Women flirt with my DH infront of me

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I find it so odd but they actively flirt with my DH infront of me. It goes completely over DH’s head, he’d a good looking guy and approachable, we was out for a rare night out on Saturday and with us mid conversation a few women would come over and compliment his shirt, say how familiar looking he is, asking if they know him etc..

He definitely doesn’t play away, faithful as an old sheepdog 😅, it’s all infront of me so nothing untoward, he doesn’t act sheepish and is an open book. I don’t get pissed off about it, infact I don’t say a word, just watch the conversation unfold smiling away 😂

But isn’t it odd?! I wouldn’t and have never gone over to a guy clearly out with another woman (we both have clear wedding rings on, touchy feely and snogging each other’s faces off most of the night) and start a conversation.

Has anyone else experienced this?

It had been so long since we’d had a night out together I’d forgotten that it happens 😆

I thought this only happened to famous people!!!

never seen this happen myself.

sorry not v helpful

Are you attractive yourself, OP?

I remember reading about a celebrity couple although I can't remember who it was and the woman saying it was a bloody nightmare going out as sometimes women would actively position themselves between her and her husband.

Women have always flirted with my DH - he is very handsome and charming. I used to be more affected when we were in our 20s but I'm very confident in our relationship.... It doesn't affect me now.

If he doesn't respond back just let it go over your head. Do men flirt with you?

Yup. My husband is good looking and friendly, and has been chatted up in front of me. I've also caught other women checking him out and when they saw that I was watching, they turned away, embarrassed. Having said that, I've been chatted up too, sometimes with him and sometimes without. My husband is extremely loyal and finds it funny. But I also think he is totally unaware sometimes.

😂 we’re definitely not famous!

Seriously, it happens often. One actually high fived my DH for how good he looked 😬 I wouldn’t dare!

We’re well matched and I’m just short of 20 years younger 😉 it’s women of all ages that do it.

No, I might get the eye off men but they’re never bold enough to come over, I think I’d shit my pants if a guy came and flirted with me now, especially infront of the hubby 🥲

I haven’t experienced that with a partner. But I do remember women getting all girly and flirty with my dad. He came to pick me up from work and the next day my female coworkers (all
older than me, I was the youngest one there) practically jumped on me to ask about my dad and tell me how gorgeous he was.

I was like eww what the hell
is wrong with you. He’s good looking but obviously I don’t see him the way they did.

I think some people just have that effect on others. Who knows why.

With you being a bit younger, do they realise that you’re a couple?

@ImustLearn2Cook I used to get exactly the same with my parents!! 😆 boys from school would drool over my mum and girls and mums from school would drool over my dad, dad is now happily with a woman a year younger than me.

I know just what you mean, it’s like a bloody super power! Ooh if only I could harvest it!

This happened to me when I was dating my DH and in my early 30s. It generally happened in nightclubs and lively pubs. When we go more settled we srarted going to hotel bars and it didn't happen.

FWIW U am very quiet. Dh is very friendly and outgoing. I looked young and 'studenty' at the time not a follower of fashion. Maybe they thought we weren't a couple. Maybe they thought I looked so quiet that they could get away with it. I didn't ever act cross or cause a scene.

No words of advice except maybe insert yourself into the conversation while acting couply eg 'we' are doing x.

Maybe they don't think you're together if you're that much younger. Either way it's crossing the line a bit. Maybe suggest he wears a glow in the dark wedding ring🤣

Yes, it happens and has happened to Dp in front of me. I left for the toilet whilst in the sauna, came back and he was chatting with a woman. We saw this woman (And her friend) whilst having dinner. Then she approached the bar asking to join us, she spent all evening moaning about her husband and complimenting Dp (All men her age are fat, but you, look great, if I left my hubby all the good men like you are taken, etc, etc).

One of the school mums asked where he was living and if he was with anyone last week.🙄
On the other hand, men flirt with me all the time.😯

@sausageofdoom were very tactile, infact the impromptu high five meant he had to take hand off my inner thigh so.. 😬😆

@user1471554720 yes, I did take great pleasure in the nice lady that complimented his shirt by saying I got it on sale in primark 😂

@PrincessConstance 😂 thats bloody brilliant! I’d have loved to have been a fly on the wall with the “where’s he living” conversation

I went to a music festival with my BIL one year and girls were literally throwing themselves at him in front of me (I could have been his gf for all they knew). They were calling him "Adonis", and shouting sexual remarks. I was absolutely gobsmacked. Opened my eyes to how hypocritical we can be over men's behaviour when women overtly do this without any shame!

I think your husband should tell them he's out with his wife and so would they mind leaving as you are having a private conversation.
There's no way I'd put up with that. Some girl did it when gh and I were young (students) and I found it to be so rude. I told dh (who was being very polite and probably enjoying the attention) that it was embarrassing and inappropriate and if he allowed that situation to happen again there'd be trouble!

it doesn’t happen often. However, once a random girl was all over my very drunk and oblivious boyfriend. I was stood nearby and told her that’s my boyfriend, to which she answered “so what?”, and proceeded to rip his shirt open! Like half the buttons were ripped off. Needless to say bf and I were promptly dragged out of the club by our friends as I started mouthing off at her. I was outraged and I wanted to go back in to give her a piece of my mind but decided it wasn’t worth it (lucky I’m not the violent sort, I’m sure some would have slapped her).

@drkpl ooh if she’d have ripped his half price primark shirt I’d have been livid! 😂

@ImAvingOops it genuinely takes me by surprise every time it happens, the women are so brazen. DH would never ask them to leave, he’s far too much of a people pleaser 😬

Although on another evening, I went out for a smoke, and I struck up a conversation with the doorman. I was outside for 15 mins. That went down like a lead balloon.😳
He's pretty chilled, I go out, stop away for nights and hols, and work with my ex.
He was very snippy after my conversation went on for too long.

Well OP, your husband needs to decide which people he wants to please - his wife or some random women!

"DH would never ask them to leave, he’s far too much of a people pleaser 😬"

Oh dear

Yeah this happens to both me and DP. Though location doesn't seem to matter that much, last time it happened we were at a smoothie place.

I remember one occasion on a Sunday morning visit to Macky D's with my partner of the time and our young baby, who he was cuddling on his knee.
Some women were looking over all the time and as we passed to leave one shouted, "Me' mate fancies ya!"
Ex was totally oblivious, speaking very little English and even less northern dialect 😂

It’s just so odd and rude though isn’t it? I’d be interested to know what they think they’re getting out of it because I definitely don’t rise to the occasion for an argument, he definitely doesn’t run off into the sunset with them or flirt back so what do they get out of it?

I suppose god loves a trier!

I guess there are women perverts as well as men. Pretty sad really. Can you imagine a man coming up and high fiving a woman for being good looking 🤮

I get this with my DP as well. I find it amusing as he's slightly bald, skinny as a rake, middle aged and is socially awkward. In fact he's so unaware that he is being chatted up that I usually end up pointing it out to him after the woman has left (sometimes they throw a sideways glance at me). I'm a few years older than him so I guess those women think he may be interested as they appear younger, who knows.