Online dating - absolutely fucking grim!

[SwissRole123]

It's vile isn't it? I've quit it now as it's not suitable to my personality but fuck me...

1. 90% of them are absolute rotters who send messages starting with "hey sexy..."

1. The vast majority are instagram slaves who's profile pictures are hanging off a cliff in South East Asia, jumping out of some random plane or posing with a tiger. Personally I'm happy with a bowl of pasta down the local, a few beers and a game of darts.

1. The ones who are apparently looking for a relationship but don't bother messaging you or will fizzle out after a "hello how are you"

1. Quite a few are "regulars" I've seen before with a different name to the one I've seen on a different app... 💍? These are usually the ones who say they're about to delete their profile for technical reasons. Poor cow whoever she is

1. Then there's the "rule" that even on the slight off chance you click with someone you'll have to pretty much accept they're still dating other women until they decide who they want the most. It's all a bit Pick Me 🚫😳

1. The ones who are up to their eyes in kids with the old "my kids are my world and if you don't like it you can fuck off" okay mate but maybe DON'T actually post pictures of your children on a dating site and google safeguarding

1. The six pack selfies. Just stop ✋️

1. I never knew how many people were called Simon.

1. The sleazebags. One guy was literally posing with his coat pulled open with both hands wearing a t-shirt saying "show me your twat"... another declared all the women should pick him because his cock is the same length as two argos pens 🖊 🖊

10. The group photo... where he never turns out to be the fit one 🙈

I have to laugh. I actually know quite a few decent people who met online but they were all years ago so perhaps it's all changed since covid I'm not sure. But if any of you single MNers can add to the list, feel free! I'd love to hear more!

Could not agree more OP!

Totally grim.

Too many Jims and Ians on mine (names of exes)
If someone sounds half sane it turns out they live the other end of the UK
Men who write maybe three words - why?!
Men who describe themselves as a used car - plenty of miles left, under the bonnet blah blah blah, does that ever work?
Very rarely I match and they don't seem to be able to do some very basic back and forth. Or ghost. Charming.

But then I met someone irl recently who it turns out is another emotional car crash of a bloke.

Don't want to be single forever, but bloody hell, it's looking more likely!

No.9 ..sounds a right catch 😂

I matched with someone I vaguely know through work today (he’d swiped right first). Sent him a message - he didn’t even reply, just unmatched me! 😳

Probably because of the work connection though surely?

@Antarcticant
how Lovely to be young enough to be unaware of that song - i think it was DLT back in the day loved it so much it was probably down to his relentless plugging it became a ‘hit’ 😭wonder what Rupert is up to these days after that peak

Given that the song is about a married man who agrees to meet another woman after placing an advert in the personal columns, only (spoiler alert) to find that she is his own wife, it isn't a line I'd be quoting on OLD.

Thanks for this - I had no idea! at least it makes sense now why I've seen it so much

We don’t work together or anything, more just move in similar circles and very occasionally end up at the same meeting (like twice in 5 years!) so have some mutual work friends. If it was an issue surely he shouldn’t have swiped right in the first place though?
Could at least have replied to say something along the lines of oops, that was an accidental like, sorry!

@SwissRole123 i had one a few years back who wanted to go for a walk in the middle of nowhere on our first date. I wasn’t keen even though I love walking. I said I would prefer a coffee for a first meet up. He replied saying he wasn’t ok with that and re sent the link to the walk. I ignored it. A day later I had a message saying he was ‘considering my offer of a coffee.’

we didn’t ever meet.

Do any of you ever 'report' men OLD? If so what has been your expierence?

I just want a boyfriend and I'm absolutely terrified about online dating. I just don't want it. But it seems at my age and with 2 kids in tow theirs not much hope. I'm 34 but nice guys within 10years older or 5 years below are taken. All that's left in my age are the pot heads and the narcissists

On our group chat the other week one of my single friends messaged something like "Any of you out? We've had one drink and he's a brexiteer. I do not need a partner who believes in magic beans so about to bow out."

😂

No I’m making right decision no boring rockers smokers drinkers ( live in pubs) crap at sex sport won’t exist in my home ever now no I’ll stay single thanks when I’m divorced.

I loved this mistype 😂

Oops, this one

😂😂😂

But only if I had stockings on!! That fish went back in the pond....

Similar to a hand job but with, well you get the idea…

I was picturing someone wanking a foot

I would say don’t even bother with online, if you can get out there. Go to gigs whatever you enjoy. I’ve been doing that, I haven’t met anyone but you do get chatting to people and you could click. I’m ok being single, I have a child so my life is quite full but my experience of OLD has been shocking to the point of just seeing the app on my phone would make me feel icky I removed it.

I think when online dating first became popular and wasn’t considered to be sad anymore there were more genuine people. The most recent time I tried it was just awful.

I have seen men that I know on there at least 3 of them that do have a partner. Don’t know how they get away with it.

And the ones who post photos of their car?? 😂

To be fair, I wouldn’t want to date Brexiteers or Tories, so I don’t think it’s a bad idea to get that out there before wasting both our time.

In my area I would say I have seen fairly sinilar amount 4/5
Also similar amount of woman I know who have met a guy on the app and six months later he is still on it... one was on Hinge which only shows users who have been active fairly recently. He was on as 'newly joined' told her it was a mistake and he deleted app. She married him

She married him?! There is just no hope for some people, red flags like that and you run.

I join on and off as I get sick of it but nearly all the men are still there three years later with active profiles. They would probably say the same about me but having chatted to a few of them their expectations of who they will meet are very unrealistic. One guy revoltingly asked me if I shave down below and if not the chat won't proceed, he is an exceedingly average guy himself who is a friend of a friend who says he's a nice guy! On the dating app he's extremely entitled and unpleasant.