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Original poster

How do I get lodger to leave

170 replies

Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 13:00

Lodger doesn’t have a written agreement. been here 1.6 years.

His behaviour has got worse recently and I’m sick of it. I’m not happy in my own home. So I asked him to leave.

There was an incident which I was waiting for.

i don’t think he realises he has to move.

so I’m going to follow up with a what’s app message.

any tips or anything? I don’t want to get into a dialogue.

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mumof1or2 · 20/08/2022 13:01

In the message you send via WhatsApp make it really clear the day and time he needs to leave by so there is no room for confusion.

Aquamarine1029 · 20/08/2022 13:01

Tell him he is out by 5pm today or you are calling the police.

Original poster
Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 13:02

Ok.

so is it ok to give him 4 weeks

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Original poster
Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 13:03

Aquamarine1029 · 20/08/2022 13:01

Tell him he is out by 5pm today or you are calling the police.

I would love that…. But I can’t be a c u next Tuesday.

part of it is me not saying stuff at the time.

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Aquamarine1029 · 20/08/2022 13:03

Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 13:02

Ok.

so is it ok to give him 4 weeks

Four weeks?! I wouldn't give him four days.

Justmuddlingalong · 20/08/2022 13:03

Sounds more than generous.

Beachsidesunset · 20/08/2022 13:05

How frequently does he pay rent?

ArtOfTheImpossible · 20/08/2022 13:05

Aquamarine1029 · 20/08/2022 13:03

Four weeks?! I wouldn't give him four days.

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This. At most end of the weekend. After that, his stuff goes outside, change the locks. If he kicks off call the Police. In fact, could give the Police a heads up in advance if you're worried that's likely.

Aquamarine1029 · 20/08/2022 13:05

How does telling someone to leave due to their bad in your home make you a cunt? Letting them stay makes you a doormat.

Aquamarine1029 · 20/08/2022 13:06

*their bad behaviour

Delphigirl · 20/08/2022 13:06

14 days is more than adequate

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 20/08/2022 13:06

What was the incident?

are you scared of him?

does he owe you any money?

how often does he pay?

SusanPill · 20/08/2022 13:07

What sort of incident?

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 20/08/2022 13:08

When did you tell him he needed to leave & by when? Did you 'hint' or suggest or were you very clear?

RainingYetAgain · 20/08/2022 13:08

I would remind him that you asked him to leave verbally on Xday Nth August at 13.45 or whenever. Give 1 week to move out.
Then change the locks.

NighghtmareNeighbour · 20/08/2022 13:09

Are you the op that posted recently about your lodger blaming you for his date not wanting to see him again? If so I’d be more inclined to go with Aquamarines suggestion than giving him 4 weeks. He sounded like he could get nasty.

tribpot · 20/08/2022 13:10

It looks as if the exact procedure depends on how he lodges, i.e. does he have basic protection. (I would assume not).

Unless you do have safety concerns, I think you should give reasonable notice to quit, which is normally the rental interval, so if he pays monthly 1 month or if he pays weekly 1 week. I would do it in writing, as a letter, even if you WhatsApp the PDF to him so you have proof the message was received.

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Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 13:17

NighghtmareNeighbour · 20/08/2022 13:09

Are you the op that posted recently about your lodger blaming you for his date not wanting to see him again? If so I’d be more inclined to go with Aquamarines suggestion than giving him 4 weeks. He sounded like he could get nasty.

No.

he said I should give him 24 hours notice to move his bike so I should paint the fence. Wasn’t like he was busy that day (which I could understand).

he also wouldn’t let the plumber come in to do his radiator when he was away.

and then refused when I gave him 3 days to put his desk up in his room, but an hour later sent me a pic

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Original poster
Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 13:18

tribpot · 20/08/2022 13:10

It looks as if the exact procedure depends on how he lodges, i.e. does he have basic protection. (I would assume not).

Unless you do have safety concerns, I think you should give reasonable notice to quit, which is normally the rental interval, so if he pays monthly 1 month or if he pays weekly 1 week. I would do it in writing, as a letter, even if you WhatsApp the PDF to him so you have proof the message was received.

There is no agreement

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Aquamarine1029 · 20/08/2022 13:19

If you're feeling generous, give him 24 hours. Then out he goes.

maeveiscurious · 20/08/2022 13:21

I think a week, next Saturday and make sure you have friends around on the day

tribpot · 20/08/2022 13:21

I realise there is no agreement. For the lodger to have basic protection, he would need to not share any living space with you inside the property (so living in a granny flat or similar, it's in your property but has its own kitchen, bathroom, living room).

Unicorn717 · 20/08/2022 13:22

Just give him a time and a date and tell him he needs to go. 4 weeks is probably too long but whatever you think is best.

yonce · 20/08/2022 13:23

@Poomamabear well they're on mumsnet too - I remember the bike and shed paint thread 😂 they might see this and up sticks and leave!

minticecreamisjustok · 20/08/2022 13:23

If you feel unsafe then ask him to leave immediately.

If it's just general unhappiness, I would say, you no longer require a lodger and want your home back, as there is no written agreement you give him two weeks to find another room to rent, or find a relative to move in with.

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