so I've unmatched and deleted number and chat. Still chatting sporadically with one and discussed resuming in new year with another and sorting a meet.

Checking in…MERRY CHRISTMAS 🎅 🎄🎉🍷🎁💝

Dropping in for some sympathy…
I’ve been (happily) single for nearly 7 years and dip in and out of the apps every now and again (average 2/3 dates a year).

2 months ago I met someone I could see myself building a relationship with… we’ve been having lots of lovely dates, very complimentary and saying all the right things. He joined me on a Christmas night out last night, all going very well til the end of the night when he started cracking on to one of the girls that was out with us!

I’m sure it will be a funny date story I’ll
laugh about one day, but it stings a bit at the moment :/

Oh @bunsnroses1 please accept my sympathy... that's totally shit, the timing is shit, and it's hurtful if you saw a future with him... BUT also acknowledge that this is the (very harsh) way of finding out he's not worth your time or energy, which leaves you free for better things. Don't let this get you down or dwell on it please, he wasn't the right guy.

Thanks for the new thread. Haven't been speaking to the guy from OLD much due to being busy, and maybe I'm putting it off 😳

And sorry all for stepping into the thread, I've watched (stalked?!) this thread for ages but not joined in properly because I'm single but still getting myself to a place I'm open enough to date from and I don't imagine I'd fare well on the apps...( driest texter EVER ) But it's been 9 years ffs. I'm going to do it this coming year - wish me luck pls 😂

@bunsnroses1 that’s ridiculous, does he have no shame? Can understand why it stings but it honestly says more about him than you x

Checking in.. still following the thread and enjoying hearing all your updates.

Still with Mr Beard and enjoying our time together, this will be our second Christmas. And I am now officially divorced! So whether or not we last longer-term, I have taken away from this that a happy healthy relationship can be found via online dating ☺️

Aww thank you xxx
I was still very much at the watch and observe stage of the getting to know him, so no major investment, but still wounded pride.
He text to apologise (said he drank too much, too fast) and ask if we were still on for a walk on the 27th! 😂

Best of luck. New year is always a good time!

…was he just flirting inoffensively or really into the other girl? I don’t understand, if he was going out with you, why was there another girl there??

I was out with friends for Christmas drinks… no he deffo crossed the line with touchy feely chatting/arm round her waist. Actually said to me that she was a sexbomb (he said that twice so that was nice).

What a dick. I'm so sorry but happy you found out early.

It's the shameless asking if you're still on for a walk too 🤦‍♀️

Well MrT who thinks it's acceptable to bob in and out of my life, promising all sorts, as and when he sees fit - started messaging this evening.

I fancy him a lot but I know it's pointless. He's all mouth and trousers.

I'm trying to stay strong.

Wow…second Christmas together…fantastic
I have to admit in almost 7 years…bar 8 months off ( not really but we tried)with Mr Ex, we have never spent Xmas together. Me with my kids and family…him with DC and family. I think for the time being…it will stay this way ( supposing we are together then!)

Stay strong Deffy…remind me who this Mr T was…

Ok then…bin him. Sex bomb my arse…

Thank you- that made me laugh 😂

@Stayingstrongish thank you for giving us hope.

@Mila14 MrT is the prolific sexter who was supposed to come to my city in the holidays but he has a habit of promising but not following through 🙄

bunsnroses1

noooooo . I’m going to allow you a small pity party
that’s really gross behaviour
im shocked actually that’s just NOT cool

maybe he catch a painful STD

hope you forget him soon

Ah…wanker alert then