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Separated husband with own place wants access to mine/me

181 replies

NoraButty · 08/11/2022 09:29

Me and husband separated three months ago when I found he’d been using sex workers.

He went to stay with family but has now rented property nearby.

Since he has left I have never refused him access to the house to collect his belongings as long as I have someone there with me for support.

He collected the last of his belongings and has pretty much stripped the house bare.

The house is a marital asset and I accept he will have a share, which I am okay with. But for full disclosure it is fully in my name and purchased outright (no mortgage) by me prior to marriage.

He is saying that he is on with his solicitor to gain full access to my house and intends to come round three or four nights a week.

Is there a chance he would get this access? Bearing in mind he had his own place to live, we are getting divorced and there is nothing in the house bar my minimal belongings.

OP posts:
Haffiana · 08/11/2022 17:39

HowcanIhelp123 · 08/11/2022 16:52

Solicitors charge for every conversation, email, letter etc. If all communication was through solicitors OP would probably need to sell her house to pay them. Not everyone has the money to protect themselves that way.

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OP has a whole half of her house at stake here. She NEEDS to find the money for a solicitor or risk losing possibly 100s of £1000s.

But hey, cheaper to ask randoms on the internet, of course.

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NoraButty · 08/11/2022 17:47

@Haffiana OP has a whole half of her house at stake here. She NEEDS to find the money for a solicitor or risk losing possibly 100s of £1000s.

But hey, cheaper to ask randoms on the internet, of course.

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I came here asking for the chances of him getting free access to me under guise of access to the house now that he has his own place and nothing left here. I asked because he has said that this is what he is currently working on with his solicitor.

He has form for bullshitting, most of which I ignore as nonsense, but this bothered me and so I asked what the chances are.

I haven’t asked for advice about finances. That part doesn’t bother me. Him being able to come round unannounced and let himself in does.

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TheFormidableMrsC · 08/11/2022 18:16

@NoraButty He can "work" all he likes with his solicitor, nobody is going to "give" him access to your home. Nobody. Tell him to jog on. Utter prick.

KettrickenSmiled · 08/11/2022 18:26

Haffiana · 08/11/2022 16:39

I don't understand why anyone would turn to a Social Media forum for 'legal' advice when you actually already have a solicitor to deal with all of this?

You say you want to 'protect yourself from his bullying' - but it seems you are not actually prepared to do what is necessary in order to accomplish this, other than ask him to leave you alone and to cry a bit.

ALL communication needs to be through your solicitor if you have come to the point where you have a major disagreement like this.

@Haffiana are you aware that social media posts & solicitor's appointments are not mutually exclusive?

That OP can in fact take advantage of emotional support here, AND legal advice from her chosen profssional?e

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 08/11/2022 21:34

4 Years? Give him 10p to phone someone that gives a fuck! Not a chance he' d set his dirty feet over the threshold again.

Brigante9 · 08/11/2022 21:43

Hopefully he can’t access the house as you’ve changed the locks?

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