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Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 12:45

I'm actually so pissed off.

He seemed really nice. FFS.

What makes people think to ask that at 12.30 on a weekday when we've been talking for less than 24 hours?

I'm feeling stronger now though.

Before I would have answered that makes me uncomfortable so early. I'm such a fucking people pleaser. And earlier Deffy would have been worried about upsetting him or whatever.

Now? In the bin. Move on.

This place has helped me see my worth. I don't need to placate these crass men.

Mila14 · 20/12/2022 13:27

BaddogGooddoggy · 19/12/2022 21:19

He stays at mine five nights a week, the issue is he wants more and I want less. I need my space and independence, his ideal is to be joined at the hip! It’s not a dealbreaker

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Do you also stay at his some days? Or just at yours? 😳

BaddogGooddoggy · 20/12/2022 13:36

Just at my house, it’s a lot nicer as he’s just got a little flat and dogs aren't allowed. I’ve no desire to go there. We share the food shopping and he does all the cooking. If my DC are around he buggers off to his flat. The arrangement suits me very well at the moment.

Mila14 · 20/12/2022 13:39

LuckyLinda3 · 20/12/2022 11:38

So my birthday weekend was a bit if a let down. The weather put a stop to out dinner plans and we didnt meet then on sunday either, it was never mentioned. We have spent the past few days messaging but last night I took the opportunity to spell out how let down I felt. He took it on board and has acknowledged that he could have done more and wants to make it up to me and has already something planned. My problem is our schedules and separate xmas plans take us right into next week and I feel quite flat after all the negative texting back and forth. Part of me is thinking at this stage I just want a quiet relaxing break with my kids without wondering about when we will get time but I don't want to seem like I'm playing games and putting him on hold either.

But you are not playing games. I’m quite happy to take my time off with my kids until new year. MrEx knows this. I think communication is key. Don’t feel pressure to plan next meeting.
I also like the fact you told him your birthday was a disappointment. We need to tell it like it is and if he’s a nice guy, he will admit and do something to change it or to make it up to you.

Mila14 · 20/12/2022 13:40

BaddogGooddoggy · 20/12/2022 13:36

Just at my house, it’s a lot nicer as he’s just got a little flat and dogs aren't allowed. I’ve no desire to go there. We share the food shopping and he does all the cooking. If my DC are around he buggers off to his flat. The arrangement suits me very well at the moment.

Excellent stuff. You really give hope to the lot of us!

Mila14 · 20/12/2022 13:43

Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 12:45

I'm actually so pissed off.

He seemed really nice. FFS.

What makes people think to ask that at 12.30 on a weekday when we've been talking for less than 24 hours?

I'm feeling stronger now though.

Before I would have answered that makes me uncomfortable so early. I'm such a fucking people pleaser. And earlier Deffy would have been worried about upsetting him or whatever.

Now? In the bin. Move on.

This place has helped me see my worth. I don't need to placate these crass men.

🤮🤮🤮 well binned. That’s the way to weed out crass imbeciles.
Don’t worry and keep checking at your pace Deffy

BaddogGooddoggy · 20/12/2022 13:44

Thanks. I guess that’s why I hang around on this thread: if it can happen for me on OLD, it can happen for anyone!

5thWisdom · 20/12/2022 13:45

Do you like sex?! 😭😭😭😭😂😂😂😂

Sophisticated!!!!

Almost as as the 'I'm high right now, please don't think badly of me' which was the final sign to me that I needed a break!

Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 14:05

5thWisdom · 20/12/2022 13:45

Do you like sex?! 😭😭😭😭😂😂😂😂

Sophisticated!!!!

Almost as as the 'I'm high right now, please don't think badly of me' which was the final sign to me that I needed a break!

Exactly.

I just told my 18 year old and his response was - well that's like asking if you like breathing? Humans are conditioned to like sex.

Followed by - all men are trash 😂😂😂

LuckyLinda3 · 20/12/2022 14:29

Yeah @Mila14 I made myself a promise after the breakdown of my marriage that I was going to express my feelings going forward, in a respectful way obviously. My exh refused to let me speak or listen to anything I had to say. Not going there again.

QueenConsort · 20/12/2022 14:30

Hey 👋 I've not posted for ages but think I've finally met someone nice! We've only had 1 date so far but it just clicks, this is after 3 years of wading through absolute pond scum.

Hope everyone is well.

QueenConsort · 20/12/2022 14:31

So I can join in a bit now.... I'll call him Mr Bridge.

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OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 20/12/2022 14:39

48 hours of adult only cosy times with MrCars chez moi has just come to an end. Teens did make it away and I'm so proud and pleased that they did. Not only was it a huge major milestone for them but it gave me the treasured gift of my own house to entertain.

MrCars was a delight to hang out with we cooked, drank, ate, danced together. He brought endless tools and fixed minor but annoying things. He loved the animals and we enjoyed plentiful best ever sex.
Very easy company and still maintains he loves cuddling me all night long (despite snoring) and likes making himself useful as he wants me to keep liking him.

The winter warmer to beat all the winter warmers. Won't see him now until Date 8 next week for another hotel based overnighter and meeting two of my oldest besties

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Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 14:44

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 20/12/2022 14:39

48 hours of adult only cosy times with MrCars chez moi has just come to an end. Teens did make it away and I'm so proud and pleased that they did. Not only was it a huge major milestone for them but it gave me the treasured gift of my own house to entertain.

MrCars was a delight to hang out with we cooked, drank, ate, danced together. He brought endless tools and fixed minor but annoying things. He loved the animals and we enjoyed plentiful best ever sex.
Very easy company and still maintains he loves cuddling me all night long (despite snoring) and likes making himself useful as he wants me to keep liking him.

The winter warmer to beat all the winter warmers. Won't see him now until Date 8 next week for another hotel based overnighter and meeting two of my oldest besties

Ooooooh that makes me so happy.

What a perfect time. I'm delighted for you ❤️❤️❤️

Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 14:46

QueenConsort · 20/12/2022 14:31

So I can join in a bit now.... I'll call him Mr Bridge.

Welcome aboard.

I've gone from lots of irons to being very fussy and currently one that's getting colder by the minute.

But you finding Mr Bridge after three years has given me, much needed hope.

5thWisdom · 20/12/2022 14:47

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 20/12/2022 14:39

48 hours of adult only cosy times with MrCars chez moi has just come to an end. Teens did make it away and I'm so proud and pleased that they did. Not only was it a huge major milestone for them but it gave me the treasured gift of my own house to entertain.

MrCars was a delight to hang out with we cooked, drank, ate, danced together. He brought endless tools and fixed minor but annoying things. He loved the animals and we enjoyed plentiful best ever sex.
Very easy company and still maintains he loves cuddling me all night long (despite snoring) and likes making himself useful as he wants me to keep liking him.

The winter warmer to beat all the winter warmers. Won't see him now until Date 8 next week for another hotel based overnighter and meeting two of my oldest besties

Love, love, love this update ❤️❤️❤️❤️

So lovely to read! Yipeee!

Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 14:49

Can I ask a question please?

There's a man. On Match. On paper perfect and unusually he lives only 17 miles away.

But in his bio it says he can't read messages. I presume that's because he's on it for free?

What are you supposed to do with that?

I've actually put in my bio - if you've said you can't read messages how can anyone get in touch with you. Obviously generalised not directly at him.

Mila14 · 20/12/2022 15:00

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 20/12/2022 14:39

48 hours of adult only cosy times with MrCars chez moi has just come to an end. Teens did make it away and I'm so proud and pleased that they did. Not only was it a huge major milestone for them but it gave me the treasured gift of my own house to entertain.

MrCars was a delight to hang out with we cooked, drank, ate, danced together. He brought endless tools and fixed minor but annoying things. He loved the animals and we enjoyed plentiful best ever sex.
Very easy company and still maintains he loves cuddling me all night long (despite snoring) and likes making himself useful as he wants me to keep liking him.

The winter warmer to beat all the winter warmers. Won't see him now until Date 8 next week for another hotel based overnighter and meeting two of my oldest besties

Oncey…this is superb news. I think what started as a winter warmer may well end up with you guys falling crazy in love 🥰

Mila14 · 20/12/2022 15:02

QueenConsort · 20/12/2022 14:31

So I can join in a bit now.... I'll call him Mr Bridge.

Excellent…tell us about MrBridge…when is date 2? Is he hot? Did you feel chemistry in that 1st date??

Mila14 · 20/12/2022 15:03

Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 14:49

Can I ask a question please?

There's a man. On Match. On paper perfect and unusually he lives only 17 miles away.

But in his bio it says he can't read messages. I presume that's because he's on it for free?

What are you supposed to do with that?

I've actually put in my bio - if you've said you can't read messages how can anyone get in touch with you. Obviously generalised not directly at him.

Bin. A guy that doesn’t make an effort in match to read messages is not that bothered? Chancer

5thWisdom · 20/12/2022 15:08

Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 14:49

Can I ask a question please?

There's a man. On Match. On paper perfect and unusually he lives only 17 miles away.

But in his bio it says he can't read messages. I presume that's because he's on it for free?

What are you supposed to do with that?

I've actually put in my bio - if you've said you can't read messages how can anyone get in touch with you. Obviously generalised not directly at him.

I don't know how Match works these days.

Presumably you can send messages but only read them if you've paid/ subscribed? Otherwise how do you connect with people- do you have to match with them?

5thWisdom · 20/12/2022 15:08

😭😂😂😂 @Mila14 is ruthless!

NoDatingForOldMen · 20/12/2022 15:22

Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 12:39

😂😂😂

Honest please someone shoot me.

I was messaging a really nice guy last night. Started again today and within an hour - do you like sex?

I mean seriously? Would they say that if they met you in a bar?

Blocked. Moved on.

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Quality opening, I used to go with something a bit more low key like “ Do you like Fleetwood Mac”.. maybe that’s where I was going wrong all those years 😂

Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 15:26

@NoDatingForOldMen see, every days a school day 😂😂😂

Update. Lovely man can read messages and has replied with a lovely message. No sex anywhere.

I feel like a teenager who fancies someone.

Play it cool Deffy. Play it cool 😎

😂😂😂😂

Definitelycross · 20/12/2022 15:27

5thWisdom · 20/12/2022 15:08

😭😂😂😂 @Mila14 is ruthless!

I know 😂😂😂

I even imagine how she's looking while she reads it.

I imagine she speaks like the Lenovo lady but looks like a tall, slim, dark haired, fearless beauty.