Husband and his messages

[morningskye76]

Hello

Long time lurker.

We are WFH atm. Husband left phone in kitchen to deal with the car yesterday.

(Bit of background
Large friend group, all in relationships/married. )

He received a WhatsApp for a family friend and I opened it expecting the usual, as she contacts us both.

Turns out there is dozens of messages daily going back months.
Mostly day to day messages all ending with "xxx". Good morning/night messages daily from both. Messages full of innuendo and flirting.
One even says he thinks they are more than friends.
He compliments her and tells her everything (even things I wasn't really aware of)
Nicknames for each other (never heard/used them)
Pictures (from him not her)

I'm barely mentioned. Although they both ask about each others children.

I've questioned him about it and he says I'm over reacting.
She is 15 years younger than both of us. But they are both very similar in hobbies and interests etc.

AITA for packing his bags

Get rid of him and don't look back. His excuses are designed to make you question yourself, hence why you made this post. Everything in the post points to an emotional affair, and it is all black and white. If you weren't in this situation, you would be able to see it for what it is.

It's an emotional affair at best. It's a full blown physical affair at worst.

Either way, there will be no coming back from this as there will always be doubts in your mind as long as you are with him. He will also destroy your self-esteem by making it seem like it's your issue.

He's trying to play you like a fiddle, good riddance to him. You deserve much more than this excuse of a man.

What a cheating bastard. He says you’re being dramatic? Let’s see what her husband and your mutual friends think about these messages.

So sorry you're going through this OP. I also thought I was crazy when I discovered my H's affair with a work colleague. But his protectiveness of her and refusal ever to apologise and be accountable for how much he's hurt me is what's sabotaged any chance of us having an amicable co-parenting arrangement.

I can’t stand stories like this. What is wrong with these men? How can they be so cruel?

@Herejustforthisone it's not just Jen who have affairs. In fact in many of these affairs, both parties are married

I really wouldn't be happy about this OP. It sounds like an emotional affair. It also sounds like it's verging on becoming a physical one.

I'd be kicking him out, forwarding the messages to your friends husband and then be sending her a big FU message too

Morning, how are you doing today? Is he still staying away?

Hello all. Still here. He is still away atm. Heard nothing from the friend, although it's now common knowledge amongst friends that he's not home

Do people know the reason why? Awful for you

Thanks for the update, @morningskye76.

I hope the friends are now aware of the true reason he’s staying elsewhere. H and OW don’t deserve your protection, so I would shine a light on their double life. Above all, her H needs to know asap. It’s troubling to think of his being kept in the dark while she makes a mockery of him.

Is he happy for you to screenshot and forward all this harmless banter to the husband then? Do it.

What a mess. I hope you have a few close mates and family to support you. Xx