Online dating - absolutely fucking grim!

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It's vile isn't it? I've quit it now as it's not suitable to my personality but fuck me...

1. 90% of them are absolute rotters who send messages starting with "hey sexy..."

1. The vast majority are instagram slaves who's profile pictures are hanging off a cliff in South East Asia, jumping out of some random plane or posing with a tiger. Personally I'm happy with a bowl of pasta down the local, a few beers and a game of darts.

1. The ones who are apparently looking for a relationship but don't bother messaging you or will fizzle out after a "hello how are you"

1. Quite a few are "regulars" I've seen before with a different name to the one I've seen on a different app... 💍? These are usually the ones who say they're about to delete their profile for technical reasons. Poor cow whoever she is

1. Then there's the "rule" that even on the slight off chance you click with someone you'll have to pretty much accept they're still dating other women until they decide who they want the most. It's all a bit Pick Me 🚫😳

1. The ones who are up to their eyes in kids with the old "my kids are my world and if you don't like it you can fuck off" okay mate but maybe DON'T actually post pictures of your children on a dating site and google safeguarding

1. The six pack selfies. Just stop ✋️

1. I never knew how many people were called Simon.

1. The sleazebags. One guy was literally posing with his coat pulled open with both hands wearing a t-shirt saying "show me your twat"... another declared all the women should pick him because his cock is the same length as two argos pens 🖊 🖊

10. The group photo... where he never turns out to be the fit one 🙈

I have to laugh. I actually know quite a few decent people who met online but they were all years ago so perhaps it's all changed since covid I'm not sure. But if any of you single MNers can add to the list, feel free! I'd love to hear more!

Ive had similar
I am natural blonde ginger and one asked me what colour ny pubic hair was
Ghosted him and he was hysterical
I was a bitch how could I do this to him
Could I not take a joke
I was like nope clearly i cannot

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Grim

I think we are lucky in many ways to know the older profiles and swerve them
I think there must be a constant stream of newly single woman they can utilise for a few weeks and project their shit onto until they learn

One guy in my area has been on them for ten years (since tinder began)

I've been single for 5 years now... and I did try online dating. But my god it was awful.

Although I may go back in it for a few laughs! Argos pen man here I come 🤣

My friend went on a date after a couple of weeks of messaging, man was late, then he says to her, sorry, looks are really importnt to me, and leaves after five minutes. She is actually not bad looking at all!

Another friend - man asks ger out on a coffee and walk date. They walk around the park, then in the middle of the park he says goodbye to her and leaves. Same friend, she has a first date drinks with a man. He tells her, right in her face, that there is no chemistry and they should end the date.

Is the "rejection" either in person or on text from men a new thing by the way? I mean the accepted practice I thought should be if he is not interested he wouldn't ask her for another date. But I find sending a rejection text or rejecting someone in their face quite humiliating.

Why would a complete strangers 's comment be "humiliating"? It's just their opinion. How else would be more "humane"? Or should they lie?

The friend I mentioned usually brings up politics, conspiracy theories and animals and boxing in the pre date video call screening so I don't know what went wrong there.

That made me laugh, definitely best typo ever. I wondered why you shared your splenectomy with friends. I wondered if i should have kept my uterus (complete with huge fibroid) and gallbladder (with 200+gallstones) after they were removed and put them in a cabinet to show visitors.

That's all I have to add to the thread. I got married long before OLD was a thing. I don't know my POF from my Tinder.

@zonky Nobody says he should lie, but if she is not even pursuing him, jumping the gun is actually not needed. I feel they should stay quiet rather than say to a women's face that he doesn't walk to see her again. It is rude and unnecessary.

Are you one of those who walks away five minutes into a date?

I think being upfront is the correct way to proceed with OLD. Clear and concise. I'd expect grown, functioning adults to be able to "handle" that type of information.

It's not jumping the gun, it's managing expectations - the man doesn't need to wait for a woman to "say something" first.

I've made it it known there's no chemistry on a date yes, and if they're happy to stay and finish the drink I wouldn't mind!

The more I read the more I’m glad I’m not even going to bother. No I’m done with men.

@Always4Brenner
to be perfectly honest I think some of it is actually very frightening like asking for photos of your parts and whether you shave or not, it’s disgusting

But HE didn't fancy her.
He doesn't have to, I've sat through many dates I didn't fancy but I was more tactful. It is a waste of time when this happens.

@Kashmirsilver my point is, he can spend 45min with her and have some conversation and not text her afterwards, rather than tell her "looks are very important t to me bye" or "no chemistry bye" and walk away. It shows lack of EQ and poor manners. Maybe she didn't fancy him either, but to jump the gun and say it is rude and unnecessary.

Of course to each his own, if this is the norm of behaviour then I am glad I am not single.

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OP you've said it all I couldn't agree more! I made a couple of guy friends from it, had a little thing with one other guy, but as for the rest, erm lol just no 🤦‍♀️

Agreed this is shocking behaviour.

I partially agree but the world is full of different people. I once canceled a great night to go on a date. However, I was annoyed she'd quite obviously not presented herself truthfully.

To cap it off I got food poisoning too.🤣🤣

Digging: this sounded like the guy was actually a fox. Foxes bury stashes of food around their territory, so a typical first date for mating foxes might be digging up food together.

I don't need doors opening for me. How about this for my profile: "You can go through the door first, but I'll kick you up the arse as I follow you." Wonder how that would be received.

Loving the typos on this thread - digging and splenectomy are classics

To be fair, my experience of OLD has been ok so far. Apart from the fact they’re all called Ian or Glenn, there’s quite a few I don’t IMMEDIATELY swipe away from, I will check out their photos, read their bios, check their smoking status and whether they want more DCs or not, so they’re not all a total write off.

Have had a few nice dates, one very nice but didn’t take kindly to being told I wasn’t quite in the same place as him after one date! One I’ve sort of friend zoned but we have nice chats and meals out every few weeks and I’ve just matched with a proper hotty who’s a school dad from my DC’s primary days . He’s a bit out of my league so I’m not sure if we’re going on an actual date or just a catch up about the kids, but I’m glad I didn’t give up on OLD just yet!

You’ve just got to have a sense of humour about it all I think, as frustrating as it is when chats just fizzle out or someone disappears. If it was meant to be, they’d make a fucking effort. If they don’t, their loss. And I say that as an overweight nearly 50 year old. I deserve someone lovely and I’ll keep ploughing through the Glenns until I find him!

Has he not contacted you?

They don’t bother contacting people that is way too polite.

I went on one online date.

Him: You’re not blonde!!!
Me: I know, it says so in my profile.
H: You’re skinny!!!
M: I know, it says “slender” in my profile.
H: You’re like 50!!!
Me: I know, it says so in my profile.

That arsehole just looked at my photo, chatted for a bit and decided to meet up based on my looks. I don’t know why I was surprised.
Never. Again.

I've just deleted my profile as it is actually draining in many ways. Having the se initial conversation over and over again...only to be ghosted a few days later. Or some men have no intention of meeting. They chat with you everyday asking how your day went and what not, which is lovely on the surface but not if you have no intention of asking me out on a date...they never do. One guy said he was keen to meet, said good morning to me one day, I replied and then he vanished.

I read somewhere on twitter that it makes you see people like menu items and I could see myself going down that route. So that's me done I think. Hopefully I'll meet someone in real life that way you know if the initial spark is there or not.

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