Dating Thread 236 - Swiping, Blocking and Video Calls

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

New thread!

@mila, I never named him, maybe it was a sign! No, he is a healthcare worker and we had major struggles with schedules but have been together 2 years. A lot of positives and I'll take those forward but we have always struggled to get time together and sometimes I didn't feel like I was a priority. I have been awkward to be fair since the disappointment of my birthday weekend but didnt want things to end either. To be fair I don't think he really did either but we have bickered so much. Too much it seems.

LuckyLinda3

oh dear
sounds like a major xmas spat ?

when he says let’s leave it
does he mean talking for a few days while things calm down ?

or ending the relationship in totality ?

sympathies I’m also sparring this end !

Anyway sorry Linda
hope this hasn’t totally ruined your day

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss yes indeed it was him. I think that what you have with Mr Cars is much more real and is very much a slowly evolving relationship, and as @Mila14 has said you are in control and are not being swept along with the emotions and feelings. Apart from the big O as a result of all the fabulous sex 😁

@Thisisworsethananticpated I think he meant entirely yes.

Bailed out of tonight's rendezvous and first sleepover at MrCars as felt a bit off colour, my teens had a fraught Xmas get together with their dad and weren't convinced they'd be able to handle the late night turkey and trimmings delivery.

Going tomorrow instead which will mean going to the pub with a couple he knows. I can't recall the last time I socialised with actual grown ups so very excited for that.

So sorry @ownedbygreyhounds I've missed the story of what happened with MrNHS but feel it has happened very fast as the physicals were lusty and soon after meeting which wasn't that long ago.

Blokes can be quite weird is what I've learned from my OLD dabblings. Full on then not, mad/bad and/or sad

I'm sorry. His loss etc. Bummer though.

LuckyLinda3

ok 🙁
how do you feel about that ?

i have ended both my previous relationship at Xmas NY

fuck knows why but it’s a time when you take stock

and maybe envisage a happier new year not stressing about those fuxkers!

@Thisisworsethananticpated aw I really didnt want us to end but equally feel that he was taking us a bit for granted and although not deliberately, seeing to other things before us. As far as I know he had booked tickets for us to attend an event on 28th so I'm giving it a few days to see. Maybe I'm being stupid here but that is my gut feeling right now. I'm inclined not to make any further contact as he hasn't replied to my last message, albeit I was saying I respected his decision to end things. Are things frosty with you?

LuckyLinda3

yes they are rather
I’ve raised my feedback
he has roundly refuted it

I need a break

Get your break Worsy and enjoy a bit of Christmas. This is really weird time of the year. I think I am glad I am not spending a single day with MrEx until I am kids free in January. Too much family stuff going on
@LuckyLinda3 …I’m really sorry , yes I remember MrNHS. A few days to reconsider but he has tickets for the 28th so I hope that stays.

Bickering. This is also a deal with my MrEx. I don’t think it’s bickering. It’s us wanting to get explanation for this or that or making sure we are not taken for granted etc. We do not want a repeat of our marriage. When we could not say anything and we were not heard enough until we fell out of love. We need to communicate and not all communication is “I love you and kiss me harder and get in bed” …Bickering is raising our concern . So not bickering

Mila14

you are right
I just feel right now it’s concern after concern
and I’m not heard !!!! It’s like i speaking Russian

and it’s a fraught time of the year

@Mila14 you have summed it up perfectly there. I dont want to be taken for granted or have a repeat of my marriage. Exactly that. Am I right stepping back from communicating?

@Thisisworsethananticpated I hope you get the peace you need and things work out.

Oh guys I'm really sorry about the arguing- I find this time of year so stressful. There are too many pressures on all of us.

Anyway single Deffy's sending love to those who need it.

From the Daily Mash re dating sites and men holding fish - oft mentioned here 😁

😂😂😂😂

I bloody knew it was true, I going to break out my massive rod, get down to the local river and tossing it in straight away, hopefully will end up with a whopper!! Or else I’ll be going home feeling limp, deflated and flaccid.

😂😂😂the moment I saw a guy with a fish…I ignored him or swiped left. I would not even have a closer look or read his text. All I thought was “massive plank”

Same @Mila14 but not so much massive plank but 'anyone who can sit on a damp river bank for hours and hurt animals like that is not a good match for me' (mind you I quite liked watching Paul Whitehouse and Bob Mortimers Gone Fishing prog)

The Daily Mash is so spot on

It’s Xmas eve threadies

how did that come so fast !

im hungover and In the woman cave !

i know I know - but instead of seeing Balkan I managed to get eldest to leave house and engage socially for a few hours

good peace to anyone not necessarily having the easiest Xmas

Christmas Eve and my DDs are all here, being comical but ultimately useless. Feels like all my friends are having health/relationship crises. Flu is stalking my home. Gah, why do we do it to ourselves???

BaddogGooddoggy

jve just had the most fraught , messy and loud making of a Yule log with my son
and I dropped the first mix 🙈

Jesus !
Christmas is such a tricky time

and sorry for all the health crisis

relationship crisis - I’d say has to be taken with a pinch of salt at such a fraught time

Thanks @Thisisworsethananticpated, I hope the hangover is clearing now.

As for relationships at Christmas, they don’t really go together in my experience 😱

I’ve got a cold! Or is it flu? I braved shopping center to get last bits. I have to say…Mr Ex has been lovely and face timing as we can’t meet these days. Let’s not get too wasted tomorrow…I am going to have a glass of wine tonight if my cold allows it 🫤. Merry Christmas everyone

Merry Christmas one and all whether alone or with romance in the air.

Here's the gift of a new shiny thread for us all:

Dating Thread 237 - Wintertide Warmth Support & Festive Frolics and www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4704599-dating-thread-237-wintertide-warmth-support-festive-frolics-and

Happy Xmas everyone! Thought I had lost you all forever..... how are We All>?