Online dating - absolutely fucking grim!

[SwissRole123]

It's vile isn't it? I've quit it now as it's not suitable to my personality but fuck me...

1. 90% of them are absolute rotters who send messages starting with "hey sexy..."

1. The vast majority are instagram slaves who's profile pictures are hanging off a cliff in South East Asia, jumping out of some random plane or posing with a tiger. Personally I'm happy with a bowl of pasta down the local, a few beers and a game of darts.

1. The ones who are apparently looking for a relationship but don't bother messaging you or will fizzle out after a "hello how are you"

1. Quite a few are "regulars" I've seen before with a different name to the one I've seen on a different app... 💍? These are usually the ones who say they're about to delete their profile for technical reasons. Poor cow whoever she is

1. Then there's the "rule" that even on the slight off chance you click with someone you'll have to pretty much accept they're still dating other women until they decide who they want the most. It's all a bit Pick Me 🚫😳

1. The ones who are up to their eyes in kids with the old "my kids are my world and if you don't like it you can fuck off" okay mate but maybe DON'T actually post pictures of your children on a dating site and google safeguarding

1. The six pack selfies. Just stop ✋️

1. I never knew how many people were called Simon.

1. The sleazebags. One guy was literally posing with his coat pulled open with both hands wearing a t-shirt saying "show me your twat"... another declared all the women should pick him because his cock is the same length as two argos pens 🖊 🖊

10. The group photo... where he never turns out to be the fit one 🙈

I have to laugh. I actually know quite a few decent people who met online but they were all years ago so perhaps it's all changed since covid I'm not sure. But if any of you single MNers can add to the list, feel free! I'd love to hear more!

No dates ever for me from now my books films posters will keep me going. I’m totally done with men. I don’t drink hate pubs most entertainment I’m not into. No I’ll skip thanks.

I agree that online dating is a fucking shit tip and most of the men are on there because no women want them in real life

So so much moaning. Psycho ex, work doesn't appreciate me, it's so expensive here (their choice, we're going 50/50). Some really poorly socialised, entitled men.

@FlosCampi the main wierd ones are the filters , all just group photos, the load that are either face pics or over head shots that never show the rest of your body. Or if they all look like they got ripped off someone's Instagram account.

Basically if you set of pictures looks like a bot scraped them together for an account, they are heavily doctored or potentially a bloke.

The tattoo and gym ones are fine imo, they show your personality and determination.

Some dim guy needs two for joined up writing. One for the letters, one for the joins.

loads of WOMEN have that quote on their profile. That's what they are asking for

I have laughed, out loud, quite a few times on this thread. I tried OLD, on March, for 3 months. I chatted with several Simons. Until 20 minutes ago, I thought it was just me.

I met for coffee with one chap. We agreed to go for a dog walk, to a coffee place. Nice and public and I don’t have the bravest of dogs either. He was very rude about my dogs and thought that they would be more like Golden Retrievers, so ended the date. Excellent. That saved me getting a coffee, putting up with him - he looked nothing like his pic at all. I had told him that my dogs were not Goldies. I have Greyhounds. He knew this and a quick Google might have prepared him for the trauma of them being nothing like a goldie.

The reason that I stayed on match for 3 months is I couldn’t work out how to cancel it. A friend signed me up, paid for, and used pics from days out etc, and put me on E-Harmony. Nope, nope and thrice nope. It cost her quite a lot, I was unimpressed and more than a smidge cross.

I met a chap, while out on my bike. We met up a few times and are now officially together. He tried OLD and said that I was the first ‘normal’ looking woman he had met for ages. I am pretty sure it’s a minefield both ways.

Dogging though! Never was I asked to do that and I did get a few odd requests. A barrage of dick-pics too. I used to message back a picture of a naked mole rat and say ‘snap’ or ‘separated at birth’, then blocked.

It’s just soul destroying but I gave my mates a laugh in the process. I think I had about 24 dates, yes I counted 😂 before I met my partner so it was worth it in the end but my god did I meet some strange men 😂

I'm probably older than a lot of previous posters and have once again dipped my toe into OLD after then of my LTR. I'm pretty blase about it this time around and have had quite a few matches and a few dates already. I haven't come across all the creeps and dick pics last time I did Tinder etc.

I had a decent date last Thursday, we'll see if that amounts to anything, but I've changed my tack, meet as soon as possible. Unless anyone is dreadful (though there are a lot of those!) I'll look at all the pics and read their blurb and I'll take a punt on some of them. My friend nearly baled on a date she had arranged in July as his pics weren't very nice, I persuaded her to go along and they've been a couple ever since!

The guy I saw Thursday said the female offerings were as bad as the male. He said loads of women had pics with their kids, were pictured with or astride horses and there were loads of filters. So I guess it all works both ways.

The one line that so many people use and bugs me, along with 'partner in crime' is 'love night in and nights out' I mean, is there any other kind of night??

Yea thats true, that and the one about teeth and hair. Wanting to see your pets more than you, your height (although some of the profiles make it sound like they included it because guys asked or have it on theirs), political party or view is a thing now and including the Myers-Briggs personality thing as well.

And people constantly want to be on holiday.

Yes yes yes to the moaning! One guy just wanted to moan at me every night.

It's no better with the women on there.

I honestly had no idea how many women in their 30s and 40s don't drive. It seems about half of them on there. Quite often for no particular reason, ones that spend plenty on holidays/clothes/hair but just don't drive. The expectation is always the same, you will pick them up and drop them off every time you see them. Unless they live close by, 4 trips to their house every time you see them becomes a chore and very time consuming very fast. When asked, they usually boast that they have made it to 40 without driving so have no intention of starting now. Imagine a man boasting that he had made it to 40 without learning to use a washing machine and had no intention of learning. Would you find that attractive? If you ever suggest meeting somewhere, you just get "how will I get there?" putting the ball back in your court

If their occupation is something 'funny' like spy or hitman then they don't work and live on benefits. If it says 'ask me' it usually means they don't work but are thinking about doing a college course. Not now of course, in the future.

Or they put their last job. Occupation: barmaid. So how's being a barmaid? Oh I haven't worked for 7 years????

And I never knew you could live just on benefits but describe yourself as independent!

And finally, women using all sorts of camera tricks and shots to hide the fact that they are twice the size as advertised.

I recently got back from America and went on tinder there out of curiosity. It’s just as bad if not worse and instead of the fish photos it’s holding guns 😂

Im exhausted with online dating on a general note. Once you sift though and actually get a decent conversation and meet up you then there’s a 50% chance of being ghosted/breadcrumbed/shelved. I really just want it to go back to meeting people in real life again but when on nights out people don’t talk to each other like they used to.

Sounds like there could be a market for somebody to set up some kind of non-cringey full time speed dating bar, in major cities at least.

@IrishladyNE
’id rather shit in my hands and clap’ 😭😭😭
I cannot wait to use that one - brilliant 😭😭😭

I hope someone has told him to save the money he spends cheating on a vasectomy!

I think once you are out of your 20’s then it’s poor and once past 40, my god it’s hideous. Saying that other than sex and raising children, I’m not sure what men and women have in common.

Apparently, Kenny my lad, it is to lure you to paradise.

Bon voyage, and good luck mate.

@gemsgv

I reckon you'd get 1 in 10 women on 'online dating' like you describe, but 9 out of 10 men who are entitled, boring, balding, middle aged oiks, who think they're hilarious and clever, who have more hair on their back than their head, and who can't keep it up for more than 15 seconds.

They also think it's 'equal rights' to pay half each on dates, but don't like 'equal rights' when it comes to housework and childcare, and general domestic drudgery. That's wimmins work. SHE can do all that, SHE can look after the kids and do all the housework and shopping and washing and cooking, but SHE can also go out to work and earn money too, coz I am not keeping her. Equal rights and all that.

These same tight arse 'men' are usually shit in the sack too, and think that women love nothing more than hearing about their boring hobby of fishing/cycling/golf/footie/computers yada yada yada yawwwwwwwwwwwn...

As I said, thank FUCK I am married. Imagine having to try and go on OLD now with the vile examples of men there are on there. My heart goes out to unattached women who have to sift through the shit on there for the tiny fraction of OK-ish men...

P.S. I don't think I know a single woman in her 30s or 40s who can't drive. I think you're making that bit up and quite a lot more of what you have written sounds fictional too.......

@Candleabra Hmmm.....kind of makes me think that the women they're aiming for as those who don't have children. Women who are younger, who they think have fewer responsibilities and that will always be available to them.....the flexibility of which great for the Dad maybe, but he makes it VERY CLEAR that she won't be able to expect this in return.

If he's willing to date mums.....why would he need to even state that his kids are his world on his profile?? It's like, yeah, duh, of course they're your world!! Why is why it's making me think these guys are after young women with no children.

Which is why*

I think its just one of those weird things some people do to be honest as its on both male and female ones. To me it sounds more like an open excuse to mess you around and play silly buggers and then go "oh well I have a kid"

The trout pout is clearly to attract all the men who post fish pics.

Why do so many say "If you like Pina coladas and getting caught in the rain"
Makes me cringe. But where did they all get the idea to do the same thing, and are there any women who would like this??

Heard that one before XD