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Is this a compliment? *[content warning: concerns sexual abuse]

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Shell563 · 05/10/2022 01:16

Would you see it as a compliment if a partner said he couldn't stop himself when you were having sex?

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 14/10/2022 16:29

Shell563 · 05/10/2022 02:24

He said he just gets ""caught up in the moment "

The Rapist's Excuse

It's still rape.

Can you get away?

Nanny0gg · 14/10/2022 16:32

Shell563 · 05/10/2022 14:14

I'm sorry but I do not believe that most men don't pin down their partner. I don't. I'm not saying that every man has I've even consented to sleep with has beaten & abused me, or tied me to the bed or something, but they all have secured me in some way, there was no conversation in advance, squirming wouldn't stop it, & for one, maybe two they genuinely seems to enjoy it more when I did.

I'm certain that if an honest conversation was had with women in your life most would say men walk all over or right up the boundary line.

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This is terribly disordered thinking.

NO decent man treats any woman like that.

Can you/have you accessed counselling?

JustKittenAround · 15/10/2022 04:00

ganvough · 07/10/2022 14:35

No, that Op shouldn't be posting more graphic abuse updates to get advice. I think she's shared enough of the details that everyone has said it's abuse. No point
sharing more because posters here don't need convincing it's abuse. And she risks attention from predators online who get off on graphic rape and abuse stories, and can post on here trying to illicit more details from OP.

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just catching up here after a trip….

Thank you @ganvough You get it.

@Watchkeys My point was clear to others. I’m sad you didn’t get it, but I’m hopeful you’ll understand it now. It’s not unkind to be able to take a step back and discuss the many facets of a problem.

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