Dating Thread 233 - Being Our True Selves

[SortingItOut]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@SortingItOut if he is in touch isnt that a good thing or is it done for good with you and MrK. I was showing a friend the last few messages and photos i had exchanged with MM yesterday and its definitely hard to look at them which is how i know it would be way too soon to delete everything. Sounds backwards but i would regret it if i got rid of everything.

Im going on a tour with a trucker next week. Should be able to drive the truck too given i have the provisional license. I went with him a few months ago as i got in touch with the company who are based close to where i live about jobs. They would have an opening for me but i am too far from where they are based to get there every morning for 5am. So today things are looking up ever so slightly.

i struggle to keep up, but just joining new thread. 😊

Nonsense…I’m pestered by a 31 years old who can not accept a no. He’s in banking so unlikely to be after my money. Some guys DO love older women. Look at Macron!!

@Naimee87 …you have to go after the type of guy you like and go with what interests you. I never date outside my criteria for guys. Which has made the whole thing very very difficult as there are so very few picks.The type of guy I like is very likely to be in Feeld or whatever and probably very traditional and taken.

I have to disclose here…MrO is 12 years older than me…MrEx is my age. MrEx is handmade suits and very proper …MrO used to be properly suited and booted city man but in a different stage in life really. He’s a very cool dresser.Both care a lot about their appearance. Sex is completely different with each but my passions in life are nearer to Mr O. I still have no idea what I want but I have the kids a few days now and it’s quite full on so I’m not going to push myself into anything. I’m quite happy having MrO full attention right now and I’m not really overthinking so much about what a weird situation I’m in.

@Slothmomma It's an odd feeling when I hear from him, I've accepted its over, I asked him to try again a week after we split, he shot it down so its his loss.
I definitely think he's regretting things.
His initial message to me this time was about an in joke we had when we were together.....

@Naimee87 We haven't ended on bad terms but so much would need to change if we got back together, mainly from his side and I can't imagine he'd want to put in the work.

Some good news as well Naimee with going out in the truck and a potential job role.

@SortingItOut …it’s early days…when autumn really descends and winter….I think he will reach out for a new opportunity. However…you should go on with your search of suitable FWB regardless

@Mila14 Mr H is ten years older than me, I must admit that I never thought I'd find an older man so attractive. I find it quite exciting in a strange way . He looks after his appearance but is a bit scruffy and not my usual type.

Yikes, sounds more intense than my last job interview.

at what point is the err, “practical” test , is that stage 5 ?, if they pass that do they get the role ?

is stage 5 a written or oral exam ? 😂😂😂

Sorry, I’ll get my coat 🧥….

@lesgalettes i love old and scruffy! Totally my type! 😍@Mila14 MM was 11yrs older than me! Wouldn’t ever date a younger man… or one my own age, just don’t find them attractive. I like them fat too it seems 😂 although hair is a must and nice hands/teeth. But my dating pool feels like the size of a puddle or raindrop at the moment.

@Naimee87
so you like you fat old men with some hair , Step this right way you lucky young lady…😂

@Naimee87 totally agree with you there. Older men who have an energy and zest for life are so attractive to me now.

SortingItOut

ouch
of course he is missing you
and Of course your heart will leap to hear from him and chat

but how does it leave you feeling afterwards

no judgement by the way
it’s understandable

but probably not helping you heal

I can't really do older, I just don't fancy them. I like to go slightly younger so my pool is very small because I only have a small age range.

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow Definitely a practical😉
After Stage 5 there are 3 more stages before they're FWB, if they pass Stage 5 then they're just FB until we progress.
Of course none of the men know any of this or my full criteria list.

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow do you own a truck or have the license? If you do then this may just work out, seems you tick the other boxes 😂

Really weird how chapters can just end so abrubtly, without any warning. Guess that is the hardest thing when dealing with ghosting and being blindsided too. Unless something really did happen to him, like he is in a full bodycast in some unknown rural hospital where no one speaks italian or english and his phone got swallowed by a fish, i think safe to say hes done a monumental runner... @HowlongWillThisTakeNow hope that doesnt put you off i am a catch i promise 😂😂😂

@Naimee87 alas not, no Truck, or HGV license, or even a PSV license, but I have got a swimming certificate if that s of any interest?

Another 3 stages, sounds more difficult than a Hobbit trying to get in to Mordor ( 2nd breakfast would be mandatory for both tasks I feel)

How is it going with Mrs Show?? All ok your end?? Still looking for ladies?

@Mila14
all good so far, thanks, this weekend is our 1sr weekend away together, I’ve booked one of those Spa/ hotel places, her quote was “I’m going to shag your arse off” 😢
we live about an hour apart and she finishes later than me on a Friday, so I’m heading over to use the gym / sauna etc before the shagging begins and she kills me off ( man of my age etc)

no, looking for anyone else ( don’t think any else would have me ). So all good

I was reading all your updates about your various Mr’s , how do you keep up ?
do you put coloured stickers on them or something so know which is which?

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow …😂😂😂…it’s only 2 men. Both divine I must add. This is a really difficult decision but one will have to be dropped because this is too difficult to handle

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow if you can swim like a seahorse you got yourself a deal 😂 although sounds like you got a great weekend coming up 🤩

People have used all kinds of words to describe me, but never “divine”..

Some men are superb in many ways. Articulate, kind, elegant and ambitious… they may have darker areas but they are still a catch. That leaves me wondering many times why would they pick me…but then I never know whether I am their only choice. In this case MrEx is more likely to be trusted but I really don’t know…It’s difficult

I am 100% open to dating! If that gives me a pass to stay 🙂But there’s been no one in my orbit whatsoever 😕

😘🥰😘 xx

Wtf… you go salsa dancing you little sweetheart… that is not nice of your mumma!! Follow your heart and go for it! And tell me about it after… I love the music I think you’d have so much fun!