The silent treatment from a narcissist. Help please.

[SilentRetreat]

To say I've gotten myself into a pickle is an understatement. I've been swept up in a shitstorm and should have known better. But here we are.

I was love bombed, then the devaluing began and now seemingly out of the blue he is ignoring me.

After 8 weeks of intense texting and a physical relationship it's really hard to not message to start a conversation about what is going on.

I saw so many red flags along the way that I chose to ignore, thinking it would be fine as the intensity was fun and why not just let myself kept swept along. I gave in to it against my better judgement.

Now it feels really horrible.

Help me to not text him please wise vipers.

@xJoyPeaceHealthx he did that already. I do believe he reeled me in on the the pretence of friendship so he could block me and regain control.

Now he's looking for round (abuse cycle) 3.

I think you are giving him and the situation too much attention and analysing him and his behaviours in detail. Over and done with. If and when he reappears into your work email - ignore. This way you will move on quicker too.

oh absolutely! I bet he is really CONFUSED that you don't want to be his friend!
Ha!

did the so -called crazy woman see the wood for the trees herself?!

Does he have any legitimate need to email you about work? And if so, would you be the only person the email would be addressed to? I would create an inbox rule that sends anything he writes straight to your archive folder, unless you aren't the only person on the To line. Job done.

I don't know about the crazy ex but I suspect it's much harder for her to avoid him as they work closely.

You've all helped today in giving me an outlet and stop me from giving any reaction to him.

Keep messaging us, rather than him!!

Anyone else you could start dating / chatting with? In my experience, it takes getting under one to get over one….even if only metaphorically! Not encouraging you to get into anything else that might hurt you but I typically find that once the object of my attraction / attention is elsewhere, I totally don’t care about the idiot that’s left behind.

My ex would do this, I'd get an email with just an 'X' on it, I fell for it a number of times, the last time I just ignored it and blocked that email address. Much harder for you op I know, but he's probably bored and in need of entertainment, you just need to remember this.

Does he work in the same organisation as you? If not you can get his email blocked by IT dept, or possibly get a new slightly different email address and migrate away from the one you currently have?

He's in the same building/same business. He's very senior but not quite top. Passed him in the corridor this morning and he asked if I was alright. I managed a cheerful "Yep good" and kept moving. Best I can do in the circumstances.

I think blocking work email unnecessary if I can just ignore successfully.

This will get easier.

All of this!!

Block and Grey Rock time (google grey rock) xx

Yeah, it will get easier. He’ll give up soonish I’d imagine.

what a prick