Got a DM on Instagram this morning. Private account but definitely not a fake one.
From a young woman claiming she has slept with my husband a few weeks ago and thought I deserved to know.
She knows details about a birth Mark on his chest and a tattoo on his ankle. But DH wears shorts a lot so lots would have seen the ankle tattoo. He does talk about his birth Mark as well so a lot of people know he has one. So I'm hoping that this is just someone stirring but wanted to post on here to get clarity and that I'm not just trying to comfort myself.
A few months ago he had a string of mysterious phone calls which led to a huge row as he wouldn't answer the phone to the mysterious person then started saying i was getting worked up over nothing. Nothing since then tho so other than that I have no reason to believe he has cheated.
I Will confront him but it's just his word against this random person on Instagram right? I'm calm thinking it's just someone stirring. But what if it's not? How would you feel?
Can't exactly break up over one set of messages from a random woman. We have 3 kids together.
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Did DH cheat or is this a joke?
Newuser1987 · 05/11/2022 16:05
Newuser1987 · 06/11/2022 16:17
He wouldn't believe me. He knows me too well. And by how calm he is I also think he knows this woman won't agree to meet up either.
@FlissyPaps my gut tells me that there is more than what he is telling me and he's lying about something. Can I really break up my family over a gut feeling though?
Noxpox · 06/11/2022 16:15
@Newuser1987 why don’t you say to him you have arranged to meet this woman so she can show you the messages? Say to him if he anything to tell you now is the time.
Isthatarealname · 07/11/2022 06:37
In my opinion, based on the evidence you have, he should be trying to prove his innocence not the other way round. I'd make him leave unless he can prove it didn't happen
MilkyBarKid1 · 06/11/2022 14:46
Tbh annoyed at the other woman, too. I've blown your life apart, fucked your husband, told you to appease my conscience/"coming to you as a woman" but don't contact me again. What a fucking idiot. I'd leave anyway, even if he hasn't cheated (doubtful) he doesn't give a flying fuck about your feelings.
larkstar · 07/11/2022 17:46
Apologies if this had already been mentioned.. Have you looked for other messaging apps such as Telegram and Signal?
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Chiccaletta · 07/11/2022 18:53
And an old-school check of his itemized phone bill?
After that, a private investigator is about £30 a hour, ring for quote and to see if they can dig up old records.
larkstar · 07/11/2022 17:46
Apologies if this had already been mentioned.. Have you looked for other messaging apps such as Telegram and Signal?
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