Women flirt with my DH infront of me

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I find it so odd but they actively flirt with my DH infront of me. It goes completely over DH’s head, he’d a good looking guy and approachable, we was out for a rare night out on Saturday and with us mid conversation a few women would come over and compliment his shirt, say how familiar looking he is, asking if they know him etc..

He definitely doesn’t play away, faithful as an old sheepdog 😅, it’s all infront of me so nothing untoward, he doesn’t act sheepish and is an open book. I don’t get pissed off about it, infact I don’t say a word, just watch the conversation unfold smiling away 😂

But isn’t it odd?! I wouldn’t and have never gone over to a guy clearly out with another woman (we both have clear wedding rings on, touchy feely and snogging each other’s faces off most of the night) and start a conversation.

Has anyone else experienced this?

It had been so long since we’d had a night out together I’d forgotten that it happens 😆

Laughing OP, sorry. This happens occasionally to Dh. He's not particularly good looking. And I'm an absolute dog! 4 times, I can remember. Women, flirting. One Pinched his bum. Another, "I always fancied you when we were at school." Teen ds's think it's hilarious.
I kind of don't. It baffles me. I kind of think it's a bit of a nerve by these women.

”genuinely”…. To you!. His partner! Hardly the most objective perspective

The amount of pics I’ve been shown by buddies over the years and we’re all puzzled as to the fizzog gurning back at us

and no idea what this means!!

@hourbyhour101 oh sorry I misunderstood your post.
It's funny because I am a tanned brunette and have come across guys specifically into redheads and blondes! Can't win them all :)

You are 20 years younger?

Why are you snogging at the bar? 🤮

What an odd/cringeworthy thread! Would be interested to know where all these totally gorgeous men live as I haven't found any (married or single!) in my area! I find my dh very attractive but couldn't imagine women high fiving him! Must be a bit awkward!

Is this a reverse? Are you John Caldwell?

Maybe a trip to spec savers would help.😂

@PrincessConstance no i've been to specsavers before (at the beginning of the year so not long ago!) , there weren't any good looking men there.

I didn't think there would be!🙄

Oh the jezebels! And the adorable, silly, six foot four hot af men who are too kind to say 'please stop disrespecting my wife' so must be guarded like toddlers by their lady owners.

Gawd, the cuntery on here… A nest of vipers.

Bit of an over reaction ! 😂

Could it be other women are getting signals that perhaps you guys are after threesome

Yes it was awful. Women flirting with him, touching him, bitching about me for being with him etc. He thinks I was unfaithful but actually I found someone uglier and less popular because I couldn’t take the pressure. Ironically he cheated on me.oh well.

My ex used to have a real issue with it and I can hardly be stunning as he cheated repeatedly

@hourbyhour101

My dear - cheats don't cheat because they are irresistibly lured by the siren call of beauty. They cheat because they think they deserve to break the promises they expect you to keep, because they feel entitled to cake (see ChumpLady), & because servicing their ego is way more important than fidelity. Or their partner's mental health & happiness.

Please don't sell yourself this false narrative. Of course you are stunning - even your ex thought so, although his opinion is valueless. Your DH thinks so. All the people who chat you up - or even just chat on a friendly basis to you - think you are stunning/approachable/worthwhile/ a decent person.

www.chumplady.com/archives/

Who could blame them what with the PDA's & snogging at the bar - some might read that as a gleeful advertisment ...

I also don’t buy the “DP is stonkingly handsome but he’s just sooooo oblivious”. Every single attractive man I’ve ever known has known they’re good looking, not always in an arrogant way but they certainly know they’re above average, usually from their success rate with women, that tends to be how men look at things. If he doesn’t know he’s attractive it’s probably because he’s bang average to the majority of the population, and there’s nothing wrong with that!

She did! 🤣

He just ignores her.

I don't think she flirts with him as such because she fancies him but she's about 20 years younger than me and I think she assumes that she's more desirable than me by virtue of that fact and she thinks she's showing him what he could have 🤷🏻‍♀️

To be fair that's probably actually a really good point.

Yes, had a very good looking ex (who is lovely and totally blind to how he looks, he’s just incredibly sweet and a do-gooder).

Women would chat him up as we were standing together, one gave him her IG details and was talking about a great date they could go on (!) I guess assuming we weren’t together, one couple asked if when he’s single again he would consider sperm donation (assuming we’d break up… fair enough, we did). At a wedding one girl went to try and sit on his lap repeatedly (she wasn’t drunk) once I’d left the table, wanted him in photos with her (she was a bridesmaid.. he wasn’t a groomsman or anything). We learned very quickly to say almost immediately “my boyfriend/ girlfriend” but then it was sometimes hurtful seeing the reactions!

Then after we broke up I had quite a few ask if I could pass on his details/ ask if he’d be interested. Fair enough but was surprised by some friends who did :/

I believe it's happening; and I also think some wives and girlfriends think it's happening when it's not.
I think both can happen.

So my ex didn’t, because he had horrible parents and siblings, they just ruined his confidence. (They were all pretty good looking and much more professionally successful than him, often put him down)

The best looking man I’ve ever seen in real life was at a wedding. He was about 6’2”, Italian and looked rather like Davide of Love Island fame. Was also wearing the most beautiful suit. He was quite painfully handsome.

Loads of people (male and female) were flirting with him with different degrees of fervour. He just seemed to take it as his due. It was interesting. So, super pleasant to everyone, smiling, amiably receiving his homages, but clearly not particularly fussed. His girlfriend (who was nice looking, but normal in comparison) seemed wholly unconcerned and just wandered off and left them all to it.

Anyway, people occasionally flirt with my DH (no yelling or boob waggling, though!) and I think it’s rather sweet. When he misses it, I point it out to him. Gives him a wee boost. 😁