Husband just slapped me

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..... I said he was too busy pleasing himself to spend any time with us as a family. He went out in the evening twice this week and is spending all day doing his hobbies. I said he could take our 3 year old son swimming next week. He said 'no thanks, I'm busy, stop being a bitch' and I squirted baby pouch at him (we have a 1 year old) and he slapped me hard across my cheek. Our children were next door. He then said 'you deserved that'. This is the icing on the cake. He spends no time with the children and I'm just envious of those families who have lovely weekends together. I don't know what to do. I don't want to see my children 50% of the time, I will not survive that.

Oh dear god.

how many times do you want to say 'asinine', dear? Fuck off.

Squirting baby food at your dh is a common assault and while not physically painful is an act designed to humiliate.
I would be wary about reporting thus exchange as both parents have committed assault and this does not look good for the wellbeing and safety of your childre

🤣 Twice dear…

A slap across the face can never be considered ‘playful’. Anyone who thinks that is out of their mind

So she should wait until the next time? There will be a next time after all.

You'd obviously not been in an abusive relationship then! The more they know it scares and upsets you, the more they do it.

Humiliation, degradation, manipulation, undermining, etc.
Jeeze, I do not condone any of these, I am simply saying that we put up with stuff that we judge to be harmless, but in other circumstances are anything but harmless... It is in the eye of the beholder, but if you have a concern then I think anyone needs to get a perspective.
In some cases a roll of the eyes can be as devastating as a punch in the stomach. Neither is in the least excusable.

You've never squirted a water pistol at a partner, or thrown a bun?

Abso-fekkin-lutely right.

OP mentioned previously her DH has been rough in the past. Enough for her to get his family involved. He also used the " you deserved it, bitch" line. If that doesn't send shivers down your spine then you bar is set very low.

No, I’ve never slapped or been slapped either…

Can you actually hear yourself??? An eye roll more devastating than a punch in the stomach? Wtaf.

You are absolutely right there. It does. And raises my concern.

You don’t work for the MET by any chance do you @alexrussell26 ?

Emotional violence is just an unacceptable as physical violence, despite any people minimising it as "not violent" was my point. I meet women who say "well, he didn't hit me" ...

the weather people?

Very worried for you OP. That slap was to put you in your place, I am afraid it will be the first of many. What kind of man slaps his wife hard across the face - a fucking abuser is who. If he gets away with it this time its a free ticket to continue the abuse.

Yes emotional violence is terrible, but read through what you are writing as it doesn’t sound like that is what you are trying to say, eye rolling is not emotional violence and it is not on a par with a punch in the stomach, your posts are confusing in the way they are written.

Obviously means the police

not obvious, don't live in London, but understand what you mean

I even googled it incase it was an incel group

Pretttttttyyy sure I'd be more devastated by a punch in the stomach than an eyeroll.

I don’t live in London and it was obvious, wide eyed and disingenuous to pretend you thought they meant the ‘Weather people’

I'm sure you would be. But if you had been sensitised to your partners disapproval without physical violence, it would be devastating.