@Treacletoots
An interesting one and personally from another perspective why should OP give up time she spends on hobbies/family etc to appeal to a man, when they could well be more fulfilling.
If this was true, the thread wouldn't exist.
Yes I do think that a 40 something man chasing a 20 something is misogynistic.
I dont think two people entering in to a consensual relationship is evidence of one of them hating an entire sex, no matter what mental gymnastics you use to justify it. Women would love for it to become socially unacceptable for men to date (much) younger women, but it will never happen.
@ArcticSkewer
Would that describe a man with 'similar ideas and values' to the op?
You are correct. However, stated preferences tend not to match up to revealed preferences. We've all seen the nice guy with great ideas and values get friend-zoned because 'there's no spark.' The other problem is that even the stated preferences are unobtainable - Women outnumber male graduates 60/40 and that is projected to go to 67/33 within the decade. Often these women will not consider non graduates as partners, which is impossible for 1/3 to 1/2 of them.
Its a pretty simple exercise for OP to describe her ideal guy and then work out what percentage of the population she is aiming at. Its less simple to come to a decision on whether aiming for that subset is obtainable or not.
Op - are you interested in a mid forties man who thinks dating women in their 20s is a cool look? As opposed to what most people see - a total saddo.
Nobody here is shooting down Leonardo Di Caprio for a date. Women would love for it to become socially unacceptable for men to date (much) younger women, but it will never happen.
Dogs are better company and less hassle overall.
Friends are more reliable and a better laugh.
You can get good sex any time you want it, as a woman, if you are prepared to go online.
Theres a lot of truth here. Meanwhile, men are playing Call Of Duty all day, hanging out with their mates and waiting for the sex robots. Its a bit depressing, for both sexes, isn't it?
@BigFatLiar
Ding Ding. OLD has to take a lot of the blame. 50 years ago, your opportunity to meet potential partners was very limited. In such circumstances, you're a lot more willing to overlook small imperfections. With Tinder, you can potentially access more potential mates than you would ever previously meet in your lifetime within an hour.
People, mainly women since they are the selector, get choosier. Women swipe right on the top 5% of men only because they have been told they are worth that. Standards become distorted. This top category of men have access to far more women than they would have in the past, thus they refuse to settle down and sleep around. Women complain men are terrible because the ones they are selecting for are exactly that. Meanwhile, the other large chunk of men that are being ignored, many of whom are perfectly solid, kind, genuine guys think all women are unreasonable gold diggers and decide to give up on dating. Nobody ends up happy.
@Iwritethissittinginthekitchensink
You seem to be completely disregarding the emotional aspects of relationships.
Far from it. My contention is that all of the stuff you have just mentioned is on offer from literally thousands of guys that would love to have someone to care about. Women are choosing not to pick these men enmasse because of other reasons.
Categories of men that generally date objectively attractive women - CEOs / Footballers. Why? Intelligence or Physical fitness combined with material wealth. Categories of men that are generally intellectual, empathetic and have good 'ideas and values' - Charity workers, Care workers, Teachers. Generally these men aren't walking round with stunningly attractive women on their arm and there must be a reason for that.
It’s pretty obvious that people will spend their time differently when in and out of a relationship. A woman might meet a man while doing a hobby/activity, and if they gel she may then choose to organise her time differently e.g. give up an evening or day at the weekend when she’d normally be alone or not go to a group every single week.
I completely agree, but the comment was in response to another poster who questioned why OP should have to consider rearranging her life around to attract a man. Hence my reply. There is no point in a relationship with someone who isn't willing to make some time with you.
@Artygirlghost
Pathetic
Good chat!