i have been on Mumsnet for 10 years - mostly lurking. Occasionally posting. I knew the script. I knew it.
DP started a chat with me a few weeks ago. He’s not happy. Doesn’t think I’m happy. We need to sort out the relationship and decide if there is something there (we are great mates but being partners had been pushed aside because of kids and work and Covid)…or if we should amicably separare
I agreed we weren’t in a good place (we weren’t) and we spent a few weeks trying to be nicer to each other and make time. He tells me he thinks it’s working.
I went and re-read the script just in case and thought all good.
got to work Monday and a dad from school reached out to tell me his wife and my DH were shagging. And sent proof. Which DH confirmed. And explained he hadn’t told me as he didn’t want to hurt me. And that they are in love.
Right….
So anyway, it’s over. We are going to share custody and I’m going to try to maintain some kind of effective parenting relationship
we are going to tell the kids Friday night. Plan to do the ‘we love you very much but…convo’
i would love some advice though from anyone who has been through this
eg what’s a good message? What do you wish you said? What do you wish you hadn’t said? Any tips on how to do it
and what about OW? Do I make us/him/me say something? Instinct is no but it’s a mum from school and I don’t know who else knows. I’d hate for them to find out in the playground or from someone else.
kids are 10 and 12 if that makes a difference?
thank you.
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Do you tell the kids about the OW?
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LoveHarry · 01/12/2022 07:38
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