I opened Xmas gifts early and hate them :(

[Dawb]

So DP has taken DD to soft play this morning (rare). I’m using the time to have a clean around and found a box from my favourite website shop and decided to open it. I know very bad. I realised it was my Xmas gifts and still chose to open it while no one was in. The website isn’t designer or major expensive, but not cheap either.

The box contains nothing I like at all. The site sells different brands (think retro) and I’ve never heard of a few of them in the box. A few others completely inappropriate (think allergies to cosmetics).

I feel so so mean literally not liking any of it. He has spent I would say at least £150 on a load of expensive tat. I wouldn’t wear or use any of it.

DP is far from romantic. He does try but I think due to his upbringing he is a bit of a robot. I feel so so mean telling him - ‘thanks for trying but what on earth were you thinking’. I’m also feeling a bit down that he really hasn’t got a clue - and probably never will.

Apart from not being romantic or spontaneous he is a lovely partner. Can’t discuss with my best friend as her DP is being such a CF at the moment and would kill for a DP like mine. What do I do? Please help!

I thought you were 8.5 months pg? Sorry if I've misunderstood.

Over 20yrs ago my then partner bought me the ugliest watch I've ever seen in my life, for xmas, even my grandmother said it was vile and said she would never wear it.
He bought me this despite the fact I already had at least 5 beautiful, elegant watches, so it wasn't a though I needed one!
I told him 'thank you' when I opened it and just left it on a shelf.
A few months later, on my birthday, he bought me various plants to put into the conservatory despite the fact that my cats frequented it, the plants were all poisonous to them and he was actually a horticulturalist, I left the plants in the where he'd put them (spare bedroom, definitely not my conservatory), where they died.
Come the following xmas, he suddenly remembered the watch and asked where it was coz he'd never seen me wear it, it was at that point that I told him straight how awful it was and queried his reasoning for buying a watch at all. He also brought up the plants and I told him they were probably where he'd left them.
I left him before he had chance to buy any more dreadful gifts.

Since you're actually allergic to some of the gifts AND they weren't hidden, I think it's perfectly fine to say you've found them, query if they are for you and then tell him you appreciate the gesture but due to allergies you can't wear them. It's not wrong.

Having said that, you do sound a bit ungrateful too and as though DP can do no right.

Bung him my way...

Sorry OP but I think you sound like a spoiled ungrateful brat. I feel quite sorry for your husband.

Dude. If he'd bought you £150 worth of items you like you'd not be harping on about the £10 limit.

Just be thankful you're getting a lovely Christmas abroad with no family drama and quietly re gift items you won't use over the year ffs.

I don't even know the guy and I feel sorry for him.

Well, I’m glad you were honest with him. I once detested everything DH had bought me but of course pretended I was happy on Christmas Day. Told him the next day I didn’t like any of it and wanted to return it all though .

He’s largely stopped guessing with presents now because he just isn’t good at it! Not long after we met he bought me a Pandora bracelet for my birthday because he guessed all women liked shit like that and I just don’t so it was a total waste.