Dating Thread 235... Gird those loins for November

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@ownedbygreyhounds good one, so exciting.

Tbh it did put me off a bit but then I'm just going to be over careful.

Definitelycross · Today 11:24

its can be very nerve jangling

but better you know earlier x

Now he wants to talk on the phooooone. Akkk.

I've told him after 9pm when child is asleep.

If call goes ok, I will iron-name him.

@Definitelycross Well done for Googling, and hope you're okay...
@Thisisworsethananticpated those comments about BJs surprised me too!

Had a pleasant walk and coffee with Mr Nature. Definitely no spark but nice company. Suggested walk as friends in future.

It has helped me narrow down more what I'm looking for.. ie fitness obsessed! It's such a big part of who I am.

@dizzygirl1 …I think if there’s no spark and I don’t feel attracted physically…it is a no for me…I’m no longer OLD but that was my rule when I was ( and of course being compatible socio/economic/culturally)

😂😂😂😝 lovely hearing you are ok…any Balkan date in the horizon?

Deffy!!!!what happened? Without being too outing please…really intrigued

I’m fitness obsessed too I’m afraid…however…MrEx only runs and rarely goes to the gym…I still find him super handsome with a bit of a wobbly belly because he’s so beautiful and elegant. He absolutely adores my gym body so it works on the sexual sporks ( new word for sparks I saw here 😂😂😂)
Sexy sporks are wonderful

Maybe it’s my winning personality ( but probably not)
I went and took a look at that thread and a few others, people on this forum get so aggressive it’s incredible

Mila14
yeah seeing him later

hes having a hard time right now , a lot of life stuff . So I’m being as calm and as un reactive as I can be

sundays suit me best- as drive there and no traffic etc

and kids easier to leave Sunday !

Thank you for everyone's concern. I'm absolutely fine thank goodness but I really did dodge a bullet.

I'm still a bit worried that he will try and get back in touch. But having come out of an abusive marriage I am very hyper aware, but I've realised that I've still got to be even more so.

The thing I've got to do is not paint all men with the same brush. There are some very good ones out there.

To take my mind off please link to the BJ thread 😂

Bf asked for a bj

is the title

@Definitelycross
its here www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4685758-bf-asked-for-a-bj?page=1

but make sure your loins have been throughly girded 1st

It is astounding.

I just don't know what to say. People are weird, very weird.

Sometimes this place is like school 🤦‍♀️

This thread has also got some gems

How to weed out the men just looking for sex?

Not, though, as wrong as I was! 🤣🤣🤣

I don't know. I've got a cheeky one who messages me with sexy messages but I just laugh at him and tell him to behave himself. He's hot so he's probably used to getting what he wants but no not here. He's like - well you can't blame a boy for trying. But it's not sleazy. Maybe it's the tone I don't know.

I firmly believe that clear communication is the key - if it's an end of the relationship then so be it.

Enjoy Worsy 😈😈

@Eeksteek and @Thisisworsethananticpated you make me laugh so much - thank you 😂😂

I think I'm more in tune with you here

Eeksteek

true dat 😂

haha onwards mothership indeed! Both my dc have covid this weekend, so am banished to the study with my laptop! This has made me chuckle, yes the Tinder men, oh dear.. some are just sooo awful.

Any man who has no contact with his dc, is a no-go. As are widowers ( tried that).

Tinderella man? haha . I am chatting to a few, but then I say, lets have a chat ( Like IRL on the telephone) and they don't call. WHY? I think there are alot of lonely men out there who are content with texting a stranger. To be frank I don't have time for that!

Anyway, back to action next week with Mr Teacher. Will report back mothership! !

As you were.

Good luck with MrTeacher Chalice…and you are right, I remember chatting to a guy a lot one evening and he told me didn’t want to meet anyone as he wasn’t ready ( my guess is he was married!!)

OMG the Bj thread is grim. That poor woman.

It's 'spork' forever more on here now!

I also like a good clear out of matches if I don't hear from them in 24 hours!