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Women flirt with my DH infront of me

183 replies

Eyeeyeeyeeye · 05/12/2022 14:18

I find it so odd but they actively flirt with my DH infront of me. It goes completely over DH’s head, he’d a good looking guy and approachable, we was out for a rare night out on Saturday and with us mid conversation a few women would come over and compliment his shirt, say how familiar looking he is, asking if they know him etc..

He definitely doesn’t play away, faithful as an old sheepdog 😅, it’s all infront of me so nothing untoward, he doesn’t act sheepish and is an open book. I don’t get pissed off about it, infact I don’t say a word, just watch the conversation unfold smiling away 😂

But isn’t it odd?! I wouldn’t and have never gone over to a guy clearly out with another woman (we both have clear wedding rings on, touchy feely and snogging each other’s faces off most of the night) and start a conversation.

Has anyone else experienced this?

It had been so long since we’d had a night out together I’d forgotten that it happens 😆

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MermaidEyes · 06/12/2022 15:49

Tipsyturvychocolatemonster · 05/12/2022 19:07

I’ve never seen anything like this it’s so odd indeed it not only happens to your husband but your parents as well, people were drooling over them,

im sure no exaggeration here so I’d say what a cool story bro

Where do all these stunning people live? Definitely not in my neck of the woods. Distinctly average looking folk round here.

girlmom21 · 06/12/2022 15:51

I'd suggest that perhaps the excessive PDA's make it look like he's pulled you that night rather than you being married so they think he's free to play the field.

TofuonToast · 06/12/2022 15:53

Yes, with an ex. Women would elbow me out of the way to get to him. My DH is objectively much better looking than my ex and it never happens. Go figure.

Trollsintheforest · 06/12/2022 15:55

monicagellerbing · 05/12/2022 16:40

You were 'heavy petting' and snogging in front of people? How grim. You sound a bit ridiculous OP

This. Stay at home ffs, noone wants to go out to dinner and see this. You sound insecure.

Pipsquiggle · 06/12/2022 15:56

So he must be at least 40?

Initially to look at, if you are not 'heavy petting' you probably look like a father / daughter relationship. That's probably why he is getting the eye.

NoGoodUsernamee · 06/12/2022 16:16

dad is now happily with a woman a year younger than me.

weird.

Pipsquiggle · 06/12/2022 16:20

I was trying to remember the last time I saw a 40 odd year old man 'snogging someone else's face off' ..............................and I really can't.

It sounds seedy TBH

Pipsquiggle · 06/12/2022 16:21

Oh I remember..................Matt Hancock ...................and it was seedy

MermaidEyes · 06/12/2022 16:24

girlmom21 · 06/12/2022 15:51

I'd suggest that perhaps the excessive PDA's make it look like he's pulled you that night rather than you being married so they think he's free to play the field.

Could be this, usually on a night out the only couples snogging for England are those that have just met and are hoping to get lucky

Ittybittytittycomittee · 06/12/2022 16:30

Eyeeyeeyeeye · 05/12/2022 14:18

I find it so odd but they actively flirt with my DH infront of me. It goes completely over DH’s head, he’d a good looking guy and approachable, we was out for a rare night out on Saturday and with us mid conversation a few women would come over and compliment his shirt, say how familiar looking he is, asking if they know him etc..

He definitely doesn’t play away, faithful as an old sheepdog 😅, it’s all infront of me so nothing untoward, he doesn’t act sheepish and is an open book. I don’t get pissed off about it, infact I don’t say a word, just watch the conversation unfold smiling away 😂

But isn’t it odd?! I wouldn’t and have never gone over to a guy clearly out with another woman (we both have clear wedding rings on, touchy feely and snogging each other’s faces off most of the night) and start a conversation.

Has anyone else experienced this?

It had been so long since we’d had a night out together I’d forgotten that it happens 😆

Have you ever thought that they might just be being friendly?

YaWeeFurryBastard · 06/12/2022 16:37

Worldgonecrazy · 06/12/2022 15:45

I have to keep an eye out at concerts. So many women seem to think it’s okay to fondle Mr Crazy’s bottom. It’s a very cute and sexy bottom (attached to a very handsome man) and I completely understand that some women might find him very attractive, but there is no way a man would feel my bum if I was obviously with another male, yet some drunken woman think it’s okay to grope my OH.

As someone upthread said, it’s double standards.

😂😂😂😂😂 does he go out in hot pants or something? The bullshit some people spout is unreal

Goodgrief82 · 06/12/2022 16:40

There is something very grim about this scenario.

It is not the women who are supposedly falling over themselves for your husband OP to be clear, it’s you and your DH that’s making some of us feel queasy

BigCheeseSandwich · 06/12/2022 16:52

“One actually high fived my DH for how good he looked“

..and then everyone in the bar clapped

Trollsintheforest · 06/12/2022 16:54

BigCheeseSandwich · 06/12/2022 16:52

“One actually high fived my DH for how good he looked“

..and then everyone in the bar clapped

No, they burst out singing For he’s a jolly good fellow..I’m sure of it! (or was it Hallelujah..?)

FootfallFootball · 06/12/2022 17:04

I think these women are unkind to do this. It does sound flirtatious.
That said, I'm single and I've been given evils by wives for being animated in the presence of their husband and other people. So just speaking in an animated way about something while the husband stands three feet from me and I don't even fancy him. I have stopped socialising with couples unless I am very close to the wife. My close female friends trust me as they know my lifestyle is nun-like and I hate complications.

Minimalme · 06/12/2022 18:49

If I saw an older guy snogging and groping a younger woman in the bar, I would assume they had just pulled each other.

I think your problem is that you don't look like a married couple with all the PDA, so people assume he some kind of Adonis.

Minimalme · 06/12/2022 18:50

Or rich...or both.

Blip · 06/12/2022 19:07

I agree they probably don't think you are in a serious relationship if the age gap is this big, even if they do realise he's not your dad!

ClareBlue · 06/12/2022 20:32

monicagellerbing · 05/12/2022 17:55

I'm fine thanks @Eyeeyeeyeeye you're the one who finds 'heavy petting' in public acceptable. You mention you're 20 years younger than your oh so attractive DH. Are you 16 and he's 36?

Hopefully not as her dad is with someone younger than her😬

workiskillingme · 06/12/2022 21:03

Most of this sounds well within the realms of fantasy im sorry

Worldgonecrazy · 06/12/2022 21:27

YaWeeFurryBastard · 06/12/2022 16:37

😂😂😂😂😂 does he go out in hot pants or something? The bullshit some people spout is unreal

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Usually Levis. Not sure any man would look good in hot pants!

Mamma2017 · 07/12/2022 02:52

Trollsintheforest · 06/12/2022 16:54

No, they burst out singing For he’s a jolly good fellow..I’m sure of it! (or was it Hallelujah..?)

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼brilliant

DrNo007 · 07/12/2022 03:23

I used to have a very good looking and intelligent male friend and he was always being approached by women like this when I was with him so for all they knew I was his girlfriend or wife but that didn’t put them off at all. They would flirt with him outrageously—one even shoved her tits in his face—and totally ignore me. Incredibly rude and my friend was absolutely bored and unimpressed by the show, and gave them no encouragement.

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emptythelitterbox · 07/12/2022 05:44

The only time I've had this happen was when me and my bf at the time were teenagers. A couple girls walked by giggling and said he was hot.

More often the wife or girlfriend was grabbing him and pulling him close or said stop looking at her, like I'd really be interested in her balding paunchy below average partner.

I can be charming and friendly when out but it certainly is not flirting.