Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

[BelladiMamma]

New thread!

Could someone else please copy and paste the rules ...?

Thanks everyone. I have a few dates in the diary, let's see if they happen or not, people are always flaky!

I find it very hard to let go and I'm quite a forgiving person. I don't really do anger or bitterness (despite my exh nearly succeeding in doing that!).

I'd been hoping for a friendship but the comms were very difficult in the last couple of weeks. Let's see. We had a preliminary chat tonight and I can see that we might be able to stay friends.

@NoDatingForOldMen happy birthday!

Bella…how long have you been with MrD?

@BelladiMamma Thanks!
you certainly don’t let the grass grow getting those dates in already.

When NoShow & I were having a wobble, if we had actually split I don’t think I would have bothered ever dating again TBH,
Good luck with everything

@NoDatingForOldMen well it's partly because we had an open arrangement and partly because I have a wide circle of friends some of whom have been lovers in the past ... I know, I'm the dictionary definition of minx 😈 but I don't pretend to be otherwise 😁

@Mila14 just short of one year

@BelladiMamma You sound so Bohemian, I’m so conservative in comparison, with a small “c”,

Get orf my laaannd

I am and I love my life. To be fair, I was to the manor born as it were. If the glove fits ... etc then enjoy yourself wafting around in your yoga pants and sexually adventurous lifestyle 😂🤭😈 ... which I do

I've just swiped right on a real hottie on Bumble. And am talking to someone else too.

How gripping.

Funny how the 10.30pm Match contact hasn't come back in the daylight 🙄

I am so sheltered. I'd love to have lovers.

sigh

Well, nobody's as sheltered as me. 😊

I've just started talking to someone, and he seems pretty keen, but we shall see.....

Hi I've been lurking and learning loads, thank you!
Earlier in the year I ended a 7 yr OLD relationship and am now getting back on the apps... it's all feeling very new!
Have a few conversations going but they seem hard work.. am I missing something? How do you find out more about them without sending a list of questions? Tips gratefully received...

Blimey, not sure yoga pants would fit me !
I think I was born on 2 wheels, never happier than when travelling & riding ( no pun).

In a few years I’m planning to quit work , sell up, pack up and piss off around the world on a motorcycle

@Justatoe2
Short of sending someone a questionnaire, your other option is to stick with open questions “ I’m going to do Xyz at the weekend, do you have any exciting plans…”, and just wait for the answers.

Ok… I have an iron who is very vague and only messages now and again. He has just said that ‘it is difficult to find someone you can connect with so can we take time getting to know each other’. Shall I move on?

Hope it's not too late to say Happy Birthday to @NoDatingForOldMen

Just back from a five hour boozey Date1 with MrLocal which got abruptly ended with a text from his XW that one of his kids was being taken to hospital for something serious and potentially life threatening. We were 4 pints in and despite his not knowing quite what he needed to do had the most sublime kiss whilst waiting for a taxi.

There was definitely a mutual attraction and hand holding from the get go but he was out of his comfort zone as had never met an OLD woman before.

Quite a lot of Ex -files sharing which we said we wouldn't do. Also a good amount of references to 'next date'

Sad his kid is so poorly.

He was very handsome and tactile. Said I had beautiful eyes 👍

Well. Well. I’m a bit…..surprised.

Mr2Pugs and I went off out for lunch as arranged. I wasn’t feeling very confident. He went a bit quiet towards the end of the week, and I don’t know, I just had a shit couple of days. He was a lovely as ever. Nice, considerate, conversational. I had a great time. Lots of common values. Slightly surprised me with what I think (on reflection) was an attempt at a goodbye kiss (as he had to rush off and fetch his kids) which ended up in a hug because I wasn’t paying attention. I feel like such an idiot. Anyway, chatty texts this afternoon, couple of we-both-still-feel-awkward and are (in some respects) very different people and then out of the blue we are joking about sleazy sex in the back of a car. What, what!? How did that happen?! Man! I’ve told him he’s safe….for the moment and…..silence. (His kid was ill, which is totally understandable, but, timing, kid!). He apologised profusely, and I said I was worried I’d spooked him and he said there no chance of him being frightened off. Think Mr2Pugs might be warming up a bit. Talk about keeping a woman off balance, mate!

Why does that happen? You think everything is fine then bam, you reread your messages and, if you're anything like me, you over explain.

I'm sure he's heating up by the sounds of it though - and if his kids ill then his thoughts will be elsewhere 🤗

Well I had a sudden turn up for the books. Just about to go to bed and thought I'll have a look on Bumble and I'd matched with someone but then we started messaging and he was great. Very dry sense of humour. Not pushy. Just a normal nice guy. We ended up messaging for nearly an hour. It was actually fun!

The other Bumble message turned me right off when he said he's 51 no kids, no marriage because it's too much hassle. Hmmm not a promising start. Especially as I have three of my own. So, yeah, I'm being ruthless and that's going nowhere or may have already arrived there.

So, what a weird mixed week

Definitelycross

lovers are far easier to find than relationships !
It’s finding a horny 1030 texter who’s actually nice !

Oncey…success! Hopefully next date will be less hazardous. I, on the other hand, had a grand total of 2 text messages from MrF on the whole day…me thinks he’s too busy on the weekend…perhaps he’s seeing other people while I am here not even considering a second iron. The joys of OLD…no call so far this weekend and he’s not with DD, so alone??

Bella…I totally admire your attitude. I love my life too but have this obsession about having a partner. Not healthy probably but I think it would add quite a lot to my life. What I object to is this feeling of not enjoying life to the full because I don’t have a proper guy to go on holidays with and to support me when I need it…

Completely true. Lovers are dead easy to find I think

Eeky, things progressing adequately …he’s really opening up slowly. When are you seeing him again?

Sounds like things are progressing well, Mr2Pugs is warming up ,

I see that from the opposite side really, when I was in my 40’s there were no women who wanted a quick shag ( with me anyhow ) everyone wanted to get into serious relationships,
Oh how times have changed, in hindsight there was one lady I should have married in a shot..

@BelladiMamma so sorry you’re going through some horrible feelings with the break up! Take care of yourself, maybe you can stay friends.. take some time to heal 💕💕

Must be something about 40s… i’ll be 42 next Spring and I have not had ONE DATE in my 40s as yet 🙁

Thanks @ButterflyOfShay ... let's see. I hate that thing when someone disappears from your life totally so I'm waiting to see how things play out.

@Mila14 I am the opposite to you I think! I find myself thinking sometimes how much happier I am alone. If I could get a decent reliable repair man then maybe I'd have found nirvana ...! Holidays are wonderful with family and friends, but fitting a new fully grown human adult into every aspect of my life is not easy for me!