Dating Thread 235... Gird those loins for November

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Nooooo @NoDatingForOldMen you've misunderstood he offered to pop over from 8-9pm for sex but for me I'd be wanting a good hour ahead of bonking to do warm up activities - worked well last time. Wine, kissing, touching blah blah blah.

No way am I opening the door (so to speak 🤭) to someone sporting a massive erection then waving them off 59 mins later. Nuh-uh. Nope 👎

That is very very sad news @Thisisworsethananticpated re pilates teacher marital status. Bad man touching your foot and making you smell his manly pheromones when he's committed to another 🤨😡

No way am I opening the door (so to speak 🤭) to someone sporting a massive erection then waving them off 59 mins later. Nuh-uh. Nope

don’t knock it till you’ve tried it 😜

You make all sound so civilised, “ he offered to pop over from 8-9pm”
Sounds like he is coming around for Tea and Crumpets.

as for
“sporting a massive erection”

that is such a delicious turn of phrase I’m thinking how I can weave it into a conversation, it’s the sort of thing I would expect Drunk Guy from the fast show to say right at the end

Ok @Thisisworsethananticpated challenge accepted.

I might even get in touch with Curly and see if he has that slot available tomoz. Not sure.

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

nooooo !!! I was joking
🙃
looks it’s ok when you know them, are used to their bodies etc and trust them

but for a second session I think I’d find it a bit soul destroying too

He literally said 'I can come over 8.15 to 9.15' @NoDatingForOldMen just enough time to get me down on all fours and take me roughly from behind apparently
gawd love him

Way too hook-up only for me. PLUS he seems very keen on driving a long way to my house but I've got newly introduced standards about not letting strange men off the internet know where I live.

(I added the bit about his huge erection being sported)

@Thisisworsethananticpated I'm not sure how to up sexual shenanigans and am hoping he'll be over his nerves and things will be better 🤷‍♀️ but it's not just the sex that needs to improve - I think I just want a bit more fun/more laughs etc as opposed to just feeling like I'm chatting with a mate I guess

Good luck @Slothmomma with MrMedic it's a tricky position to be in when you've got a good thing going but it feels not quite good enough and isn't igniting the fire in your belly.

When I've been in this position with previous irons I've wondered what I should do (proceed or cease) and then they've binned me off anyway so were clearly feeling the same! (Which weirdly left me indignant, rejected and confused)

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss I am
now battling with similar issues. (Only the strange men/address thing, not the hook up, I suspect it will take Mr2Pugs months, frankly. I don’t mind, now I’ve calmed down a bit) but he wants to pop in for coffee on Saturday. I’m comfortable with him, I feel like he’s trustworthy, but if you’d said to pre-dating me ‘some guy you’ve had three dates with over two weeks wants to pop in for coffee’ I’d have said ‘Hell, no!’

I’m doing it anyway. I’ll warn my neighbours to look out for me. Although realistically I’m not sure what they’ll do. What can you do? It’s not possible to date and take no risks. And I don’t want to be making out in the car like a teen. I can already feel the word ‘boyfriend’ hovering in my future, which makes me shudder.

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss that was waaayyy TMI before the watershed…

but as a genuine question, I have noticed that NoShow likes shall we say “from behind “, is that normal?

Does it matter? If you both like it, I mean. There’s something to be said for it, sure. I find it hard on my wrists, but enjoy it with support (I assume you mean positioning, not anal? Which is also fine and dandy, but on which I cannot thus far comment)

Normal @NoDatingForOldMen it's not about what's normal is it it's about so you two consenting adults enjoy it.
I get bored in any position for too long so like to change around quite often during the session.
The great thing about doing it soggy style is that my nipples can jiggle back and forwards on the bedding. And that's lush. Sorry if TMI

Oh hang on I assumed 'from behind' was doggy style on all fours not anal.
I would say but am no expert that it would be unusual for a woman to prefer anal to vaginal penetrative sex but maybe some do. Each to their own

Any position when I ‘behind’ her as such (not anal), so doggy, spooning, standing etc ( maybe she doesn’t like my sex face 😂

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss yes TMI

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss absolutely creased at doing it 'soggy' style 🤣🤣

@winniewitchy
I wrote that sans spectacles! 👓 glad to provide some much needed 🤣🤣🤣🤣 with my typos.

@NoDatingForOldMen it really won't be your sex face she's trying to avoid. She just likes how those positions feel.

Just got off the phone from MrUnion and he's another (like MrCurly) whose dating adventures are constrained by small child primary care responsibilities. No reason not to proceed to coffee and cake on Saturday so we are but im not convinced he's my sort tbh

@NoDatingForOldMen I have a gorgeous partner who I love to look at usually, but for sex I also prefer the positions like MsNoShow.

Hello, I’m an ancient dating veteran from 2016-2017 - the ‘rules’ of the thread are still the same!

Anyway, I need some help with how to deal with a situation, that I can’t discuss with many people in real life.

I matched on Tinder four weeks ago, not for the first time this year, with someone who is in my real life and for reasons, I see on a weekly basis. He is 36, I’m 43 and he is very good looking (I’d be punching big time) but also a generally lovely human being. We haven’t messaged and I am baffled that he right swiped in the first place but even more so he didn’t delete it. Previously I have deleted the match (he has always right swiped first) as I can’t deal with the humiliation as there is no way of avoiding him in real life. I’ve been stubborn this time… How do I handle this?!

Horses4

who swiped first ?

NoDatingForOldMen

sex from behind ( aka soggy style !) aka NOT anal
when in the right angle can stimulate the mysterious G spot

so it’s a triple whammy

ill leave it there
it’s far too early !!

He did, every time.

If HE swiped first
and if YOU can’t deal with humiliation

you either sit on hands and wait for him
he knows how tinder works

or you say fuck it , and send him a chirpy hello !? And see what he has to say

humiliation is a strong word however ! It’s tinder the app where the main goal is ..sex

@Horses4 I'm never fussed about messaging first and have done many a time however I'm not sure I would if you've matched several times, he's never messaged and you know him in real life - I'm conscious that matching means nothing as a lot of men tend to swipe on everyone and message only ones they are interested in as opposed to women who tend to filter before swiping - mr city admitted he just swipes right on all as he likes to see who has liked him 🤦‍♀️

@Slothmomma No, exactly. I would message someone first who looked interesting if it was a stranger, and have done regularly. If he has just swiped on every woman, then I run the risk of looking like an idiot. I almost never swipe someone I actually know, but I made an exception this time 😆