Am I in the wrong for wanting him to stay at home

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I have either a stomach bug or food poisoning. I feel dreadful. I have been pretty much living on the toilet all last night and this morning. I have hardly slept for needing the toilet in the night. I am currently curled up in a ball with the most horrendous stomach cramps. I feel sick. I am knackered. He is going playing football today and will be out from 12-7. We have 2 dc and the thought of being in with them all day alone when I feel like this is making me want to cry. I asked him if he would miss it just this once but he kicked off saying no. The football isn’t compulsory, he won’t get a fine or get kicked out of the team or anything like that for not going. I am just so annoyed and fed up☹️

he is a nob. There is nothing worse than vomiting or diarrhoea when you have young children to loom after. I'd be upset too!

Taking into account the kids ages, of course he should stay home! OMG.

It might be assault, but wouldn’t you have to be caught first?

In all seriousness, people like him won’t ever learn because they are selfish to the core, however, he should get a taste of his own medicine to at least understand what the OP has gone through.

With kids that young, he's unreasonable to go out every Saturday for 7 hours for football anyway, regardless of you being sick.

He's a dickhead. You deserve better.

100% call his parents if they live nearby and ask them to come help as their dickhead of a son has left you vomitting with the 2 kids for 7 hours for football. My DH wouldn't dare do this, and if he did I know he'd get the bollocking of his life from my awesome MIL 😂.

I’d be pissed if my partner needed mummy to tell him how to behave like a decent human.

I wouldnt leave him with the kids next time he's ill, he's already shown OP he thinks they are not his problem, he'll make sure they are damaged in some way & will blame OP for it...he'll have no qualms about making them suffer when he knows it will upset her and make her feel guilty

Wow OP, nothing that hasn’t already been said but I would find this so hard to forgive and get over. I’m fuming for you. I’ve been there when you can’t move off the sofa but have a little one to look after and my DH came home early from work to look after DS so I could go to bed. He would never piss off for 7 hours and leave me to it in that state.

I think I’d be telling him what a selfish knob he was and that he’d better never ask me for anything ever again. Then I’d be considering if I wanted to stay with him. Hope you feel better soon.

So he’s shouted and swore at you and ditched you whilst you’re ill not only to play football, but to go out for a drink after as well!!! Hands down this is one of the shittiest men I’ve read about on MN. Please do not stay with this man, your children shouldn’t have to witness you being treated like that.

I also wouldnt involve his parents, they'll probably work for him, even if only in an undercover way and if there's going to be a split they may pretend to be OP's friend while reporting back to him

@PinkSyCo it was the only thing I could think of he might let her do on her own. 8 hour countryside bike ride would be more my jam but he doesn’t sound the type to reciprocate hobby time!

Well, when he gets poorly and inevitably needs you, tell him to suck it up and do nothing for him. Aaaand when he also inevitably says, I promise I'll do better in future, ignore him because the very minute he feels better he will revert to the selfish wanksock that he is.

I'm sorry but he does not love you and also seems to care very little about his kids if he's prepared to leave them for so long while you're in no fit state to look after them.
You need to have a long hard think about continuing to share your life with this man.

He doesn't care about you at all does he?

Completely agree with this OP. Hope you feel much better v soon

Hope his team gets fucking pumped

I assume 'food shopping' was a euphemism...

I hope that it's contagious and you've given it to him. If you have, can you afford to book a premier inn for a couple of nights and leave him to it?

He's an utter pig. I assume he's like this about other things too?

I hope 1) you feel much better soon and 2) You go back to work and start making plans...

If I were you if you haven't already, I'd open up a savings account he doesn't know about & put a little bit in by every month.

One of these days there is a good chance you are going to need money either to leave him or to cope when he disappears off with a younger model.

Start putting it in place now.

If that doesn't happen, at least you'll still have a little emergency fund, or some money to help your kids to uni.

I’d definitely be tempted to let his team and families know where the D&V bug they’re going to be getting came from.

Hope you are better soon OP.

Can I try to give a man’s perspective on this?
They are his children, so he needs to work out how to care for them.
My children are as much my responsibility as my partner’s.
Being a parent is wonderful and it means sharing and caring.
He is totally wrong to leave you and go to football.

I would wait until you hear his car pull up then go into the bathroom and lie on the floor pretending to be dead. Put the shits up the utter arsewipe.

Wow.. your DH is a prick.

How are you op? My DH is playing with his band tonight and offered to take our 9 year old as I have horrible stomach ache and constipation (IBS). Please don't put up with this crap