Husband just slapped me

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..... I said he was too busy pleasing himself to spend any time with us as a family. He went out in the evening twice this week and is spending all day doing his hobbies. I said he could take our 3 year old son swimming next week. He said 'no thanks, I'm busy, stop being a bitch' and I squirted baby pouch at him (we have a 1 year old) and he slapped me hard across my cheek. Our children were next door. He then said 'you deserved that'. This is the icing on the cake. He spends no time with the children and I'm just envious of those families who have lovely weekends together. I don't know what to do. I don't want to see my children 50% of the time, I will not survive that.

Yes but you referred to it as a like for like standalone event.

I am sorry that you think I am being disingenuous. Why would I bother?

Why does anyone who does that on this website bother 🤨 That isn’t a question I can answer for you.

I very much doubt he would stick to 50/50 if he doesn't want to spend time with them now. I also highly doubt h

I am not saying she should stay with him ( I certainly wouldn't) but would not report it t o police for the reason given.

Highly doubt he would be granted 50/50 considering he's violent... posted too soon sorry!

Also.... get out. You and your kids deserve better.

Anyway all this nonsense about buns, purée and eye rolls is massively derailing so I won’t be engaging with it further. Sorry OP, I really hope you can look beyond the few that are blaming you for an assault and get yourself and the kids out of a dangerous and escalating situation

You’d be putting yourself in a very tenuous position if you just left without reporting this, how is that going to affect custody, what independent finances does OP have. I just hope she can trust the police and social services know more than someone on mumsnet.

I am simply curious why you think I am being disingenuous.

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Some shocking ignorance on this thread
anyone that actually thinks a proportionate or excusable response to a squirt of Ella’s kitchen is a hard slap in the fact needs their head examining. Until that happens probably best not to comment or “advise” on a thread of this nature where it transpires this is not the first time the person who slapped another has been rough with them.

Absolutely

I apologise for the confusion. In a physical power dynamic, I am stronger, so I think I could tolerate a minor slap, not the same if I ever retaliated, as I would be aware of the difference. I would not condone either situation.

Thankfully those responses have been massively outweighed by support but it has been eye opening that there were any really, I think I must have been naive to think no one could possibly blame anyone other than the ‘slapper’ It’s actually quite depressing.

Context clues. And/or an even passing relationship with the news. It’s extremely obvious.

Seriously, just shut up. You’ve contributed nothing of value and this is a serious thread about a serious situation. Take your nonsense somewhere else.

Don't feed the trolls people. Ignore.

God there's some tripe on this thread.

Let's support the perpetrator shall we?

It's been a great night for 'slapping someone hard in the face is bad but you squirted him with baby food and that is basically the same thing, so it's your own fault. Yay for domestic violence' crowd.

Nobody is saying the slap was a propotional responses However a quick Google would show you that throwing food at someone is assault ( remember Farage and the milkshake).We can therefore only conclude that you are wilfully ignoring this fact to suit your own narrative.

Yes

If a man squirted a baby pouch of food over a woman in an argument, MN would absolutely be slating him. No question. There was a thread here recently where the man chucked water over the woman and not one person said “aah it’s just silly, it’s just water, give him a break”. He was criticised by literally everyone for making the row physical and it was described by many as assault.

And you are conveniently ignoring the fact that if that hypothetical man's wife refused to look after her child, called her H a bitch, slapped him & told him he deserved it, she would be slated even more @SpidersAreShitheads

It's pretty depressing how few PP are aware of what Reactive Abuse is. I hope they at least bother to read @RealFeminist's links about it on page 9.

Civil battery

😂😂😂😂😂

"Yer Honour, I refuse to look after my own children, frequently shove my wife about, & just lately called her a bitch, slapped her, & told her she deserved it. But ... she squirted some baby food at me! Send her down!!!"

civil battery

someone did a quick Google.
unfortunately they didn’t check the country that the website originated from. Civil battery doesn’t exist in law in the UK.

Just stop.