Polly and her Dollies are counting down to Christmas

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Hello my lovelies

Is this going to be the thread where I finally get divorced? Will my Ring of Fabulousness ever be worn? Will the Divorce Tattinger be drunk?

I bloody well hope so. It's been a very long time coming.

Here we are again. In the main headline news... I'm still not fucking divorced from Geller. I've had to sign an affidavit for the absolute application to say yes, I want to proceed, because it's taken so bloody long.

The Dollies are amazing, brilliant and pains in the bum in equal measures I can't believe how much they're growing up. For Christmas they want to learn how to make me a cup of tea for my present. I'll take that. DD1 hasn't had a good couple of weeks, not helped by me having a whole load of work done in the house so things here have been a bit chaotic. DD2 has been off school poorly with D&V, poor little mite.

Geller remains an eejit who is unable to put the Dollies first. The shenanigans have been unbelievable and of true Geller quality levels. I am rising above. And doing a lot of deep breathing. My parents have now moved house and my mother is being her usual self. I've distanced myself quite a bit. I did help them out for a day but that's it.

I'm becoming addicted to exercise again and have graduated to the fast lane in the swimming pool, hurrah. I've survived several spin classes and even treated myself to a new pair of trainers. My gardening is coming on nicely (I'm very good in autumn with slash and burn, I can do destruction) and I've now got my new shed up.

Work is insanely busy and I'm on the edge of a new possibility which will, if it comes off, be life changing for me and the Dollies in terms of security. It's going to be a crazy few months but I'll give it all I've got.

I haven't heard from Westley since I threw my toys out of the pram with him wanting to still be friends and message me randomly - no. I'm too good for breadcrumbing and I've got enough friends, thank you. I'm not dating, not planning on dating and finally feel like I'm starting to move on. But it's not a priority for me right now, although I do really miss cuddles. And sex!

Perhaps most excitingly, today I am trialling a new foundation. It's supposed to be a dupe of Estee Lauder's Double Wear, which I love, but I just can't justify the cost of for everyday wear.

As ever, if you're still following me, thank you. Without MN and you all I wouldn't be where I am today.

@StuckInPollyannaMode

remind me to mention stress ball to you tomorrow

So, twatfeatures is still trying to delegate to you then?

Great to hear you sound so upbeat dear Polly - even after your op. Onwards and upwards! 🤗🌹

Welcome, @KatherineSwynford1403 pull up a pew! As the others have said this is quite a long running saga. Everyone has been amazing at supporting me and it’s so lovely to see you all once again.

I have changed my user name for other threads but thought I’d stick with this one for now on this thread so you guys know it’s me.

Afraid I ran out of time to do you a nice chunky update but I will. I promise. But in the meantime, to keep you going…

He’s hilarious. Not changed one iota.

After about an hour he finally managed to get to the point. I’m afraid no one wins the sweepstake.

Bear in mind the Dollies are in Year 5.

He’s worried about not being able to see the girls after school on a Monday for supper when they go to secondary school and should he go part time so he can?

We’ve 18 months to go until they go.

I asked him direct about moving in with Dauphinoise and he looked horrified at the very thought.

And then spent quite some time telling me about how he’s going to come and wave the girls off on residential and we should have a family meal when they get back.

What. The… residential is in OCTOBER.

Oh, and he’s worried about how to take the bikes back and forwards when it’s bike awareness week so can I do it so he’s not abandoned with bikes he can’t get in the car?

Bike Awareness is NEXT MAY.

How did I not kill him? Was he this awful when we were married and I just didn’t notice? I told him flat out I wasn’t entertaining any of his nonsense and he departed in high dudgeon.

He hasn’t commented at all on the freedom ring. Clearly, I should have got a bigger one 😂

I do have some sad news to impart. My little cat had to be put to sleep last month. 18 years together. I was heartbroken.

What’s everyone up to this weekend? How are you all? I am going to (if it ever stops raining) plant my new jasmine! Yes, I finally got one!

Fear not. I won’t forget to update with everything else, but it definitely won’t be tomorrow.

Yes was always THAT insufferable.

I'm away to a wedding in the country with a friend. The forecast is utterly hideous for the drive and duration of the wedding, we may well freeze to death.

So sorry about your cat it hurts so very much when they leave us.

I was devastated by the loss of ours I now have a gang of 3 much to the dogs horror.

I am so sorry about your cat. Between when you started your threads and now, I have acquired a total of 4, all rescues. The oldest of them is 5 (or thereabouts, she was born feral so we will never be sure).

I hope they will live long, happy lives and that I will be a proper old lady when they start their journey to the other side, but I dread it nevertheless.

Ah Polly! I've missed your updates & writing ... the Geller update 😂 God he's very mad (as in mentally unstable), isn't he.

I'm sorry about your cat. I lost two cats in two years and before that two cats within 9 months it was terrible. They mean everything to us.

"God's In His Heaven,
And Geller's still a schmuck"

Some things never change.

Glad things are going well 'generally speaking'. The new and happy you really shines through in your post.

I have missed Geller updates, but I took it to mean he had stopped being so Gellar.

Unfortunately not, looks like he will never be normal. I hope you can give yourself a medal/sainthood for not killing him while you were married😁

Glad you and the Dollies are ok and I am sorry about your cat.

Just think, in a few more years you won't actually have to talk to him and more! Til then, you are handling him beautifully. He really is a top class A1 complete and utter bellend.

Hang on..., doesn't he have a Land Rover? The one he cant fit up your lane?
Dont 2 small bikes fit?
This just that he doesn't want yo dirty his hands lifting bikes in..
He really is a total Ass

One question, is the lady friend from Dauphinée? Or does she cook a nice potato dish ?

@Mix56 do you remember when he got stuck and couldn't get out the parking by Polly? He changed car after that 😆

Lovely to hear things are going well Polly, and so nice to hear you handling Gellar with aplomb.
It honestly sounds like he's fabricating reasons to talk to you! I think I'd pre ask "does this concern anything occurring in the next two months" and if it doesn't refuse to meet!
Really sorry to hear about your Puss cat hope it was straightforward (so to speak) and not traumatic. It's always a shock when they go even if they are ancient.

Ah ! I remember he abandoned the car on a bank, & Polly had to go & manœuvre it for him.
Maybe he could invest in a bike rack ? But that would scupper his dandy image🤣

Thanks for the update @StuckInPollyannaMode ! So sorry to hear about your cat. I lost mine last month, aged 20. He, like yours, had seen me through a crapshow of a marriage and a divorce. .....And the much happier years that followed.

Unfortunately Gellar has always been as insufferable as he is now. It is far too easy to be blind to it in the beginning. I do so love how you shut down his b* now.

Might I suggest that perhaps you adopt a particularly flamboyant way of speaking with expressive hand gestures....NO not THOSE ones (though I am sure that it is tempting) to really show off the ring when next attending one of Gellar's scheduled meetings?

Who are we kidding? He has always been oblivious!

Ah Gellar, the gift that keeps on giving. Well done on shutting down his nonsense. Good luck with planting your jasmine, it's blowing a bit of a hoolie here so my plans for a big garden tidy up might have to be shelved.

So instead de cluttering the cupboard of doom under the sink, sorting some donations for my local hospice shop, and baking some scones and a chocolate cake seem to be more likely. Will also get out for some walks as I find walking in windy weather really energising, as long as I stay away from cliff edges. 😀

Gosh Gellar is the gift that keeps on giving isn't he 😂

I thought he had a huge Landrover that he can't drive, reverse or park can that not accommodate bikes? or, totally revolutionary idea, he could buy a bike rack ...

Oh @StuckInPollyannaMode that sounded like a Geller fishing expedition to me.

all that utter shite that’s not at all pressing AND given that it’s take over 3 weeks to arrange

all that shit could have been an email. He was sniffing you out, trying to suss out if you’re still on his hook etc

your “I’m not bothering with your nonsense” was the perfect response

even better, this was so pointless as to provide a super method to avoid similar in future. “Oh right Geller, you want to meet up etc etc, well after the last time where you were trying to make non-events my problem that weren’t even my circus, stick it in an email and if it’s relevant or important I’ll reply”

Finally! I've just had to read through to see where we got to. Grab yourselves a cuppa, or a gin, and here we go...

The chap I was seeing when I went skiing? Turned out to be a bit bonkers. Binned. But not before he'd repainted my bedroom Then took a break, now just about to have my third date on Thursday night with a rather nice chap. We shall see. Not rushing into anything. It would be a nice bolt on but isn't the central driving force in my life!

Westley is Westley. Still exceedingly fond, but he's not the chap for me. We're now firm friends and that's ok. He'd like more I think, but only on his terms. I'm a firm no, keeping him in the friends box.

My mother remains mad as a box of frogs. But boundaried ones. Mostly. My brother has recently stepped up and been amazing (more in a mo) but is now just back to being my annoying little brother.

I've signed up for a mini MBA. Haven't started it yet, it's all just been a bit full on. But, that's a major thing for me.

The house is chaos and I love it but it drives me mad at the same time. My friendship with my amazing neighbour continues and we help each other out a lot. Already booked again to go skiing next year, and we're off to the Dalmatian coast in May!

Remember my friend who stabbed me in the back and Cornwall and everything? Her son is apparently now diagnosed as having autism so she wants us to spend time together. Hell, no! I barely speak to her now.

DD1 is making heroic strides to understand her condition and manage it. She's unrecognisable from even a year ago - when my mother said to me 'you wouldn't take a child LIKE THAT on holiday' (knew you'd enjoy that one) - and is generally much happier. DD2 is turning into a grumpy and hormonal tweenager but is still a delight. Mostly

Geller is...well. Geller. He has put on quite a bit of weight and yes, he's still with the woman he was seen rolling around on the village green with. I have no idea as to her culinary skills, her name is French and I couldn't remember it in conversation with a friend who called her Dauphinoise, and it stuck! As to the rest, I just don't care enough.

Health scare was terrifying and I'm back in therapy as a result. I had a huge gynae haemorrhage, lost 6 pints of blood, nearly died twice in theatre, blood transfusions, the lot. Horrid, horrid, horrid. I was so so lucky. It sure has put things in perspective and thank god for my friends. My brother really stepped up to the plate, managed mum (I listed him as NOK not her - as a result they wouldn't give her any medical information and was an absolute nightmare). I'm slowly recovering, via a blood clot or two, and it's been one hell of a shock.

So if you don't already, I beg of you, please give blood.

And if I've missed anything, just ask!

Holy fuckballs, that's terrifying and really puts everything else into perspective. Well done recognising it as therapy worthy. You're still an absolute legend. Write a memoir at some point, I'll buy a copy for all my friends.

Wowsers Polly am so glad you're on the mend.

I can't give blood anymore since Covid as they changed the rules. I'd had a heart op years ago and was happily donating (26 pints!). Annoys me that I can't anymore and actually used to help my migraines too.

Health scare aside, I'm so glad all is going well and continue to wish you and your dollies well.

Wow what an update, as a PP said your memoirs would be worth reading!
Koko. look after yourself x

Nice to have an update from a poster who seems more like a friend, medical emergency sounds terrifying.

Holy crap, your health scare sounds terrifying. Therapy sounds an excellent idea, well done for recognising this. I'm glad your brother stepped up when it counted.

I remember the "friend". So because her son has been diagnosed she wants to be your best bud. Well done for having good boundaries with her - and your Mum. You have come so far, you sound like a different, stronger, more confident woman and you are obviously are all of those things.

I have no what you are talking about!

Wow Polly, so very very glad you made it through that sounds utterly terrifying, I'm booked in for my next blood donation in August!
So pleased your brother decided to actually be helpful. So happy you're able to update us all and really pleased that the Dollies continue to thrive!