Women flirt with my DH infront of me

[Eyeeyeeyeeye]

I find it so odd but they actively flirt with my DH infront of me. It goes completely over DH’s head, he’d a good looking guy and approachable, we was out for a rare night out on Saturday and with us mid conversation a few women would come over and compliment his shirt, say how familiar looking he is, asking if they know him etc..

He definitely doesn’t play away, faithful as an old sheepdog 😅, it’s all infront of me so nothing untoward, he doesn’t act sheepish and is an open book. I don’t get pissed off about it, infact I don’t say a word, just watch the conversation unfold smiling away 😂

But isn’t it odd?! I wouldn’t and have never gone over to a guy clearly out with another woman (we both have clear wedding rings on, touchy feely and snogging each other’s faces off most of the night) and start a conversation.

Has anyone else experienced this?

It had been so long since we’d had a night out together I’d forgotten that it happens 😆

Tbf i probably wouldn’t assume a woman 20 years younger was his wife if I saw you together
so unless they’ve been staring at you for ages they may not realise.

alternatively maybe he seems safe and non threatening because he’s with you and you’re clearly together, they can talk and have a nice conversation, they can appreciate his good looks in the same way they would another woman, plenty of women will tell other women how pretty or sexy they are

This is what I was thinking.
Maybe the women think it’s a father and daughter out together.

He could politely say, lovely to meet you and now I'll have to say goodbye as I'm on a night out with my lovely wife and she deserves my full attention, big smile, off they go, job done 😊

We was sat at the bar for around 30 minutes when the ‘high five’ incident happened.. heavily petting, snogging, holding hands, we definitely didn’t look like friends or family members 😅 she also said “we’ve been watching you for ages and just wanted to come over to say how amazing your shirt is on you, where is it from?” he then answers.”You look amazing in it! Can I get a high five for how fit you look in this shirt?!” 😂 He high fives said woman and off she slopes looking back at me 😏

I definitely don’t snog my dad or go on nights out alone with him.. infact I’d find that more odd 😫😅

So maybe it's less about "women flirt with my DH" than "my DH allows women to flirt with him"?

Although he got arsey when you had a nice chat with a doorman that time?
Not cool.

People would often flirt with my much younger husband despite me giving them evils. It used to piss me off.

@KettrickenSmiled I haven’t had a nice chat with a doorman? 🤔

Youre probably right, but without sounding bat shit crazy at what point do I say.. “stop talking to flirty women when we’re out!” And still sound sane and like he doesn’t have to be stiff as a board on a night out? 😆 Poor guy can’t win can he really?

I suppose you could use exactly the words he used to tick you off for chatting to the doorman?

@Bestcatmum how did you deal with it with the hubby? Did you say anything or move on like me? It’s a fine line pointing out someone else flirting with your OH when they’re not really shutting it down but also not flirting back isn’t it?

@KettrickenSmiled i havnt had a chat with a doorman? 😆 I think you’ve confused me with a pp maybe?

I currently have this problem with a gay male friend.
We socialise a lot with him (as part of a big friendship group) and he's clearly got the hots for dh.

Once he's had a few drinks he almost corners dh and becomes very touchy feely with him.
It bugs me and makes dh feel very uncomfortable!

@otherwayup ooh tough one! Poor DH! I’d definitely be having words or phasing out the friendship I’m afraid. Gay or straight would be irrelevant to me, they’re disrespecting both of you drunk or not. You must be livid!

That poster was @PrincessConstance not the OP.

This happens to me. Dh is good looking and I dear reader am not. We've been together a while I laugh inwardly, as I know he has no idea. At a party once a woman he vaugley knew approached him and told him she was going abroad and they might not see each other again with the insinuation that she fancied him. He said 'oh well' and walked off!

You were 'heavy petting' and snogging in front of people? How grim. You sound a bit ridiculous OP

@Mrsandor oh my DH would have stood there for as long it took for her to tell him her whole itinerary! 😆

@monicagellerbing so do you reading a whole thread and finding time to comment on someone you think is ridiculous.. It’s such a shame for you are you ok?

I must admit I agree. Get a room 🤢

@LimitIsUp 😂👍🏻 You both sound like you need a good public snog all out in the open.. tongues the lot!

You don’t know what you’re missing 😉

Never mind the snogging, what does the heavy petting mean?

Was about to say similar. Stealth boast OP? Are you a teenage girl? We're not at school swapping tales of who snogged who.

You’re probably imagining it, or at the very least exhibiting confirmation bias. The two women I know who both complain about this with their spouses view perfectly normal social interactions as indicating their partners are irresistible to women, when no one else present in the immediate vicinity has noticed anything at all untoward, and both men are pleasant but quite ordinary looking.

Mmmm public 'heavy petting'. They probably think you're swingers OP

It most likely a distraction technique to try and stop you 'snogging and heavy petting'
In a public place? Gross

Mumsnet really livens up after 4:40 doesn’t it? 😆

😂 @Ethelfromnumber73 made me chuckle, I’ve never looked at a couple snogging and thought .. “Well that looks like an open invite if I’ve ever seen one!”