Husband just slapped me

[carbibarbie]

..... I said he was too busy pleasing himself to spend any time with us as a family. He went out in the evening twice this week and is spending all day doing his hobbies. I said he could take our 3 year old son swimming next week. He said 'no thanks, I'm busy, stop being a bitch' and I squirted baby pouch at him (we have a 1 year old) and he slapped me hard across my cheek. Our children were next door. He then said 'you deserved that'. This is the icing on the cake. He spends no time with the children and I'm just envious of those families who have lovely weekends together. I don't know what to do. I don't want to see my children 50% of the time, I will not survive that.

True. I would LTB, definitely. Had a relative just like this, and it didn't end well. However, the poster says they both want to make it work. I can't see why, but was trying to be supportive and got it wrong.

How old are your children? Do you think they can't hear you arguing and fighting? I feel sorry for them growing up in such a volatile environment, it's really not good for them.

Why squirt a baby pouch at him?

Either he or you needs to leave. You need to think what's best for the children.

I agree. Suggesting anger management for an abusive piece of shit like this is the same as suggesting couples counselling: a complete waste of time and a really terrible pointless idea. All it does is expose the victim to more abuse and actually it probably makes the outcomes even worse in terms of the abuser’s reactions

I think most people are probably more concerned with the fact he walloped his wife but crack on with the apologist crap

I think most people are probably more concerned with the fact he walloped his wife but crack on with the apologist crap

Yes that's really concerning, I only say that as I grew up in a house with constant arguing and fighting and it really affected me. I wish my parents had done something about it.

How are you @carbibarbie ?

Yes, hoping you are okay, OP.